Channeling Erik®
  • Mental illness
  • November12th2015


    Today, I’m trying to finish my work at warp speed because my sister, Laura, and her hubby, Jim are on their way over from Little Rock, Arkansas with their adorable dog, Gracie. Tomorrow bright and early we plan on driving to Castroville, TX to go camping together. The facilities are apparently very nice: hot tub, spa, restaurant, etc. Does that even count as true camping? Probably not. I just can’t wait to hang around the campfire together! I’ll try to make a vlog out of it, but no one in my family likes to be filmed, so it might be a challenge. 

    Before we get to Part Two of the series on anxiety, watch this cute video of Jamie and her assistant, Amy, as they explain how to use Erik’s talking board or “eBoard.” As usual, Erik gives them a run for their money!

    Now for Part Two:

    Me: What about panic attacks? What can you do if you’re about to have a panic attack? What would you tell a person to do?

    Erik: Get out. Remove yourself. If it’s already escalating, it’s gone too far. You gotta go, “You know what? I gotta step outside.”

    Kate (chuckling): My favorite thing to do is go sit on a toilet.

    I chuckle back.

    Kate: That’s my favorite grounding technique because you’re sitting on porcelain and [it’s plumbed] to the ground. It’s a hardcore grounding technique, so even if you’re in a high rise, if you sit on a toilet, you’re connected to the ground.

    Me: Interesting. That makes sense.

    Or is it overshare?

    Kate: Putting yourself in a stall gives you some physical boundaries, too.

    Me: Oh yeah.

    Erik: Tell little kids to do that. If there are little kids who cry a lot, if you have a kid that’s a crybaby—

    Kate: He’s teasing me because that’s what it said on my report card from kindergarten until about grade four. On every report card, it said, “She cries a lot.”

    Me: Aw.

    Kate (Laughing): Yeah, I was a little crybaby.

    Erik: If you have a child who’s a crybaby, talk to the teacher and say, “We’re teaching this kid how to cope with his or her sensitivity and anxiety, and what we’re saying is, ‘When you start to feel like that, you need to go to the bathroom.’ So teacher, I need you to help us with this. If our kid asks to go to the bathroom, please let them. We’re trying to empower our child.”

    Me: Any other techniques?

    Erik (laughing): What? You want more?

    Me: Yeah. Any thought techniques? Anything else that would help?

    Erik: This anxiety, the way to recognize it is your thoughts are spinning out of control so when you’re right on the cusp of an anxiety attack, it’s really difficult to gain control of your thoughts. You’re just stuck in the moment, you know?

    Me: But you might be at a meeting giving a big presentation. You can’t just go, “Excuse me. I have to go to the toilet.” So what other exercises or visualizations or, well, anything could keep it from—

    Erik: Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Take a big breath in, and push your heels down into the ground. For women, if you’re prone to anxiety attacks, wear flats. Wear flats for your meeting.

    Me: Oh.

    Erik: Cuz when you push your heels into the ground, you’ll feel more stable.

    Me: Okay. Anything else on panic attacks? I also want to talk about social anxiety.

    Erik: Be mindful of how tight your clothing is. It depends on where you are. If you’re a gym teacher, wear snug things that hug you. That can have a calming effect. But if you’re a businessperson and the waistband of your pants is cutting in or your shoes hurt or your jacket is too tight in the back, that’s going to ramp [the anxiety] up. So make sure you’re wearing comfortable clothes.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: And make sure you look good! If you’re going to do a presentation, you make sure you look really good. Wear your best suit. Plan ahead. For presentations, you just practice it. There are famous comedians—and I’m not going to out them—that have panic attacks and throw up right before they’d go on stage. They’d black out, but they’d practice their routine so much that they could black out, go on stage and still pull it off.

    Me: Amazing. So what about social anxiety? When some people are at a party or in a big crowd, they just have so much anxiety. What can you tell them that might be helpful techniques?

    Erik: First you have to understand that you don’t have to conform to other people’s expectations of where you should be. If what you need to do is be a wallflower at a party or social gathering, just give yourself permission to be one. Pat yourself on the back that you went.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. It’s better to go and give yourself permission to be a wallflower and drink some water or go with a friend. Talk to someone ahead of time so you know you have a buddy to hang out there with. If it’s going to give you anxiety to talk to a plant in the corner, then take someone with you. Plan ahead. Plan ahead.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: There’s no shame in that. A lot of people have social anxiety. If you have to go to a work thing, tell a coworker, “I actually have kind of a tough time with big crowds. I really don’t like these sorts of things. Can we hang out for part of it? I’m not going to want to go otherwise.” You can word it in a way that makes it sound cool.

    Me: Any visualization techniques?

    Erik: Sucking it in, standing up straight, putting your elbows out—that’s like asking for physical space. It also changes the energy that people give you especially if your super sensitive. So if you’re standing up straight, you’ve got your elbows out and you’re breathing long, slow breaths and pushing your heels into the ground, you’re giving other people different visual cues. They’re going to give you more energy of respect, more energy of interest.

    Me: Mm hm. Okay, interesting. That makes sense.

    Erik: Rather than—

    (Long pause)

    Kate: Sorry, can you say that again, Erik?

    Erik: No, she’s got it.

    Kate laughs.

    Erik: Move on.

    Me: All right. Well, I know we don’t have very much time left, and I know you wanted to talk about suicidal ideation. What do you want to tell me?

    Kate: What were you going to say about that, Erik?

    Erik: Okay, what I really wanted to say was that there are so many people who find CE who are worried that something bad has happened to their kid because—

    Me: Channeling Erik?

    Erik: Yeah.

    Me: Okay. Got it.

    Erik: People who find the blog. I just want to reiterate—I’ve said this before. I’ve said this a million times—nothing bad has happened to anybody’s friend, anybody’s brother or sister or anybody’s kid. Anxiety that really gets out of control, a lot of suicidal thoughts are a result of people feeling like their life is completely beyond their control. I really want them to try to hang on through that feeling of not being in control because sometimes it’s just a period of time that you just have to get through. You’re not necessarily going to know what your life path is until you live through it.

    Kate: Does this make sense, Elisa?

    Me: Yeah.

    Kate: Okay.

    Me: Are you talking to a specific person?

    Erik: Yeah, yeah. I’m talking to a specific person.

    Me: Okay. What else about that?

    Erik: There are two different kinds. Some people came in with a life plan to end their own life, and with some people, that’s not part of their life plan and never was. It’s a super extreme, out of control symptom of all we’ve been talking about—all of the anxieties. Ask for help.

    Kate: When I was Erik’s age, I went through a suicidal period, which was related to a lot of this stuff. So I can understand. I can understand what he’s saying.

    Me: Sure, and you lived through that. You hung on.

    Kate: Yeah, absolutely. And there’s no way that I could have known how good my life was going to become.

    Me: I know.

    Kate: It was like that period of time was the absolutely worst period of my life so you can survive it. Hang on.

    Me: Yeah. Wise words. All right, well I guess that’s all the time we have. Erik, thank you so much. Kate, thank you so much. How do you like working with Kate, Erik?

    Kate (Laughing hard): He likes that I have really big boobs!

    Me: Oh, of course he does!

    We both laugh. That Erik!

    Erik: No, Kate is a little too mature for me sometimes.

    Kate laughs.

    Me: Uh oh! That’s funny.

    Erik: She’s got a secret dirty sense of humor.

    Me: Oh, okay. Just like me!

    Erik: Yours is not so secret anymore, Mom.

    Me: Well that’s true. Yours definitely isn’t Erik!


  • November10th2015


    I just finished putting together the vlog of the Channeling Erik Weekend, and it looks good. I’ll post it on Wednesday! Here’s more magic from Kate Sitka!

    Me: Okay, let’s talk about anxiety including panic attacks and social anxiety. I don’t know if we can just group these all as one thing or focus on the latter two separately. Walk me through anxiety in general.

    Kate: He’s showing me this person whose energy field is bleeding out into the world.

    Erik: They have difficulty finding boundaries with what’s going on out there and how much it’s affecting you. If you visualize that person and then you’ve got that line of the aural field, the outline is poorly defined, and you get an atmosphere that’s getting thinner and thinner as you get further out. People are putting their feelers out into the world, and they’re really sensitive to the feedback.

    Kate: It’s so interesting that you should ask that because when I was a teenager, I struggled with that enormously. I had to get a doctor’s note to get out of assemblies—mass gatherings and that kind of thing. It would trigger panic attacks.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: That’s totally the problem. You had to learn how to protect yourself and define your energetic boundaries. Anxiety can lead into OCD, which can get you into the habit of worrying about what other people think or those negative coping mechanisms, you know, the repetitive habits. But having it start with anxiety—and there are a lot of reasons people can have poor boundaries. A lot of times it starts with how you grew up in this life. The really intense anxiety issues in this life are reinforced by life contracts, coming in with difficult parents, challenging environments when you grew up and not really feeling safe as a kid and having to be hyper alert—especially when you have to be hyper-alert to the emotional moods of others in the house, even more so if there’s violence. Where it gets really bad, especially when there’s violence in the home so that the anxiety peeks to the point of terror, those are the first people that are going to self-medicate. They’re way more likely to develop dependencies on drugs and alcohol because that’s the only way they can dampen down the feeling of terror that’s living in their body. It’s really hard work to deal with that stuff.

    Me: Yeah. So do some spirits purposely come in with a contract to or set themselves up to develop anxiety, to put themselves into an environment that produces terror or hypervigilance?

    Erik: Anxiety is not the goal. Anxiety is a symptom. It’s sometimes a side effect of the contract. Some spirits are really tough in the afterlife, and they sign up for really difficult lives.

    Kate: He’s pointing to you. He’s indicating that you’re one of the super tough ones.

    I don’t know about that!

    Me: Yeah, my childhood was just brutal. But I think I came in [to that childhood} partly because I wanted to learn how to be assertive and more compassionate. On the other side, I grew up with a lot of anxiety. I don’t have any more to speak of, but yeah, that totally makes sense.

    Erik: The point isn’t the anxiety symptoms. That’s the side effect. The point is to heal. The point is to get stronger so you can help others. You can help others get over their anxiety and heal themselves.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: The point is never the suffering. The suffering is the side effect and sometimes part of the journey.

    Me: Well, that’s good. How can people learn to protect their energetic boundaries?

    Erik: Suck it in!

    Kate laughs.

    Me: Suck it in!

    Kate: He did this tensing of his abs.

    Erik: For people that can’t see—

    Kate: He’s speaking specifically to someone. There’s someone blind who’s going to come across this.

    Me: Oh!

    Kate: It’s someone who’s almost completely blind. I’m not sure if there’s a walking aid or something, but there’s a lot of anxiety in his life.

    Erik: If you don’t have the vision and visual techniques aren’t going to work, feel hard. Feeling like you’ve got a diamond shell or spikes or something, feeling like your protected, putting your elbows out, standing up straight, and even lowering your voice will help. Practice these things at home. Practice those postures that make you feel stronger like using your voice in a stronger way. Then you’re establishing boundaries. You’re asserting yourself just like you said, Mom. For the people that can see, visualizing things are really helpful: visualizing a bubble—

    Kate: He’s tapping into the techniques that I would use. I’d visualize that I was wearing golden armor, and I had a shield and a sword. I was literally energetically arming myself when I was going in and dealing with difficult people.

    Erik: Yeah, visualizing armament can help a lot. Also ask for help. Fortify yourself with supportive people. You can get tired when you’re doing it all by yourself. You can replenish your energy by commiserating with friends. Sometimes there’s nothing better than sitting down and having a bitch session with your friends. You feel supportive. You have someone saying, “Yeah, man. I really feel you.” And then that person might be thinking about you throughout the day and lending you their energy. They can help in that way. And never forget you have those on the other side you can ask for help from. Ask them for help ten times a day if you need to. You can say, “I want you guys on full force all day because I need that support.” You watch. It’ll help. Pay attention to your body. Pay attention to the little things before it starts to explode into really big anxiety things. If the early signs are heartburn, if the early signs are a faster heartbeat, learn to pay attention to your body, and learn how to breathe deeply. Some guys like to go to the gym and punch a punching bag. That can make them feel more in control and feel stronger. It helps them get out their anxiety so that they can relax and go to work pumped up and feeling powerful.


    Stay tuned for Part Two tomorrow! 

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    Here’s another review for Erik’s book: 

    This book taught me a lot of life lessons, things anyone and everyone could learn something from. I can’t tell you what you’ll understand from reading this book, but I can share what I gained by reading it. It is the most intimate view of a family struck with grief now loving and communicating in a brand new way. I cried, I laughed, I smiled and I had a lot of “ah hah” moments and a lot of yes yes yes ‘happy dance of joy’ moments. I no longer fear death, but the coolest thing is that I no longer fear LIFE either. Chaos to Peace. I fretted over writing a review because I lack the words to describe the mountains I climbed emotionally and the freedom I felt inside while reading this book. I wanted to think of myself and how to apply these things to my own life so that I can have the ‘peace’ on earth that Erik has found in heaven. I wanted to thank you Medhus family for the intimate relationships that you have and so willingly share so that I too can be intimate within my own relationships. Understanding the concept of love is not an easy understanding to have, but applying the concepts willingly gives us the ability to become the best of ourselves here now. That’s what this book is to me, this book is a book about the greatest of the greatest loves in life. Loving the people and relationships (Family, Friends, Lovers, Children, Strangers) who give us the information we seek in life and only understand in death. Here we are given an opportunity to understand in life what Erik (and so many others) struggle(d) so deeply with….this book is about more than just a dead guy with a story, this is a love story. Erik Medhus gave me an understanding of…the very things I was drowning in…misunderstood concepts of what love IS. He gave me back my life and desire to participate fully within it. He gave me a “PEACE” of heaven on earth. Thank you Erik for sharing your story, yourself, your family and your love. To the entire Medhus Family thank you for sharing your story from a big perspective. Elisa thank you for sharing yourself, your perspective, your grief and your love…you amaze me. I Love this book so much I bought multiple copies to give to people I know will gain so much from reading this book. Read the book, you’ll be happy you did.

    –Corinna Carlson

    Buy your own copy in paperback, kindle or audiobook HERE.

  • November9th2015


    The Channeling Erik Weekend was absolutely wonderful! I’d share details, but I’m going to put together a video that will give you a sampling of the event soon. After watching it, you’ll probably kick yourself for not attending, but there’s always next year. I think Jamie’s going to host it in the magically spiritual city of Sedona, Arizona. 

    Today’s a busy day for me. I guess I have to pay for having fun! Here’s a couple of announcements:

    Please join me  on Rainbow Vision Radio with Betsey Lewis today from 8pm to 9:15pm ET.  You can tune in live  by clicking HERE, or you can listen to the archived show immediately after the show ends. 

    Also join me for my interview on Mind Matters Radio with Ajayan Borys LIVE from 3:00 – 4:00 PM CT by clicking HERE.

    Now for the main event, featuring Kate Sitka channeling Erik!

    Me: How’s Erik looking?

    Kate: He’s looking really good. He’s got his motorcycle leathers on.

    Me: Oh!

    Kate: He’s got black chaps.

    She laughs.

    Me: Hopefully not assless!

    Kate (laughing): Yes!

    Me: Oh, I knew that was why you were laughing! Oh Erik. I actually –

    Kate: He’s showing me the chaps from the front and then behind and he goes, “Oh yeah. You like it, Kate.”

    Me: Oh my gosh. You know I did actually have some leathers like that, myself, but I wore pants underneath them! Erik! How are you, Erik?

    Kate (To Erik): Most people wear pants unless they’re in the Pride Parade!

    Me: Yeah, exactly!

    Erik: Hi, Mom.

    Me: Hi sweetie. I love you.

    Erik: I love you so much, Mom.

    Kate: Oh my gosh. He gives me the big bear hug. I’ve actually never felt that from him. I think he has a hug just for you!

    Me: Incredible.

    Kate: Really strong upper—I feel like I actually have biceps. I wish I could be there so I could give this to you!

    Me: Aw.

    Kate (choking up): Holy crap.

    Me: I love the energy he gives me through his hugs. It’s just amazing.

    Kate: Yeah, and I mean I’ve been talking to Erik for a while, but this is the first time I’ve had the connection between you because how I tend to work is I piggyback off of the client’s energy generally.

    Me: Oh yeah?

    Kate: This is the first time I’ve had that loop between Erik and you, and it’s wild. It’s really crazy.

    Me: Interesting. Well, Erik, I guess what I’d like to do, if you don’t mind, is talk about some diseases that can plague a lot of people. For example, OCD—I’ve got a little bit of OCD myself.

    Kate: Yes. This is so funny. He wanted to talk about this—

    Erik: I was talking about this with Kate while she was on the can.

    Kate: No boundaries, apparently.

    Me: Of course not.

    Kate: He was also wanting to touch on suicidal thoughts and those kinds of things. So we want to start with OCD?

    Me: Yeah. I have Obsessive Compulsive Personality, and I get stuff done, but some people are plagued with this to where it really interferes with their functioning in life.

    Kate: My partner actually struggled with OCD.

    Me: Yeah, it can be really rough. What’s the spiritual basis for it? Are their certain contracts that are made to experience as part of the human experience?

    Erik: Okay. It can come up from a lot of things. Sometimes, it’s from past life shit, and it usually has to do with a lack of control. A lot of times it relates to a traumatic death in a “recent” past life. It’s anxiety that you’re bringing over, or it comes from a childhood that’s really out of control and keeping things clean is the only thing that you can control that makes you feel safe. Maybe you don’t feel safe in your environment. Maybe you don’t feel safe in your life because you have no control.

    Kate: He’s cleaning a bar of soap with alcohol.

    Erik: That’s something you can have control of. You know you’re not giving your body any extra bacteria if you clean that soap until it’s clean and then clean yourself with that clean soap and then clean the soap again.

    Me: Oh my gosh.

    Erik: It can be a real positive outlook if you don’t want to live like a pig. Personally, I prefer to live like a pig. That’s just me. That’s how I like to live.

    Me: I know! I’ve seen your room!

    Kate laughs.

    Erik: Where it can really get out of control is when people feel that this thing that was giving them control now controls them.

    Me: Mm.

    Erik: And when they can’t leave the house without that routine or they can’t take a shower without doing these certain things, when these habits that give you control controls you, that’s when it’s a real problem. It’s mostly behavior, habits. Medication isn’t super effective with this kind of thing because it’s all about your thought processes and what’s going on in your brain. That’s where the therapy is really helpful—the “Think-Do” therapy. When you feel the impulse to do something, you go do something else instead so you can regain control.

    Me: Oh! Well, some people have inner chaos. Maybe they have ADD, and sometimes, in order to combat that—and I think that’s my situation. I have ADD—I have to create order in my environment in order to compensate for the chaos in my mind!

    Erik: It’s to compensate for the chaos; that’s for sure.

    Kate: He’s showing me hoarding, people that, like the other end of the spectrum where people accumulate and accumulate and have a fear of throwing anything away.

    Erik: That’s also an OCD thing, but it’s the opposite of the cleaning thing. That is—

    Kate: Sorry, say that again, Erik.


    Erik: It’s anxiety. It’s anxiety. It’s an out of control feeling.

    Me: Do some spirits come in with OCD in order to learn something or teach someone else something?

    Erik: Sometimes. Usually, OCD is a manifestation of other shit that’s going on that is contractual. It’s often more of a symptom, but sometimes people do come in specifically with OCD. Most psychologists and psychiatrists that specialize in this kind of behavior suffer from it themselves.

    Me: Oh yeah. I bet. That’s good because they can empathize.

    Erik: Yeah, in that specific case, it’s a contract thing. Only the people that are really good at being OCD are the ones that make the best therapists. They have to hold themselves back sometimes when a client is talking about, “These are the things I do to obsessively clean.” Sometimes, the doctor is thinking in his head, “Well that’s not the proper way to clean that. You should do this.”

    Kate laughs.

    Me: Oh no!

    Erik: They have to pull themselves back so they don’t make their client’s illness worse! But no matter how it manifests, it’s always about internal chaos. It’s about trying to bring balance, but it can throw you out of balance again. OCD also can manifest itself as obsessive exercising—obsessing over your eating and exercising. Sometimes you see some guy, and he looks ripped and he’s really hot, but he’s not healthy inside.

    Me: Oh.

    Erik: It’s not coming from a healthy place in his mind.

    Me: Yeah, I can imagine.

    Erik: Date slobs, ladies! Date the slobs!

    Kate and I laugh.

    Me: I guess if it’s trauma bleeding through from another life, then regressive hypnosis therapy would help.

    Erik: Yeah. Yeah. We’re starting to really get a handle on that, and Mom, you’re being awesome. Your work is going to be drawn forward. You’re the Edgar Cayce of this time.

    Well, I don’t know about that, but…

    Kate: Who’s the guy who first did the—gosh, I can’t remember his name. Brian something.

    Me: Oh, Weiss?

    Kate: Weiss, yeah! He established the hypnosis. Erik is communicating really visually, so I’m trying to—she laughs.

    Me: He does that sometimes!

    Erik: When you’re able to operate within certain assumptions, you can work within that framework, and you can integrate Western Medicine. You can integrate the scientific process into it and leap light-years forward in helping people. You can integrate it with the spiritual. (Erik shakes his head.) We look at science, and we think we have to rip the spiritual away from it in order to strip it down and become pure physicality, but until we really understand that physicality is a result of our mental health, our spiritual health and our genetics and what we’re eating and what we’re physically going through, we’re not going to succeed. It’s got to be holistic. Once we get that, and we’re getting to that point because people with MDs are going, “Hey, there’s something to this,” we succeed. We’re right on the cusp of taking a huge light-year forward.

    Me: Oh, I hope so. So I guess everyone with OCD might consider hypnotherapy first to see if it’s related to another life. If it’s not, then what?

    Erik: The first thing to do is start reading books and see what you identify with because you don’t know. You don’t necessarily know what it’s coming from.

    Kate: He’s actually pointing to my bookshelf because, as I said, my partner has struggled with it, and there’s a book she found really effective. It’s called, Brain Lock. There it is. It’s right on my shelf. Brain Lock, by Jeffrey Schwartz, M.D. He’s pointing to his head, “Mind do.” I don’t know if it’s a behavioral cognitive therapy or something, but it helps you to interrupt that cycle of “The OCD is prompting me to do something, therefore I have to do it.” It gives you tools to do something other than what the OCD is driving you to do so that you can start to regain control.

    Erik: That’s the book that helps a lot of people. There are a lot of books that can help people. Learn about hypnotherapy. (Pointing to his chest)

    Kate: He’s tapping his chest.

    Erik: Let your intuition drive you to pursue the therapy that’s going to help you because you’re the one who knows the spiritual ties. You don’t have to be psychic. You know what is best for you. The thing you’re most interested in? There’s a reason for that. Follow that.

    Me: Ah.

    Erik (Writing a prescription and tearing it up): I’m not going to write a prescription for everybody with OCD.

    Kate: He’s showing me a plate of sushi.

    Erik: You pick the sushi that looks most appealing to you.

    Me: Okay.

    Kate: Did he not like sushi, because he made a face?

    Me: My other kids like it a lot more than he did! I can’t remember. I don’t think he really ate it very much.

    Actually, I don’t remember him ever eating it.

    Me: Are there any herbal remedies?

    Kate: Hm. This is something else he’s pointing to. Bach flower remedies, not the Rescue Remedy. Is it the Rescue Remedy? What are you holding? It’s got a red cap. I didn’t even know they made one with a red cap.

    Erik: It’s special. Flower essences. There are a number of different things you can do. OCD is what happens when you think the same thing so many times that it becomes a habit. So you’re running a really deep rut in your brain, and there are things that you can do that sort of fill up that rut so you can get out of it easier. Flower essences are one of the things that—

    Kate: He’s showing me a magnet.

    Erik: Your thoughts are creating electrical impulses in the brain. It feels like magnets. The more times you’ve gone through a particular circuit, the stronger the magnetic field gets. The magnet is the pull of that thought toward your habit. The flower essence—

    Kate (To Erik): What is that? Is it traditional Chinese medicine?

    Erik: Some stuff. (Tapping his chest again) Ask for help because you have specialists specifically for your body that can help you. Ask your loved ones who are looking out for you. Ask the people who are on your team because that team of resources can put that path in your way. Look at soft therapies rather than the hardcore medication because sometimes the side effects can be worse.

    Me: Oh yeah. And of course, check with your doctor. Always check with your healthcare provider.

    Kate: Oh god, absolutely. Yes.

    Me: Anything else on OCD? I also want to anxiety, and then we’ll talk about the suicidal ideation that you want to talk about.

    Kate (To Erik): What else about OCD?

    Erik: Always wash your butt.

    Kate: Oh, Erik.

    Me: Oh, of course. Well how many times did you skip out on that one?

    Kate laughs hard.

    Erik: Look, you washed my underwear.

    I chuckle. Racing stripes.

    Oh, and Erik’s book is now available in audiobook format! Yay! You can buy it HERE.

    Now, for some OCD humor:

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  • August14th2015


    Some of you have asked for the link to the Chaga face serum I’ve been using and RAVE about. I also use the face and body cream. Apparently, they’re coming out with other great products, including a shampoo and conditioner line. I never advertise for people, but this improved my quality of life so much from Chaga mushrooms that I think it’d be selfish to deny those I care about the same. Click HERE to find out more.

    I’d like to present our third medium up for consideration to add to Jamie’s contribution. Many of you already know her because she has written some really great guest posts. We weren’t able to video Skype because she lives out in the boonies, but I think you can, from the audio, get a feel for her talent, personality, and relationship with Erik. Presenting Kate Sitka! 

    Click HERE to listen. 

    Now that we’ve showcased three mediums, I’d like to give you the opportunity to vote for a winner. Consider accuracy, technique, relationship with Erik and whatever other factors you think might be important to you. Note we will still use Robert and Jamie. They’re givens. Also remember that the auditions were nerve-wracking, and these women will only become more comfortable over a very short period of time.

    I’m going camping with my grand daughter and hubby just for tonight. It’s going to be a scorcher, but camping is often a full contact sport. I hope you all have a great weekend!

  • October27th2014


    Bipolar disease is often a terminal one, which was the case with Erik. He knows all too well about this disease and explains its spiritual basis.

    Me: Let’s talk about something you suffered with in life, Erik. Bipolar disorder. Some are aggressive and some are not, so it’d be great if you could cover both.


    Jamie: I’m trying to get him on track.

    Me: Good luck!

    Jamie: What he’s talking about is how different it is in each person. He’s talking about his bipolar (air quotes) “issue.”

    Erik: For me, energetically, and for some people bipolar disease is completely inherited. Some people don’t sign up for it. Let’s look at both options. There is a group of scientists who think that nothing is inherited, and you manifest and create it on your own. That’s what I think. If it’s something that you’re looking for or that you need, you tend to create it for yourself, but you can have it in the way that you need to use it to learn whatever the fuck you need to learn.

    Me: Well, why does there seem to be a genetic basis for these?

    Erik: Mom, Mom, Mom. Think about this. There are that other group of scientists that think it is inherited, that’s how the mother and father’s DNA worked when they go together to create this specific pattern. Their thinking it’s more of a mechanical process. But we all know that the development of cells and the DNA in the body is not 100% mechanical. There’s an energetic component and an environmental one. Scientists just haven’t owned up to that. Give us 3 to 4 years and we’ll start to talk about how the energetic component affects the DNA and how this trumps “inherited” (air quotes again) disease that you’re getting from your parents. So, why does it seem like it’s inherited? Think about it. If you’re coming in with a specific disease or issue—

    (Long pause)

    Jamie: Sorry. He kind of jumped rails talking about two different ways that this happens so we’ll do each.

    Erik: Number one—


    Jamie (grinning): Don’t, Erik.

    I chuckle.

    Erik: Let’s say I have bipolar disease. I definitely want somebody in my family or in life that has it as well so that they can understand it and I can have a support team. Or maybe I was supposed to come in and be the first person in the family with it. There are lessons there that are wrapped up in it. But there’s also—

    Jamie (smiling to Erik): This would be number two.

    Erik: You know how your pets will mimic or take on your energetic pattern that creates your physical problems, that shapes your DNA. Well, we can do this as well. So I come in. I’m not bipolar, but let’s say my grandma does, and I’m around her everyday and I love her a lot. She has it, and I’ve been round her for 6, 8, 10 years, and, all of a sudden, I have bipolar disease. I’m diagnosed with it, but I didn’t have it before. So they say, “Oh, it’s inherited. It’s coming up because of his hormones,” but really a very viable answer could be, “I love her so much that through my compassion for her throughout all those years, I’ve adopted that energetic pattern. Now, it’s physically showing up in me.

    Me: Interesting. I can see that in my own life. I’ve seen that pattern happen. For example, when my father developed a blood clot in his leg, a couple of weeks later, I did. I’ve never had before. And [when I was a teenager], I watched this show called, Marcus Welby, M.D. and there was this little kid who developed this disease called ITP, idiopathic thrombocytopenia purpura. I love saying that! It makes me seem so much smarter than I am. Then a couple of weeks later, I got that too. I can understand that. I see it in my own personal life.

    Erik (suddenly standing up, shouts): It’s the power of the brain! What you believe in is what you manifest. If you’re attracted to it and you see it, and it entertains you, or you feel like you can use it for some reason, whether for good or bad, –but remember, there’s no good or bad–there just is —you will start to manifest it in your own life.

    Me: Even if on a subconscious level, obviously.

    Erik: Absolutely. We know for damn sure you’re not trying to get a clot in your leg.

    Me: Yeah. Wee! Bring it on!

    Erik: But through your compassion and wanting to understand your dad and be kind of separated from him for whatever reason—we don’t have to talk about that right now—but you reach out to him energetically to heal, to help so you mimic and you end up with that. Just because you hang out with someone who has a disease does not mean that you will get it. So, people, please don’t lock yourself in your homes.

    I laugh.

    Erik: Please don’t walk around with robber gloves on or a rubber hat over your head so you can protect your thoughts from influence.

    Me: Sounds like you’re telling people not to become human condoms.

    Jamie laughs.

    Me: Can you give me a few examples of the spiritual causes for bipolar disease? It seems like most diseases are our soul trying to use out bodies to wake up and become aware, change course, do something different.

    Erik: Yes. First, it allows you to keep one foot in the Beyond and one foot in the body. Come on, isn’t anything “bi” something wonderful? Wink, wink. So for me, what I got out of it was I had this human experience, but I had this huge distance from being human. I could puppeteer myself through things, and I knew the right way to do it. I knew hos to listen, what to say, what a good reaction would be, but I was just far enough away from it that I could have a different perspective on it. That would make for a badass psychiatrist.

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Erik: But bipolar people have a hard time grounding themselves, and the purpose for that is so that they can have that other foot in this different dimension or realm, the afterlife, the Beyond, whatever the hell you want to call it. Being able to do that allows you to see the human life in a completely unattached way. It’s not like you don’t love it, Mom. You totally love your life. You’re in it to win it, but there’s this whole other supporting energy that says, “You don’t have to be as involved as much as you are.

    Me: So is that one of the most common spiritual causes?

    Erik: That was the main one for me.

    Me: I guess that was important to you so you could learn to observe in a disconnected way. That way you could become a better teacher like you are now.

    Erik: Yes.

    Me: Okay. Any other cause?

    Erik: Well, some people choose to be bipolar as a sabotaging element so they can’t have intimate relationships. It keeps them removed from emotional values. So it’s not so much about being in the human life and being in the Beyond as much as it is staying distant from emotional connections.

    Me: Is there a way we can approach and ameliorate it spiritually, and can it be cured?

    Erik: I believe that it can be cured. It would be in a scientific way, a chemical way to boost the physical change in the human body so that the energetic patterns …

    (He doesn’t finish his sentence.)

    Erik: So then you can take the energetic approach to maintain it. There’s a marriage between chemical science and energy science. Neither is more “correct.” They can work together.

    Jamie: He’s giving me image of digging a hole, but it’s like a grave. You have this big old shovel, and it can dig up the dirt. That’s the science part. It makes really physical alterations. And then the energetic side is when you come in with your own hands, and you’re scooping out dirt, moving it. It’s very involved where you’re manipulating the situation.

    Erik: Sometimes you need both to get over the mountain and reach your end result. Energetically, spiritually, how do we address this? It’s about allowing the bipolar person to be in the moment and not seeing that if they’re swinging from one side or the other that that’s good or bad or that they need to stay present. That’s a lot like with Alzheimer’s and autism. Those people have a hard time staying present in the Now or being linear. You know, first you have to brush your teeth; then you do this; then you do that. A lot of times, we don’t want to behave that way, so why is the outside telling us we have to do that to be “normal.”

    Erik (arms flying up in the air): What the fuck is normal and why do we have to behave that way? Why can’t we be uniquely ourselves with our disease, dis-ease, illness, whatever uniqueness we have, and be deemed normal for ourselves. That’s how we can approach this kind of illness to make it easier on the persons and [unintelligible] away from them.

    Jamie: Energetic patterns. That’s kind of how he’s talking about behaviors or reactions.

    Me: So what advice to you have for people with bipolar disease as far as, you know, how do they ameliorate it? Do they go through past life regression? Do they go to an energy healer? I mean, other than the medical, chemical approaches.

    Erik: Yeah! They get a team! My first bit of advice, if you have bipolar disease, is, ‘I hope you like fucking puzzles.’

    Erik flops in his chair.

    Erik: Because that’s what we are. And not one particular focus, uh, like I think what we call the “normal” person, they can have one personality and one focus and it’ll work in every situation you have throughout your life. Bipolars are not that way. We have to adapt our personalities and change our outlooks in order to receive a “correct” answer in our situation. There are so many elements put into play by our external environment that just doesn’t fit, so we have to keep adapting.

    Me: So there’s not just one approach. There’s a mixed approach that keeps changing.

    Erik: Yes. I would say, have your doctor, have your therapist, have your energetic healer, and I would definitely do hypnosis work.

  • October15th2014


    Having been raised by parents with borderline personality disorder, this subject strikes a cord with me. Many of you might have family members or friends who suffer from this disease without knowing it, but it’s important to find out because by doing so, you gain a better understanding not only of them, but of yourself as well. When I found out my parents were borderline, resentments of the past faded and were replaced by compassion, it’s hard to be a person with tis disease.

    Here are some of the signs:

    • Extreme reactions—including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions—to abandonment, whether real or perceived
    • A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
    • Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
    • Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
    • Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
    • Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
    • Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
    • Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
    • Having stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.
    • Seemingly mundane events may trigger symptoms. For example, people with borderline personality disorder may feel angry and distressed over minor separations—such as vacations, business trips, or sudden changes of plans—from people to whom they feel close. Studies show that people with this disorder may see anger in an emotionally neutral face5 and have a stronger reaction to words with negative meanings than people who do not have the disorder.6

    Here’s what Erik has to say:

    Me: What’s the spiritual basis of borderline personality disorder? These people have real abandonment issues, and they also throw the baby out with the bath water meaning if you do one little thing wrong, they think you’re horrible. They no longer remember the good. You go from hero to zero.

    Erik: It’s a form of alienation. The contract is of saying, “Please misunderstand me so that I can understand myself better.”

    Me: Hmm!

    Erik: It’s almost like you’re forcing yourself to be on a one-man team. It gets misunderstood because others think they don’t know how to be on a team or they’re being punished for who they are, and it’s not that. It’s really just meant for them to be—it’s not really “alone” like in the sense of, “Nobody loves me. I’m all by myself.” It’s not the aloneness that implies abandonment.

    Me: It’s more about the independent need to search for their own identity.

    Erik: Yes. When you come across these people, you know in a past they were the extreme opposite where they’ve been a complete leach to an idea or a person, and they surrendered who they were: their ideas, their words, their thoughts. It’s one extreme to the next. All of the mental illnesses don’t have to be played out for the entire lifetime if they’re willing to learn why it’s there for them, even if it’s a physical or chemical issue. We know how to correct these, but people won’t put it on the market.

    Me: Yeah, that’d probably sink the pharmaceutical companies.

    Erik: Yes. You can’t patent what nature gives you for free. The meat of the banana is the life you’re living now, and the strips around it are congruent lives. There are some lives that don’t need to but up against us, parallel to us, because they’re not supporting the same lessons. They conflict, so you can peel those lives away from you and still have a wonderful connection to other lives.

    Me: I guess past life regression would work for that.

    Erik: Hypnotic regression. Remember all lives are happening at once.

    My bad.

    borderline personality disorder, Channeling Erik


  • September23rd2014


    Just for a change up, here’s an old one that will give you a taste of different mediums. This is Erik channeled through Jeannie Barnes. She’s mostly an angelic channeler, not a medium, but she’s very good. I remember when she introduced me to my personal guardian angel I just sobbed. It’s like I knew her. Here’ Erik tag teams with the angelic being by his side. Enjoy.

    Me: Okay, let’s get into various diseases. What is the spiritual basis for some of them—and I’ve talked about this with you through Jamie, already, but I want to see if you have anything else to add. Let’s see, like Alzheimer’s. Why do people get Alzheimer’s?

    Jeannie: Yeah, and they change so. They can go from being this soft, kind being to this grouch.

    Me: I know.

    Erik: Often, Alzheimer’s is a way to cope with the past. Even those who were really wonderful, gentle beings all their lives had trauma in their childhood. So, it’s a way of forgetting. Most of these patients hold a lot inside their heads. They were ones who never let out their anger—at least not all of it—or that never talked about their problems. They just buried them. So, when they get buried too long, they come out, wham!

    Me: Interesting. Hm. What about arthritis?

    (Long pause as Jeannie listens)

    Jeannie: That’s interesting. This is the angel talking now.

    Me: Oh, okay.

    Jeannie: Erik’s kind of standing back on this one.

    Angelic Being: Arthritis usually has to do with people who have either one of two things. Either they pushed themselves too hard, moving through life putting one foot in front of the other and just kind of pushing and forcing instead of moving with the flow of life. Or sometimes it has to do with resisting: resisting certain lessons in life or not paying attention to what it was they were supposed to learn in this life, which is also a type of resisting.

    Me: Oh! What about cancer?

    Jeannie: That’s a huge one.

    (Long pause)

    Angelic Being: Depending on where the cancer is in the body, it can mean different things.

    Me: Oh, okay. That makes sense.

    Angelic Being: But one thing that cancer patients all have is either a chance to leave the planet consciously or decide that they truly want to live.

    Me: Oh, I can see that! And it all rings so true, doesn’t it?

    Jeannie: It does, because when some people survive their cancer, they have this whole new outlook on life.

    Me: I know. I’ve seen that so may times in my practice.

    Jeannie: But for some people, it’s just a chance to go.

    Me: Like an exit point.

    Erik: So it’s an exit point or a “come to Jesus” moment,

    Jeannie: Exactly.

    Me: What about heart disease, like coronary artery disease?

    Erik: The heart always has to do with emotions, feelings. So heart disease usually comes from holding those feelings or emotions in instead of expressing them or allowing them to flow. It can be positive emotions or negative ones: grief, love, sadness, or even joy!

    Me: Wow, and anger too, I guess.

    Erik: Especially anger.

    Me: Okay, what about diabetes?

    Angelic Being: Diabetes is really one’s lesson to really take care of the body, caring for the physical body with the proper food, exercise, sleep, all of these things.

    Me: Yeah, because it’s very time consuming to have diabetes, all the focus on the body with blood sugar testing, watching the diet. But does it happen in a person who has not taken care of the body before in a past life?

    Erik: Usually, yes. Even children who come into this life with diabetes. Sometimes they’ve abused their body in a past life.

    Me: Oh, because one of my sisters developed diabetes after she had her baby, but even before that she’s always been incredibly attentive to her health. She’s a vegetarian, exercises daily, you know, very healthy lifestyle. I found it so weird that it could happen to her, but I guess it might be from a past life.

    Jeannie: Yeah.

    Me: Okay, what about HIV and AIDS? Sometimes I think this is a lesson for others, you know?

    Jeannie: Exactly.

    Erik: HIV is one thing that has a design to bring the world together. It happens across the world, and if you look and watch—when it first became known, people making quilts, people loving. It’s designed to bring the world together in love.

    Jeannie: Yeah, I remember clearly how back in the 80s people just banded together.

    Me: Yeah, with benefit concerts and so many other wonderful displays of love and unity. And it, I don’t know, helps us develop compassion. This is a group, in general, that has not received very much compassion.

    Jeannie: Yeah, yeah.

    Me: So it teaches us to have compassion and put away our stereotypical prejudices and hostilities.

    Erik: Right.

    Me: Okay, so there are so many people who were prefer not to be sick with mental illness, etc., so why do some stay sick despite all the positive efforts to get well? How are they creating that reality if they are working in a positive way to overcome their illness? So, it seems like there are some things we just don’t have control over. IF we did, we’d get well, or we wouldn’t get sick n the first place.

    Erik: Speaking from experience, sometimes that’s how I felt, Mom. From what I’ve learned here, again, it’s many layers. Some is karmic. There’s also a polarity in the world. You can’t go through life without challenges. You’re born and you die. There’s no getting away from that on the earthly plane. When someone becomes ill and seems to overcome it, it takes a tremendous amount of energy and work—and it’s very hard work. Sometimes, someone just gets tired of fighting and battling and just decides to let go. You were just talking about the diseases and why things come into the body. It’s a complicated question, because it deals with so many different things.

    Me: So really, part of it might be getting down to the spiritual basis of disease. Until you address that, all the positive efforts targeted toward the physical aspects of disease might not really cure you. Unless you address the spiritual basis, you can’t get well.

    Erik: Exactly. And it takes a huge amount of energy. You have to always be conscious about what you’re thinking—about thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes it gets to be too much.

    Me: Oh, I almost forgot. What’s the spiritual basis for mental illnesses like depression, bipolar disease—I mean in general. I’m sure it’s a little bit different for each one. I think in part these are people who want to work through a whole lot of issues so it can be their last lifetime, especially with schizophrenia. Or maybe it’s to teach others compassion and patience. But, uh, what’s your take on it, Erik?

    Erik: All of the above, Mom. Mental illness is often the result of many lifetimes, many karmic events all rolled into one. And you’re right about it being the last lifetime for some. It’s as if they’ve come back again and again and still haven’t learned what they needed to learn, so finally, mental illness then becomes an issue. Also, it’s why it’s one of the most difficult things to heal and cure—sometimes it can’t be cured. It teaches compassion also, so yeah.

    Me: So are you saying that in some cases it’s kind of a remedial class or summer school for those who just won’t learn their lessons any other way?

    Erik (laughing): Exactly, that’s really a good analogy.

    Me: What about mental retardation, Down’s Syndrome and other developmental disorders? I have a feeling those souls are usually highly evolved and are here to teach us joy and compassion, but I don’t know. I’m just part of the peanut gallery, here.

    Angelic Being: Those beautiful beings are all Beings of the Light. There is so much Light in them—-and so much wisdom!

    Me: Yeah, I can see that.

    Angelic Beings: Each time there is a soul who comes into the world with Down’s Syndrome or other mental challenges, it is all about bringing Love. Little angels that walk among the earth.

    Me: Wow, I’m getting shivers. (pause) Well, I guess that’s all we have time for. We have a session next week, though, so that’s good. Oh! Any messages from Veronica, my guardian angel? I want to tell her this: ‘I love you and I’m so grateful you’re sticking with me! I’m sure I’m not the easiest person to guide!’ And Erik, I want to tell you I love you with all of my heart, my soul, my entire being, and then some.

    Erik: Ditto, Mom! Ditto.

    Veronica: What do you mean, “not the easiest person to guide”? I have to laugh at that! Oh, you can have a stubborn nature at some times, but what you give—it is with great delight that I work with you. Even as a child, you were fun. Quick to laugh. You wore your emotions on your sleeve, and you loved everything and everyone, animals, plants. You’re a sister to me. Your role in their world is being played out now as we speak. I know. I know the grief that you experienced when Erik chose to come over and be with us, and yet look. Look at what you’ve done and all the hundreds and hundreds of people you and Erik have helped. You’ve made a pack, you know, the two of you, in the physical life and in the spiritual life. I love you more than you can even know. The light that emanates that we spoke of—that gold, purple and blue—it reaches so high—high, high into the heavens. You’re a jewel, a gemstone placed on the earth that shimmers and shines and draws to it those who need help and assistance. I thank you. I thank you. So go now, with peace and joy and many, many blessings.

    (And I thought I was sappy! I love her, though. She’s an amazing spirit, but she makes me blush sometimes.)

    Me: Aw, I couldn’t do it without you, Veronica, and you too, Erik. I love you both.

    So it seems disease is often the body’s way of acting as a tool for communication. It’s there to tell us: “Hey, you need to work on this,” or “Stop being complacent and lazy,” or “Are you forgetting what you came here to do?” It’s just so hard to be aware of this form of communication much less interpret it. So, I hope this has helped some of you.

    Judgment is man-made, Channeling Erik Medhus

  • September22nd2014


    I can’t lie. Yesterday was not easy. Yet another birthday without my son. These dates, his birthday and death anniversary, really never seem to get easier. There’s still so much sadness in my heart as I light the candles he’ll never blow out and sing that song that he’ll only hear from that invisible realm he’s in. I can’t see him smile along or cringe when we’re off key. Still, he can’t blame me for the notes I missed. It’s hard to sing when you cry. God, how much I miss him. 

    Me: How are you, Erik?

    Erik: Badass.

    Me: Of course you are.

    Robert: A lot of time he wears the same thing when I see him. It’s like this shirt with blue sleeves, kind of like a baseball jersey/

    Me: My god. That’s the shirt he died in. Oh my god. Three-quarter length sleeves?

    Robert: Yeah.

    Me: Erik, you could at least come to the party wearing something else?

    Erik shrugs his shoulders

    Erik: Sorry.

    Robert: He just put a cap on, and he kind of turned it to the side just a little bit.

    Me: Yeah, that’s how he wore them. You wearing jeans, Erik?

    Robert: He’s picking his nose, and he was admiring whatever came out of it!

    Trying to get a rise out of his mom, of course.

    Erik (looking up): Huh?

    Robert: He is wearing jeans.

    Time to move on.

    Erik: Mom, I want to talk about addiction.

    Robert: Is that on your list?

    Me: Yeah. Self-sabotaging addictions in general. Substance abuse, self-mutilation, eating disorders, etc.

    Erik: They’re all rooted in the same thing.

    Me: There are so many people who suffer from these self-destructive behaviors. Why do people do this to themselves?

    Erik (as if about to announce something earth-shattering) Bum, bum, BUM! It’s scarcity.

    Me: Scarcity of?

    Erik: Scarcity, in general, creates all kinds of things that humans might label as self-destructive. What is scarcity? It’s feeling like there’s never enough of something. You’re not enough, for instance. When it comes to self-mutilation, it could be that what you feel isn’t’ enough, so hurt yourself to feel pain, cuz maybe that will be enough. Or that kind of behavior might come from not feeling like the family you were born into is enough. When it comes to addiction—

    Me: And it’s probably all addiction.

    Erik: Yeah. Some people feel like their feelings are too much. Nope. That’s not it. It’s because there is something in your life that you feel like is not enough. Your feelings, which might in some cases drive you to become addicted to something, are just telling you that something in your life is out of sync. You need to look at it. What happens is a lot of people focus on what’s immediately in front of them, which is how they feel. Then, like in the case of addiction, they want to self-medicate. Like you said, all this kind of stuff is an addiction, cutting, getting involved in bad relationships, all of it. It’s an addiction to scarcity, and scarcity is fear based, chaos based.

    Me: And scarcity is an illusion, right?

    Erik: Scarcity is an illusion, but it’s there to serve us. It’s there to help us move forward and evolve. By the way, I have a new word to use when it comes to lessons.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: We use the word, “lessons” a lot, and we know, inherently, what it means, but to expand on that, what a lesson really is is it’s giving you the opportunity to adapt, because adaptability is what’s really driving our evolution. You have to adapt to move forward.

    Me: To adapt to what?

    Erik: To whatever it is in front of you and to do it in a way that doesn’t create suffering for you or for someone else.

    Me: Ah! Okay.

    Erik: You gotta be, in energy or spiritual terms, a chameleon.

    Me: So, we talked about why people self-mutilate, and part of that, I’m sure, is for getting attention, right?

    Erik: Yeah, and there’s the power behind having a secret. Some people do it because it’s a type of control that they can exert over their own physical body. “I can control when I hurt.” That gives you the opportunity to see your own power. You’re using it in a fucked up way, in my opinion, but… So in these cases, there’s a perceived scarcity of control or the privacy that you get from having control of your own thoughts and actions.

    Me: What about substance abuse? Any other reasons for that?

    Erik: I can go into all sorts of reasons, but ultimately people pursue it because they see what’s directly in front of them, and that’s the feelings that they feel, right?

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: These feelings can be the result of an experience that they may have had or didn’t have. There are other reasons. Maybe they got introduced to it because of their friends. That’s a peer pressure thing. In that case, when you see those friends doing what you’re not doing, you think you don’t have that. Scarcity. You don’t have enough, so you go and do it. It all boils down to that. That’s the thing about all this spiritual shit. It all comes down to something very, very simple. It becomes complicated because of al the different variations we create around that simple root.

    Me: For example?

    Erik: For instance, with cutting you might do it for the reasons we talked about like having a secret, controlling something.

    Me: What are the most common reasons, under the entire umbrella of scarcity, for substance abuse?


    Me: Of course there can be a genetic component to it, right?

    Erik: The cool thing about genetics is that sometimes you come here spiritually with your genes wired in a certain way because that’s the other part that allows the lessons to unfold, but genes can be changed by what you experience, and experiences can be external to yourself or internal things that you feel.

    Interesting that he should bring this up because I just learned that PTSD can actually change the genes related to the way corticosteroids affect parts of the brain.

    Erik: All of that is controlled by consciousness, itself. Consciousness makes all of this possible. Some people might ask, “What does consciousness mean?” It means to be able to experience something. Part of being able to experience something involves the act of creation.

    Robert: I know he’s trying so hard to come up with the right words because he’s showing me different things.

    Me: Are you getting a lot of images from him?

    Robert: Yeah, because he’s trying to filter through it, to think of something more simplistic.

    For us simple minded people!

    Erik: The simplest explanation I can think of for consciousness is to be able to experience something. It’s really not just about being self-aware because there are certain types of consciousness that aren’t in the way that humans describe it. I guess I could add “self-awareness in the way that humans express it.” Just because we express self-awareness in a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the universal definition for it. Self-awareness can exist without knowing who you are.

    What rabbit hole is he taking us down?

    Robert: He’s kind of showing me the way self-awareness works on a universal force level.

    Erik: This isn’t going to sound like self-awareness, but it’s the best way I can put it. Think about a rock sitting in a field. This kind of goes back to a lot of philosophy shit.

    I giggle.

    Erik: So the rock is sitting in a field, and it kind of gets in the way of the grass growing around it. Then the grass has to grow in a different way because that rock is there. Or the rock might be sitting in a desert, and the wind has to go around it. That’s a type of, For instance, out in space, in our own solar system before the earth came along—there was a lot of shit floating around out there—it all seemed so random, but interstellar wind might throw a certain rock off course. That interaction between those things, which does take self-awareness, pushes that rock in a new direction just a little bit. Then, it pushes another rock off course, then another rock, and then another rock, and eventually you have the earth which wouldn’t be here if those collisions didn’t occur. There’s an awareness involved.

    Stay tuned for Part Two Wednesday!

  • August26th2014


    This repost is about respite. A break from the grief of losing someone we love. A break from being mired in daily struggle. A break from being human. This is the first time Erik spoke to me without the need of a question prompt. He spoke with solemn passion. How timely.

    Erik: You know, Mom, before you ask me a question, I want to talk to you about people who want to take their own life. In some cases, the stress, the grief, whatever builds up, it’s like a volcano. Only so much can build before it has to release. The lesson in each case is that there is perfection in imperfection.

    Me: Mm hm.

    (Long pause)

    Jamie: He’s pausing. Erik, I can see that.

    Me: What? Is he picking his nose?

    Jamie (sounding touched): No. His eyes are tearing up.

    Me: Oh, Sweetie. It’s okay.

    Jamie: He’s just kind of readjusting his gestures and how he’s sitting so that he’s really not squared off with me; we’re not looking at each other face to face.


    Jamie (to Erik): But, you know, I can see that you’re adjusting. I can see. I can see.

    Erik: Well, it’s hard …


    Jamie (to Erik, in a warm, motherly tone): Take a deep breath. You don’t always have to be the fast talker.

    Me: Yeah, Sweetie. Take your time.

    Jamie (with a soft chuckle): I don’t mind a pause.

    Erik: It just throws me right back into my human state of mind—right back into my body—and I haven’t shaken hands with those demons in a long time.

    Me: Yeah, I know.

    Erik: And I’m happy not to shake hands with them anymore, but when you’re human, you think you have the power to override them—the internal thoughts, those crazy horses in your head that just run with ideas and thoughts that actually hold no truth. But because the thoughts are so heavy, they feel incredibly real, and we start to validate them as real and they’re not. It’s within this slice of anxiety, madness, grief, this really imbalanced state of mind and heart—that’s the imperfection that makes us perfect.

    Me: Not sure if I understand, but…

    Erik: In so many people who want to take their life, it’s just about getting out of the body, not an act or a willingness to die. It might be nice, ya know? First hand, I kinda know that experience.

    Me (solemnly): Yeah.

    Erik: A lot of times those people might be worried that they couldn’t do everything they wanted or needed to do, desired to. But then right before, they get this peace and calm, knowing that everything is going to be all right. All of a sudden, they know it’s all going to be okay. Really at that moment, they already left the body.

    Me: Oh!

    Erik: A lot of people I see that are headed toward the answers, committing suicide, attempting suicide, ending their life, they just need out of their body just for a certain moment. A lot of times they do that before they get a chance to follow through, and then they back down.

    Me: They just need a rest. A rest from being human.

    Erik: Yeah. And when people struggle to that point, like I said, many times it’s about the perfection of imperfection.

    Me: What do you mean by that? I just don’t understand.


    Erik: Our perfectness is composed of a huge percentage of things that just aren’t’ right.

    Jamie (giggling): He kind of puts that in air quotes.

    Erik: I know there’s no right or wrong—there just “is”, but as humans, the brain has a hell of a hard time relaxing in that state of mind. It’s almost like we enjoy struggle more than we enjoy peace. And all of humanity has to learn this lesson for us to achieve it—to make it a natural state of being. Peace. That’s what our generations to come might experience, but for now, we’re still in a natural state of being in struggle. Our natural state of being as a human is based on being in a constant struggle. Even when you’re calm, you’re thinking, “How long is this going to last?” “When I get out of this, then I have to face that shit, and then I have to manage that crap over there.” You know, it’s still all fucked up, but you’re going to have these pockets of peace. We’re getting through all of this as humanity. Everyone has to learn to turn the dial on the emotional, mental, spiritual level from chaos and struggle to peace and calm. Until we do that, you know, we’re all attached to each other—we’re all antennas. And we can get those incredibly enlightened people, loving people, people who are aware, and their antenna inside their body just starts to pick up all the struggle and the chaos. And they don’t want it. Just like you, Mom. And some of those people just want a break from being human. But this whole media, vulnerability, kind of openness that you and I have gone through—it was done in a way to save other people but not you. And I know you’ll come soon enough and see how you can save yourself. And how you do that will not stop the openness, the storytelling, because we—

    Jamie (to Erik): Who’s we? (To me) You and him.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: We cannot even count how many people we’ve touched nor how many people that we have taught. So, now that they’re more knowledgeable and can heal through their grief and not leave this world as it’s changing—that absolutely is extremely valuable and extremely important, but never, ever more important than you. I hope knowing that helps.

    Me: Aw. I love you, Erik.

    Erik: I love you more.

    Taking a Break from Being Human - Channeling Erik

  • August21st2014


    I’ve had EFT and have gone to a professional for it, too. Erik was the one who recommended it to me, and I know he’s recommended it to others, including some of my family members. I’ve never seen it not work. Our energetic body has a certain pattern of meridians that the tapping changed. I love this guy’s YouTube videos on it, and I also think he’s absolutely adorable. Love the hair.

    I’ve added more to this previous post. 







    These are just a few of his videos. You can visit his YouTube channel HERE.

  • May5th2014


    Although today may seem like a selfish “Elisa Day” because of what might appear to be the shameless plugging of my own books, I do want people to know more about my journey. Raising five children is no walk in the park, especially a rambunctious set like mine. I had to do my best in spite of the fact that many struggled with ADHD, learning disabilities, mental illness, among other things. I’ve been told that my children chose my husband and I because they needed to grapple with an immense amount of pain related to their past lives and other parents might not have the same capacity for patience, love and encouragement.

    I believe I was supposed to go through this for many reasons. First, it’s made me more humble and compassionate. There were many points in my motherhood that I felt close to being broken. That infused me with a sense of humility. There are things much more important in the world than me and my little ego. Second, I learned to embrace my mistakes and flaws (and there were plenty) and see them as gifts. Third, I learned that the actions of others are never really meant to be personal vendettas designed to bring me down. Fourth, it taught me how important it is to let go. Because of my upbringing, I expected to give my children a fairytale childhood. It didn’t work out that way. We have had our trouble, our drama, our disappointments and our pain. But, love helped us survive.

    That said, I learned that love is the secret to letting go of pain, and, according to Erik, that is what I’m here to teach. When I say “letting go of pain,” I don’t want you to envision the hero in a movie with white knuckled fingers gripping frantically to the frame of a  broken window of a skyscraper while the villain repeatedly stomps on his hand, ripping his palm against the broken glass. I’m talking about giving that pain a long and loving hug, thanking it for the lessons it provided, and sending it on it’s way. I’m still working on this and have a long way to go, but the disappointment that comes from dashed expectations has lost its sting.

    Here are my three first books. They are all award-winning and translated into multiple languages. Each one comes in all possible book formats.


    “Raising Children Who Think for Themselves, by Elisa Medhus, M.D., is the proud recipient of three highly prestigious awards: The 2002 Parent’s Choice Award, The NAPPA Gold Award (National Parenting Publications Association,) and the National Parenting Center Seal of Approval.”

    NAPRA Book Review:

    The problems that seem pervasive among youth today, from mindless consumerism and premature sex to school shootings and drug abuse, have raised an uproar on all sides, and the blame for these ills gets bounced around like a ping-pong ball!–TV, video games, lack of religion, rap music, and on and on. But Dr. Medhus, after hundreds of interviews with children from all kids of backgrounds, reaches the conclusion that the problems really all spring from a common source: personalities that react to outside forces rather than their own beliefs and morals. Laying out the difference between “externally directed” people who act according to impulses, peer pressure, and the fear of punishment, and “self-directed” people, who have been taught to think for themselves and follow their own consciences, she goes on to share parenting methods intended to encourage the introspection, empathy, and high self-esteem that gives self-directed children their ability to resist negative influences. The author discusses specific techniques for handling many kinds of situations, with rules and disciplinary measures that help kids understand why bad behavior is wrong, instead of shaming or scaring them into blind submission. Indispensible advice for parents seeking to inspire their kids to self-confidence, adventurousness, independence, competence, and the ability to make positive contributions to the world.–MZ


    (This one is pretty funny. Erik stories abound!)

    HEARING IS BELIEVING demonstrates that the words we say to children can have a profound positive – or negative – effect and it goes on to show readers how a few simple changes in parenting language can reward them with family harmony, turn parenting into a joy rather than a burden, and help them rear children with healthy self-esteem. This book suggests we can teach children how to think for themselves and learn to be rewarded with acceptance as a consequence of their contribution rather than needing acceptance and conforming. Dr. Medhus offers changes in language and parent/child communication that are simple to implement and continue to use. The results are immediately gratifying—many who have made these changes say they see profound effects in their children and their families within two weeks.
    Once these harmful phrases and their effects are exposed for what they really are, they’re easy to eliminate from our daily dialogue. HEARING IS BELIEVING offers better and more empowering alternatives for each phrase, as well as stories that illustrate the results. Parents will be rewarded with a fulfilling and harmonious relationship with all children.


    Written for parents, teachers, counselors, and everyone else involved with raising children, this book emphasizes the need for kids to learn how to make smart decisions in the face of today’s permissive culture and strong peer pressure. Many parents go to great lengths to protect their children from dangerous influences, boredom, want, and even the consequences of the kids’ own choices, but Elisa Medhus, winning author of the 2002 Parent’s Choice Award and National Parenting Publication Award believes this doesn’t allow kids to develop the skills they need to be successful adults. She tells readers how to give their children opportunities to overcome adversity while still in a loving family environment, so they can develop internal wisdom, creative problem-solving skills, and basic common sense. Raising Everyday Heroes offers easy-to-implement techniques for raising responsible, self-reliant children.

  • March13th2014


    I had such a wonderful time with the family in Destin, Florida this week. The weather cooperated only one day, but that day made up for everything. Navarre Beach was delightful: powdered sugar sand, crystal clear water and not more than 6 people stretched out in the sun there. We also went to the quaint town of Seaside to spend the day. 

    th-3 \th-2





    I’d like to extend a special thanks to Kate and Jesse for manning the helm in my absence. Also, thank you, everyone, for keeping your emails and FB messages to a minimum during my down time. Enjoy today’s post! 

    Me: Can you give advice for the mentally ill and their caregiver? Actually, let’s expand that to any one with an illness and their caregiver, but if we need to do it separately, that’s okay.

    Erik: Well, if we’re talking about mental illness, there are tons of those.

    Me: Well, let’s just talk about those who are chronically ill and unable to care for themselves. How about that? I’ll simplify it for you, Erik!

    Erik: Dumb it down, Mom!

    I chuckle.

    Erik: Okay. For the caregiver, I think it would be best if every day that they wake up before they go to dedicate their day and their life to caring for that person, they say this: “Even though this person, this child, parent or maybe their career–(You gotta take care of that, too.) Even though that person cannot do for themselves, they are still honorable and respectable on the inside.” The part that sucks about becoming incapable when you were once capable or just coming in to this life incapable is that you are truly on the inside. You’re really there. You’re still processing shit. It’s normally the fucking body that becomes broken, even if it’s a mental disease. The soul is not broken though. So the soul can comprehend, communicate, reach out, see all the goodness, see all the pain, everything, but the body cannot relay it. It’s like you need a megaphone to communicate, but the megaphone is broken. You’re carrying around a broken megaphone.

    Me: Aww.

    Erik: But you’re totally fine. You’re saying the words, everything.

    Me: Mm.

    Erik: But nobody’s ever fucking listening.

    Me (with sympathy): Aww.

    I know he can empathize from his own struggles in life.

    Jamie: He’s talking about a girl who is, uh, her story of being mentally incapable, but the parents never gave up, kept pushing her, and she learned how to use the computer.

    Me: Oh, that’s a real story isn’t it? I saw that on TV.

    Erik: Yeah.

    Me: Yeah. Yeah.

    Erik: Everyone in the world should read her fucking book. They should be forced, commanded to read her story.

    Hm. Being a little harsh, Erik? Who made you dictator? Talk about overkill.

    Me: I don’t think you can force people to do that, Erik.

    Erik: There should be a fucking curriculum for every human being, and I swear to god, the book Nonviolent Communication should be in there.

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: And this chick’s book, because it would put into perspective that no matter how the body is misshapen, who’s to say you’re shaped right or wrong, if it works great or poorly? Who’s to say what that fucking is? The way that you treat, love, care, provide care for someone should be that way you would want it for yourself.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: And if you cannot do that, you need to fucking walk away for a while. You need to take a break. Caregivers, care providers often don’t know when that is, because they feel too responsible, and they won’t set up breaks for themselves; they won’t call in reinforcements.

    Me: Well, what if they can’t afford reinforcements or don’t’ have those resources?

    (Long pause)

    Erik: Then you do what you’d do to your two year-old when you can no longer stand to be around them, because you’re not providing good care, and they’re pushing your buttons.

    Me: You beat them?

    I’m joking here in case you didn’t know.

    Erik: You lock them somewhere safe, and you sit outside the door and you catch your breath.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: Not in the bathroom where they can turn on the fucking water or pull all the toilet paper out but in their room or in their playpen, and you step around the corner and you breathe. There are ways to train yourself to take a break, but many people won’t because they feel like if they do, then they have the right to say, “I pushed myself. I am a good person. Measure me by this,” when really, you’re a dick [to yourself].

    Me: We’ll it seems like most of the time it’s like, “I’m a failure if anything happens to this person. I need to do this for them. I need to do everything I can and more.”

    Erik: Trust me. I don’t care if the person is two years old or a hundred or if they’ve been incapable since they were born or fell into incapability, they know that you can only go so far.

    Me: Yeah. But there’s also the public. Others. Others in their lives that would see them. “Wait. You weren’t caring for them these past two hours? You had to watch your show? What the hell?”

    Erik: Two hours is a little too long to be by yourself. I’m talking about stepping around the corner, not leaving for two hours.

    Where a two year-old is concerned, two hours is often not enough. And I disagree with him here. You need more time away, as long as the person you’re taking care of will be safe for that period of time.

    Erik: There are other things that people don’t think of like turning on the fucking music.

    Me: Yeah. That would be good for both!

    Erik: Yes!

    Me: And meditation! Don’t forget about that!

    Erik: Yes. Smells. People don’t think about smells.

    With his smellier pranks, he obviously thinks about it a lot.

    Erik: You know when you have an incapable person and they’re calm, give them the smell they know they like. Is it a food? Is it aromatherapy, you know, an essential oil?

    Me: Uh huh.

    Erik: And then when they’re going nuts and pushing your fucking buttons, bring out that smell.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: It’s your way of communicating, “No, we gotta get calm.” People forget about using senses. They forget to set the mood, because they go into protection mode. The caregiver goes into protection mode and can’t think about providing any more care than protecting themselves.

    Me: Protecting themselves from what?

    Erik: Going off the deep end.

    Me; Oh, okay. Got it. Anything else on that?

    Erik: Oh, we can talk about that one forever.

    Me: Well, I don’t gots forever, so…

    Here’s a little bonus post for you guys, because I’m feeling so refreshed! (That feeling should last at least six hours.)

    Me: Erik was there any other solution for your mental illness besides suicide?


    Erik: Tons of pills and a fucked up reality.

    Me: Oh, that’s no good.

    Erik: So, for me, that could have been a solution. I could have chosen that, but it’s not what I did choose. It’s not what I sought. It’s not what I wanted. So, if you’re asking if there was some comparable answer to what I found here? No.

    Me (Somberly): Okay.

    Erik: I wouldn’t have found that relief, that release and this joy, this kind of presence that I have.

    Jamie (chuckling): I’m watching his hand gestures. They’re very, um… Sometimes he has this, I don’t know what to call it, like a hip-hop way of moving. I don’t know what to, like “Yo, yo.”

    Me: Oh yeah. Right.

    Jamie: It’s those gestures like they do in hip-hop. Kind of ghetto talk.

    Me: I know exactly what you’re talking about. With their fingers down sometimes (I show her.)

    Jamie: Yes! He’s demonstrating it in front of me.

    Talk about a major distraction. I bet Erik is tapping his foot in impatience.

    Me: News flash, Erik. You’re a white boy.

    Jamie giggles.

    Jaime (to Erik): Called out!

    Erik: Well, you know what? The soul of a black man is in me. I gotta let it out.

    Me: And the soul of a black woman sometimes, too!

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Erik: I love me some big, black women.

    Am I going to get in trouble with this? Sometimes I regret my “no editing” policy.

    Me: What were we even talking about? Seriously. Oh yeah. Anything else on that?

    Erik: No. I just couldn’t’ find anything that would give me what I needed. Nope. Nope.

    Me: Okay.

    Next week, I plan on doing a YouTube on aliens and possibly interviewing a Tall White and/or Short Gray (which is kind of scary.) I have tons os questions, but if you think of others that you’re SURE I don’t have on my list, let me know in the comments section, NOT VIA MY EMAIL. Thanks!

    Because so many people requested it, I plan to ask about the Malaysian Airliner during my next session if it’s not resolved by that time.

    Also, many of you have looked for Jamie and Erik’s small group channeling calls since Jamie is booked up for 2014. These “mini-readings” are booked through March, but they have openings through July, from what I understand. I had trouble finding the link, so here it is. PHONE READINGS

    There are three types: The first type of call is the famous/infamous Erik’s “Call-Outs,” which are designed for general questions about career, spiritual mission, past lives, relationships, health, etc. The second type of call is the “Group Phone Readings” which are Jamie’s gig, but you can still call in Erik if you want. Again, these are for all questions. Finally, there are the “Grievers Call.” With these, you can talk directly to your deceased loved one. Erik will bring them forward and, if necessary, help them communicate. You can use the other two types of calls to talk to your loved ones. This is nice to know if the Grievers Calls are booked for a while. As many will attest, all three are very powerful and immensely healing.

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