Channeling Erik®
  • Mental illness
  • October27th

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    Bipolar disease is often a terminal one, which was the case with Erik. He knows all too well about this disease and explains its spiritual basis.

    Me: Let’s talk about something you suffered with in life, Erik. Bipolar disorder. Some are aggressive and some are not, so it’d be great if you could cover both.

    (Pause)

    Jamie: I’m trying to get him on track.

    Me: Good luck!

    Jamie: What he’s talking about is how different it is in each person. He’s talking about his bipolar (air quotes) “issue.”

    Erik: For me, energetically, and for some people bipolar disease is completely inherited. Some people don’t sign up for it. Let’s look at both options. There is a group of scientists who think that nothing is inherited, and you manifest and create it on your own. That’s what I think. If it’s something that you’re looking for or that you need, you tend to create it for yourself, but you can have it in the way that you need to use it to learn whatever the fuck you need to learn.

    Me: Well, why does there seem to be a genetic basis for these?

    Erik: Mom, Mom, Mom. Think about this. There are that other group of scientists that think it is inherited, that’s how the mother and father’s DNA worked when they go together to create this specific pattern. Their thinking it’s more of a mechanical process. But we all know that the development of cells and the DNA in the body is not 100% mechanical. There’s an energetic component and an environmental one. Scientists just haven’t owned up to that. Give us 3 to 4 years and we’ll start to talk about how the energetic component affects the DNA and how this trumps “inherited” (air quotes again) disease that you’re getting from your parents. So, why does it seem like it’s inherited? Think about it. If you’re coming in with a specific disease or issue—

    (Long pause)

    Jamie: Sorry. He kind of jumped rails talking about two different ways that this happens so we’ll do each.

    Erik: Number one—

    (Pause)

    Jamie (grinning): Don’t, Erik.

    I chuckle.

    Erik: Let’s say I have bipolar disease. I definitely want somebody in my family or in life that has it as well so that they can understand it and I can have a support team. Or maybe I was supposed to come in and be the first person in the family with it. There are lessons there that are wrapped up in it. But there’s also—

    Jamie (smiling to Erik): This would be number two.

    Erik: You know how your pets will mimic or take on your energetic pattern that creates your physical problems, that shapes your DNA. Well, we can do this as well. So I come in. I’m not bipolar, but let’s say my grandma does, and I’m around her everyday and I love her a lot. She has it, and I’ve been round her for 6, 8, 10 years, and, all of a sudden, I have bipolar disease. I’m diagnosed with it, but I didn’t have it before. So they say, “Oh, it’s inherited. It’s coming up because of his hormones,” but really a very viable answer could be, “I love her so much that through my compassion for her throughout all those years, I’ve adopted that energetic pattern. Now, it’s physically showing up in me.

    Me: Interesting. I can see that in my own life. I’ve seen that pattern happen. For example, when my father developed a blood clot in his leg, a couple of weeks later, I did. I’ve never had before. And [when I was a teenager], I watched this show called, Marcus Welby, M.D. and there was this little kid who developed this disease called ITP, idiopathic thrombocytopenia purpura. I love saying that! It makes me seem so much smarter than I am. Then a couple of weeks later, I got that too. I can understand that. I see it in my own personal life.

    Erik (suddenly standing up, shouts): It’s the power of the brain! What you believe in is what you manifest. If you’re attracted to it and you see it, and it entertains you, or you feel like you can use it for some reason, whether for good or bad, –but remember, there’s no good or bad–there just is —you will start to manifest it in your own life.

    Me: Even if on a subconscious level, obviously.

    Erik: Absolutely. We know for damn sure you’re not trying to get a clot in your leg.

    Me: Yeah. Wee! Bring it on!

    Erik: But through your compassion and wanting to understand your dad and be kind of separated from him for whatever reason—we don’t have to talk about that right now—but you reach out to him energetically to heal, to help so you mimic and you end up with that. Just because you hang out with someone who has a disease does not mean that you will get it. So, people, please don’t lock yourself in your homes.

    I laugh.

    Erik: Please don’t walk around with robber gloves on or a rubber hat over your head so you can protect your thoughts from influence.

    Me: Sounds like you’re telling people not to become human condoms.

    Jamie laughs.

    Me: Can you give me a few examples of the spiritual causes for bipolar disease? It seems like most diseases are our soul trying to use out bodies to wake up and become aware, change course, do something different.

    Erik: Yes. First, it allows you to keep one foot in the Beyond and one foot in the body. Come on, isn’t anything “bi” something wonderful? Wink, wink. So for me, what I got out of it was I had this human experience, but I had this huge distance from being human. I could puppeteer myself through things, and I knew the right way to do it. I knew hos to listen, what to say, what a good reaction would be, but I was just far enough away from it that I could have a different perspective on it. That would make for a badass psychiatrist.

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Erik: But bipolar people have a hard time grounding themselves, and the purpose for that is so that they can have that other foot in this different dimension or realm, the afterlife, the Beyond, whatever the hell you want to call it. Being able to do that allows you to see the human life in a completely unattached way. It’s not like you don’t love it, Mom. You totally love your life. You’re in it to win it, but there’s this whole other supporting energy that says, “You don’t have to be as involved as much as you are.

    Me: So is that one of the most common spiritual causes?

    Erik: That was the main one for me.

    Me: I guess that was important to you so you could learn to observe in a disconnected way. That way you could become a better teacher like you are now.

    Erik: Yes.

    Me: Okay. Any other cause?

    Erik: Well, some people choose to be bipolar as a sabotaging element so they can’t have intimate relationships. It keeps them removed from emotional values. So it’s not so much about being in the human life and being in the Beyond as much as it is staying distant from emotional connections.

    Me: Is there a way we can approach and ameliorate it spiritually, and can it be cured?

    Erik: I believe that it can be cured. It would be in a scientific way, a chemical way to boost the physical change in the human body so that the energetic patterns …

    (He doesn’t finish his sentence.)

    Erik: So then you can take the energetic approach to maintain it. There’s a marriage between chemical science and energy science. Neither is more “correct.” They can work together.

    Jamie: He’s giving me image of digging a hole, but it’s like a grave. You have this big old shovel, and it can dig up the dirt. That’s the science part. It makes really physical alterations. And then the energetic side is when you come in with your own hands, and you’re scooping out dirt, moving it. It’s very involved where you’re manipulating the situation.

    Erik: Sometimes you need both to get over the mountain and reach your end result. Energetically, spiritually, how do we address this? It’s about allowing the bipolar person to be in the moment and not seeing that if they’re swinging from one side or the other that that’s good or bad or that they need to stay present. That’s a lot like with Alzheimer’s and autism. Those people have a hard time staying present in the Now or being linear. You know, first you have to brush your teeth; then you do this; then you do that. A lot of times, we don’t want to behave that way, so why is the outside telling us we have to do that to be “normal.”

    Erik (arms flying up in the air): What the fuck is normal and why do we have to behave that way? Why can’t we be uniquely ourselves with our disease, dis-ease, illness, whatever uniqueness we have, and be deemed normal for ourselves. That’s how we can approach this kind of illness to make it easier on the persons and [unintelligible] away from them.

    Jamie: Energetic patterns. That’s kind of how he’s talking about behaviors or reactions.

    Me: So what advice to you have for people with bipolar disease as far as, you know, how do they ameliorate it? Do they go through past life regression? Do they go to an energy healer? I mean, other than the medical, chemical approaches.

    Erik: Yeah! They get a team! My first bit of advice, if you have bipolar disease, is, ‘I hope you like fucking puzzles.’

    Erik flops in his chair.

    Erik: Because that’s what we are. And not one particular focus, uh, like I think what we call the “normal” person, they can have one personality and one focus and it’ll work in every situation you have throughout your life. Bipolars are not that way. We have to adapt our personalities and change our outlooks in order to receive a “correct” answer in our situation. There are so many elements put into play by our external environment that just doesn’t fit, so we have to keep adapting.

    Me: So there’s not just one approach. There’s a mixed approach that keeps changing.

    Erik: Yes. I would say, have your doctor, have your therapist, have your energetic healer, and I would definitely do hypnosis work.

  • October15th

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    Having been raised by parents with borderline personality disorder, this subject strikes a cord with me. Many of you might have family members or friends who suffer from this disease without knowing it, but it’s important to find out because by doing so, you gain a better understanding not only of them, but of yourself as well. When I found out my parents were borderline, resentments of the past faded and were replaced by compassion, it’s hard to be a person with tis disease.

    Here are some of the signs:

    • Extreme reactions—including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions—to abandonment, whether real or perceived
    • A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
    • Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
    • Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
    • Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
    • Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
    • Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
    • Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
    • Having stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.
    • Seemingly mundane events may trigger symptoms. For example, people with borderline personality disorder may feel angry and distressed over minor separations—such as vacations, business trips, or sudden changes of plans—from people to whom they feel close. Studies show that people with this disorder may see anger in an emotionally neutral face5 and have a stronger reaction to words with negative meanings than people who do not have the disorder.6

    Here’s what Erik has to say:

    Me: What’s the spiritual basis of borderline personality disorder? These people have real abandonment issues, and they also throw the baby out with the bath water meaning if you do one little thing wrong, they think you’re horrible. They no longer remember the good. You go from hero to zero.

    Erik: It’s a form of alienation. The contract is of saying, “Please misunderstand me so that I can understand myself better.”

    Me: Hmm!

    Erik: It’s almost like you’re forcing yourself to be on a one-man team. It gets misunderstood because others think they don’t know how to be on a team or they’re being punished for who they are, and it’s not that. It’s really just meant for them to be—it’s not really “alone” like in the sense of, “Nobody loves me. I’m all by myself.” It’s not the aloneness that implies abandonment.

    Me: It’s more about the independent need to search for their own identity.

    Erik: Yes. When you come across these people, you know in a past they were the extreme opposite where they’ve been a complete leach to an idea or a person, and they surrendered who they were: their ideas, their words, their thoughts. It’s one extreme to the next. All of the mental illnesses don’t have to be played out for the entire lifetime if they’re willing to learn why it’s there for them, even if it’s a physical or chemical issue. We know how to correct these, but people won’t put it on the market.

    Me: Yeah, that’d probably sink the pharmaceutical companies.

    Erik: Yes. You can’t patent what nature gives you for free. The meat of the banana is the life you’re living now, and the strips around it are congruent lives. There are some lives that don’t need to but up against us, parallel to us, because they’re not supporting the same lessons. They conflict, so you can peel those lives away from you and still have a wonderful connection to other lives.

    Me: I guess past life regression would work for that.

    Erik: Hypnotic regression. Remember all lives are happening at once.

    My bad.

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  • September23rd

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    Just for a change up, here’s an old one that will give you a taste of different mediums. This is Erik channeled through Jeannie Barnes. She’s mostly an angelic channeler, not a medium, but she’s very good. I remember when she introduced me to my personal guardian angel I just sobbed. It’s like I knew her. Here’ Erik tag teams with the angelic being by his side. Enjoy.

    Me: Okay, let’s get into various diseases. What is the spiritual basis for some of them—and I’ve talked about this with you through Jamie, already, but I want to see if you have anything else to add. Let’s see, like Alzheimer’s. Why do people get Alzheimer’s?

    Jeannie: Yeah, and they change so. They can go from being this soft, kind being to this grouch.

    Me: I know.

    Erik: Often, Alzheimer’s is a way to cope with the past. Even those who were really wonderful, gentle beings all their lives had trauma in their childhood. So, it’s a way of forgetting. Most of these patients hold a lot inside their heads. They were ones who never let out their anger—at least not all of it—or that never talked about their problems. They just buried them. So, when they get buried too long, they come out, wham!

    Me: Interesting. Hm. What about arthritis?

    (Long pause as Jeannie listens)

    Jeannie: That’s interesting. This is the angel talking now.

    Me: Oh, okay.

    Jeannie: Erik’s kind of standing back on this one.

    Angelic Being: Arthritis usually has to do with people who have either one of two things. Either they pushed themselves too hard, moving through life putting one foot in front of the other and just kind of pushing and forcing instead of moving with the flow of life. Or sometimes it has to do with resisting: resisting certain lessons in life or not paying attention to what it was they were supposed to learn in this life, which is also a type of resisting.

    Me: Oh! What about cancer?

    Jeannie: That’s a huge one.

    (Long pause)

    Angelic Being: Depending on where the cancer is in the body, it can mean different things.

    Me: Oh, okay. That makes sense.

    Angelic Being: But one thing that cancer patients all have is either a chance to leave the planet consciously or decide that they truly want to live.

    Me: Oh, I can see that! And it all rings so true, doesn’t it?

    Jeannie: It does, because when some people survive their cancer, they have this whole new outlook on life.

    Me: I know. I’ve seen that so may times in my practice.

    Jeannie: But for some people, it’s just a chance to go.

    Me: Like an exit point.

    Erik: So it’s an exit point or a “come to Jesus” moment,

    Jeannie: Exactly.

    Me: What about heart disease, like coronary artery disease?

    Erik: The heart always has to do with emotions, feelings. So heart disease usually comes from holding those feelings or emotions in instead of expressing them or allowing them to flow. It can be positive emotions or negative ones: grief, love, sadness, or even joy!

    Me: Wow, and anger too, I guess.

    Erik: Especially anger.

    Me: Okay, what about diabetes?

    Angelic Being: Diabetes is really one’s lesson to really take care of the body, caring for the physical body with the proper food, exercise, sleep, all of these things.

    Me: Yeah, because it’s very time consuming to have diabetes, all the focus on the body with blood sugar testing, watching the diet. But does it happen in a person who has not taken care of the body before in a past life?

    Erik: Usually, yes. Even children who come into this life with diabetes. Sometimes they’ve abused their body in a past life.

    Me: Oh, because one of my sisters developed diabetes after she had her baby, but even before that she’s always been incredibly attentive to her health. She’s a vegetarian, exercises daily, you know, very healthy lifestyle. I found it so weird that it could happen to her, but I guess it might be from a past life.

    Jeannie: Yeah.

    Me: Okay, what about HIV and AIDS? Sometimes I think this is a lesson for others, you know?

    Jeannie: Exactly.

    Erik: HIV is one thing that has a design to bring the world together. It happens across the world, and if you look and watch—when it first became known, people making quilts, people loving. It’s designed to bring the world together in love.

    Jeannie: Yeah, I remember clearly how back in the 80s people just banded together.

    Me: Yeah, with benefit concerts and so many other wonderful displays of love and unity. And it, I don’t know, helps us develop compassion. This is a group, in general, that has not received very much compassion.

    Jeannie: Yeah, yeah.

    Me: So it teaches us to have compassion and put away our stereotypical prejudices and hostilities.

    Erik: Right.

    Me: Okay, so there are so many people who were prefer not to be sick with mental illness, etc., so why do some stay sick despite all the positive efforts to get well? How are they creating that reality if they are working in a positive way to overcome their illness? So, it seems like there are some things we just don’t have control over. IF we did, we’d get well, or we wouldn’t get sick n the first place.

    Erik: Speaking from experience, sometimes that’s how I felt, Mom. From what I’ve learned here, again, it’s many layers. Some is karmic. There’s also a polarity in the world. You can’t go through life without challenges. You’re born and you die. There’s no getting away from that on the earthly plane. When someone becomes ill and seems to overcome it, it takes a tremendous amount of energy and work—and it’s very hard work. Sometimes, someone just gets tired of fighting and battling and just decides to let go. You were just talking about the diseases and why things come into the body. It’s a complicated question, because it deals with so many different things.

    Me: So really, part of it might be getting down to the spiritual basis of disease. Until you address that, all the positive efforts targeted toward the physical aspects of disease might not really cure you. Unless you address the spiritual basis, you can’t get well.

    Erik: Exactly. And it takes a huge amount of energy. You have to always be conscious about what you’re thinking—about thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes it gets to be too much.

    Me: Oh, I almost forgot. What’s the spiritual basis for mental illnesses like depression, bipolar disease—I mean in general. I’m sure it’s a little bit different for each one. I think in part these are people who want to work through a whole lot of issues so it can be their last lifetime, especially with schizophrenia. Or maybe it’s to teach others compassion and patience. But, uh, what’s your take on it, Erik?

    Erik: All of the above, Mom. Mental illness is often the result of many lifetimes, many karmic events all rolled into one. And you’re right about it being the last lifetime for some. It’s as if they’ve come back again and again and still haven’t learned what they needed to learn, so finally, mental illness then becomes an issue. Also, it’s why it’s one of the most difficult things to heal and cure—sometimes it can’t be cured. It teaches compassion also, so yeah.

    Me: So are you saying that in some cases it’s kind of a remedial class or summer school for those who just won’t learn their lessons any other way?

    Erik (laughing): Exactly, that’s really a good analogy.

    Me: What about mental retardation, Down’s Syndrome and other developmental disorders? I have a feeling those souls are usually highly evolved and are here to teach us joy and compassion, but I don’t know. I’m just part of the peanut gallery, here.

    Angelic Being: Those beautiful beings are all Beings of the Light. There is so much Light in them—-and so much wisdom!

    Me: Yeah, I can see that.

    Angelic Beings: Each time there is a soul who comes into the world with Down’s Syndrome or other mental challenges, it is all about bringing Love. Little angels that walk among the earth.

    Me: Wow, I’m getting shivers. (pause) Well, I guess that’s all we have time for. We have a session next week, though, so that’s good. Oh! Any messages from Veronica, my guardian angel? I want to tell her this: ‘I love you and I’m so grateful you’re sticking with me! I’m sure I’m not the easiest person to guide!’ And Erik, I want to tell you I love you with all of my heart, my soul, my entire being, and then some.

    Erik: Ditto, Mom! Ditto.

    Veronica: What do you mean, “not the easiest person to guide”? I have to laugh at that! Oh, you can have a stubborn nature at some times, but what you give—it is with great delight that I work with you. Even as a child, you were fun. Quick to laugh. You wore your emotions on your sleeve, and you loved everything and everyone, animals, plants. You’re a sister to me. Your role in their world is being played out now as we speak. I know. I know the grief that you experienced when Erik chose to come over and be with us, and yet look. Look at what you’ve done and all the hundreds and hundreds of people you and Erik have helped. You’ve made a pack, you know, the two of you, in the physical life and in the spiritual life. I love you more than you can even know. The light that emanates that we spoke of—that gold, purple and blue—it reaches so high—high, high into the heavens. You’re a jewel, a gemstone placed on the earth that shimmers and shines and draws to it those who need help and assistance. I thank you. I thank you. So go now, with peace and joy and many, many blessings.

    (And I thought I was sappy! I love her, though. She’s an amazing spirit, but she makes me blush sometimes.)

    Me: Aw, I couldn’t do it without you, Veronica, and you too, Erik. I love you both.

    So it seems disease is often the body’s way of acting as a tool for communication. It’s there to tell us: “Hey, you need to work on this,” or “Stop being complacent and lazy,” or “Are you forgetting what you came here to do?” It’s just so hard to be aware of this form of communication much less interpret it. So, I hope this has helped some of you.

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  • September22nd

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    I can’t lie. Yesterday was not easy. Yet another birthday without my son. These dates, his birthday and death anniversary, really never seem to get easier. There’s still so much sadness in my heart as I light the candles he’ll never blow out and sing that song that he’ll only hear from that invisible realm he’s in. I can’t see him smile along or cringe when we’re off key. Still, he can’t blame me for the notes I missed. It’s hard to sing when you cry. God, how much I miss him. 

    Me: How are you, Erik?

    Erik: Badass.

    Me: Of course you are.

    Robert: A lot of time he wears the same thing when I see him. It’s like this shirt with blue sleeves, kind of like a baseball jersey/

    Me: My god. That’s the shirt he died in. Oh my god. Three-quarter length sleeves?

    Robert: Yeah.

    Me: Erik, you could at least come to the party wearing something else?

    Erik shrugs his shoulders

    Erik: Sorry.

    Robert: He just put a cap on, and he kind of turned it to the side just a little bit.

    Me: Yeah, that’s how he wore them. You wearing jeans, Erik?

    Robert: He’s picking his nose, and he was admiring whatever came out of it!

    Trying to get a rise out of his mom, of course.

    Erik (looking up): Huh?

    Robert: He is wearing jeans.

    Time to move on.

    Erik: Mom, I want to talk about addiction.

    Robert: Is that on your list?

    Me: Yeah. Self-sabotaging addictions in general. Substance abuse, self-mutilation, eating disorders, etc.

    Erik: They’re all rooted in the same thing.

    Me: There are so many people who suffer from these self-destructive behaviors. Why do people do this to themselves?

    Erik (as if about to announce something earth-shattering) Bum, bum, BUM! It’s scarcity.

    Me: Scarcity of?

    Erik: Scarcity, in general, creates all kinds of things that humans might label as self-destructive. What is scarcity? It’s feeling like there’s never enough of something. You’re not enough, for instance. When it comes to self-mutilation, it could be that what you feel isn’t’ enough, so hurt yourself to feel pain, cuz maybe that will be enough. Or that kind of behavior might come from not feeling like the family you were born into is enough. When it comes to addiction—

    Me: And it’s probably all addiction.

    Erik: Yeah. Some people feel like their feelings are too much. Nope. That’s not it. It’s because there is something in your life that you feel like is not enough. Your feelings, which might in some cases drive you to become addicted to something, are just telling you that something in your life is out of sync. You need to look at it. What happens is a lot of people focus on what’s immediately in front of them, which is how they feel. Then, like in the case of addiction, they want to self-medicate. Like you said, all this kind of stuff is an addiction, cutting, getting involved in bad relationships, all of it. It’s an addiction to scarcity, and scarcity is fear based, chaos based.

    Me: And scarcity is an illusion, right?

    Erik: Scarcity is an illusion, but it’s there to serve us. It’s there to help us move forward and evolve. By the way, I have a new word to use when it comes to lessons.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: We use the word, “lessons” a lot, and we know, inherently, what it means, but to expand on that, what a lesson really is is it’s giving you the opportunity to adapt, because adaptability is what’s really driving our evolution. You have to adapt to move forward.

    Me: To adapt to what?

    Erik: To whatever it is in front of you and to do it in a way that doesn’t create suffering for you or for someone else.

    Me: Ah! Okay.

    Erik: You gotta be, in energy or spiritual terms, a chameleon.

    Me: So, we talked about why people self-mutilate, and part of that, I’m sure, is for getting attention, right?

    Erik: Yeah, and there’s the power behind having a secret. Some people do it because it’s a type of control that they can exert over their own physical body. “I can control when I hurt.” That gives you the opportunity to see your own power. You’re using it in a fucked up way, in my opinion, but… So in these cases, there’s a perceived scarcity of control or the privacy that you get from having control of your own thoughts and actions.

    Me: What about substance abuse? Any other reasons for that?

    Erik: I can go into all sorts of reasons, but ultimately people pursue it because they see what’s directly in front of them, and that’s the feelings that they feel, right?

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: These feelings can be the result of an experience that they may have had or didn’t have. There are other reasons. Maybe they got introduced to it because of their friends. That’s a peer pressure thing. In that case, when you see those friends doing what you’re not doing, you think you don’t have that. Scarcity. You don’t have enough, so you go and do it. It all boils down to that. That’s the thing about all this spiritual shit. It all comes down to something very, very simple. It becomes complicated because of al the different variations we create around that simple root.

    Me: For example?

    Erik: For instance, with cutting you might do it for the reasons we talked about like having a secret, controlling something.

    Me: What are the most common reasons, under the entire umbrella of scarcity, for substance abuse?

    (Pause)

    Me: Of course there can be a genetic component to it, right?

    Erik: The cool thing about genetics is that sometimes you come here spiritually with your genes wired in a certain way because that’s the other part that allows the lessons to unfold, but genes can be changed by what you experience, and experiences can be external to yourself or internal things that you feel.

    Interesting that he should bring this up because I just learned that PTSD can actually change the genes related to the way corticosteroids affect parts of the brain.

    Erik: All of that is controlled by consciousness, itself. Consciousness makes all of this possible. Some people might ask, “What does consciousness mean?” It means to be able to experience something. Part of being able to experience something involves the act of creation.

    Robert: I know he’s trying so hard to come up with the right words because he’s showing me different things.

    Me: Are you getting a lot of images from him?

    Robert: Yeah, because he’s trying to filter through it, to think of something more simplistic.

    For us simple minded people!

    Erik: The simplest explanation I can think of for consciousness is to be able to experience something. It’s really not just about being self-aware because there are certain types of consciousness that aren’t in the way that humans describe it. I guess I could add “self-awareness in the way that humans express it.” Just because we express self-awareness in a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the universal definition for it. Self-awareness can exist without knowing who you are.

    What rabbit hole is he taking us down?

    Robert: He’s kind of showing me the way self-awareness works on a universal force level.

    Erik: This isn’t going to sound like self-awareness, but it’s the best way I can put it. Think about a rock sitting in a field. This kind of goes back to a lot of philosophy shit.

    I giggle.

    Erik: So the rock is sitting in a field, and it kind of gets in the way of the grass growing around it. Then the grass has to grow in a different way because that rock is there. Or the rock might be sitting in a desert, and the wind has to go around it. That’s a type of, For instance, out in space, in our own solar system before the earth came along—there was a lot of shit floating around out there—it all seemed so random, but interstellar wind might throw a certain rock off course. That interaction between those things, which does take self-awareness, pushes that rock in a new direction just a little bit. Then, it pushes another rock off course, then another rock, and then another rock, and eventually you have the earth which wouldn’t be here if those collisions didn’t occur. There’s an awareness involved.

    Stay tuned for Part Two Wednesday!

  • August26th

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    This repost is about respite. A break from the grief of losing someone we love. A break from being mired in daily struggle. A break from being human. This is the first time Erik spoke to me without the need of a question prompt. He spoke with solemn passion. How timely.

    Erik: You know, Mom, before you ask me a question, I want to talk to you about people who want to take their own life. In some cases, the stress, the grief, whatever builds up, it’s like a volcano. Only so much can build before it has to release. The lesson in each case is that there is perfection in imperfection.

    Me: Mm hm.

    (Long pause)

    Jamie: He’s pausing. Erik, I can see that.

    Me: What? Is he picking his nose?

    Jamie (sounding touched): No. His eyes are tearing up.

    Me: Oh, Sweetie. It’s okay.

    Jamie: He’s just kind of readjusting his gestures and how he’s sitting so that he’s really not squared off with me; we’re not looking at each other face to face.

    (Pause)

    Jamie (to Erik): But, you know, I can see that you’re adjusting. I can see. I can see.

    Erik: Well, it’s hard …

    (Pause)

    Jamie (to Erik, in a warm, motherly tone): Take a deep breath. You don’t always have to be the fast talker.

    Me: Yeah, Sweetie. Take your time.

    Jamie (with a soft chuckle): I don’t mind a pause.

    Erik: It just throws me right back into my human state of mind—right back into my body—and I haven’t shaken hands with those demons in a long time.

    Me: Yeah, I know.

    Erik: And I’m happy not to shake hands with them anymore, but when you’re human, you think you have the power to override them—the internal thoughts, those crazy horses in your head that just run with ideas and thoughts that actually hold no truth. But because the thoughts are so heavy, they feel incredibly real, and we start to validate them as real and they’re not. It’s within this slice of anxiety, madness, grief, this really imbalanced state of mind and heart—that’s the imperfection that makes us perfect.

    Me: Not sure if I understand, but…

    Erik: In so many people who want to take their life, it’s just about getting out of the body, not an act or a willingness to die. It might be nice, ya know? First hand, I kinda know that experience.

    Me (solemnly): Yeah.

    Erik: A lot of times those people might be worried that they couldn’t do everything they wanted or needed to do, desired to. But then right before, they get this peace and calm, knowing that everything is going to be all right. All of a sudden, they know it’s all going to be okay. Really at that moment, they already left the body.

    Me: Oh!

    Erik: A lot of people I see that are headed toward the answers, committing suicide, attempting suicide, ending their life, they just need out of their body just for a certain moment. A lot of times they do that before they get a chance to follow through, and then they back down.

    Me: They just need a rest. A rest from being human.

    Erik: Yeah. And when people struggle to that point, like I said, many times it’s about the perfection of imperfection.

    Me: What do you mean by that? I just don’t understand.

    (Pause)

    Erik: Our perfectness is composed of a huge percentage of things that just aren’t’ right.

    Jamie (giggling): He kind of puts that in air quotes.

    Erik: I know there’s no right or wrong—there just “is”, but as humans, the brain has a hell of a hard time relaxing in that state of mind. It’s almost like we enjoy struggle more than we enjoy peace. And all of humanity has to learn this lesson for us to achieve it—to make it a natural state of being. Peace. That’s what our generations to come might experience, but for now, we’re still in a natural state of being in struggle. Our natural state of being as a human is based on being in a constant struggle. Even when you’re calm, you’re thinking, “How long is this going to last?” “When I get out of this, then I have to face that shit, and then I have to manage that crap over there.” You know, it’s still all fucked up, but you’re going to have these pockets of peace. We’re getting through all of this as humanity. Everyone has to learn to turn the dial on the emotional, mental, spiritual level from chaos and struggle to peace and calm. Until we do that, you know, we’re all attached to each other—we’re all antennas. And we can get those incredibly enlightened people, loving people, people who are aware, and their antenna inside their body just starts to pick up all the struggle and the chaos. And they don’t want it. Just like you, Mom. And some of those people just want a break from being human. But this whole media, vulnerability, kind of openness that you and I have gone through—it was done in a way to save other people but not you. And I know you’ll come soon enough and see how you can save yourself. And how you do that will not stop the openness, the storytelling, because we—

    Jamie (to Erik): Who’s we? (To me) You and him.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: We cannot even count how many people we’ve touched nor how many people that we have taught. So, now that they’re more knowledgeable and can heal through their grief and not leave this world as it’s changing—that absolutely is extremely valuable and extremely important, but never, ever more important than you. I hope knowing that helps.

    Me: Aw. I love you, Erik.

    Erik: I love you more.

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  • August21st

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    I’ve had EFT and have gone to a professional for it, too. Erik was the one who recommended it to me, and I know he’s recommended it to others, including some of my family members. I’ve never seen it not work. Our energetic body has a certain pattern of meridians that the tapping changed. I love this guy’s YouTube videos on it, and I also think he’s absolutely adorable. Love the hair.

    I’ve added more to this previous post. 

    HOW EFT WORKS

    INTRODUCTION TO EFT

    CHAKRA CLEARING

    SELF-ACCEPTANCE

    STRESS RELIEF

    DEPRESSION

    These are just a few of his videos. You can visit his YouTube channel HERE.

  • May5th

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    Although today may seem like a selfish “Elisa Day” because of what might appear to be the shameless plugging of my own books, I do want people to know more about my journey. Raising five children is no walk in the park, especially a rambunctious set like mine. I had to do my best in spite of the fact that many struggled with ADHD, learning disabilities, mental illness, among other things. I’ve been told that my children chose my husband and I because they needed to grapple with an immense amount of pain related to their past lives and other parents might not have the same capacity for patience, love and encouragement.

    I believe I was supposed to go through this for many reasons. First, it’s made me more humble and compassionate. There were many points in my motherhood that I felt close to being broken. That infused me with a sense of humility. There are things much more important in the world than me and my little ego. Second, I learned to embrace my mistakes and flaws (and there were plenty) and see them as gifts. Third, I learned that the actions of others are never really meant to be personal vendettas designed to bring me down. Fourth, it taught me how important it is to let go. Because of my upbringing, I expected to give my children a fairytale childhood. It didn’t work out that way. We have had our trouble, our drama, our disappointments and our pain. But, love helped us survive.

    That said, I learned that love is the secret to letting go of pain, and, according to Erik, that is what I’m here to teach. When I say “letting go of pain,” I don’t want you to envision the hero in a movie with white knuckled fingers gripping frantically to the frame of a  broken window of a skyscraper while the villain repeatedly stomps on his hand, ripping his palm against the broken glass. I’m talking about giving that pain a long and loving hug, thanking it for the lessons it provided, and sending it on it’s way. I’m still working on this and have a long way to go, but the disappointment that comes from dashed expectations has lost its sting.

    Here are my three first books. They are all award-winning and translated into multiple languages. Each one comes in all possible book formats.

    RAISING CHILDREN WHO THINK FOR THEMSELVES

    “Raising Children Who Think for Themselves, by Elisa Medhus, M.D., is the proud recipient of three highly prestigious awards: The 2002 Parent’s Choice Award, The NAPPA Gold Award (National Parenting Publications Association,) and the National Parenting Center Seal of Approval.”

    NAPRA Book Review:

    The problems that seem pervasive among youth today, from mindless consumerism and premature sex to school shootings and drug abuse, have raised an uproar on all sides, and the blame for these ills gets bounced around like a ping-pong ball!–TV, video games, lack of religion, rap music, and on and on. But Dr. Medhus, after hundreds of interviews with children from all kids of backgrounds, reaches the conclusion that the problems really all spring from a common source: personalities that react to outside forces rather than their own beliefs and morals. Laying out the difference between “externally directed” people who act according to impulses, peer pressure, and the fear of punishment, and “self-directed” people, who have been taught to think for themselves and follow their own consciences, she goes on to share parenting methods intended to encourage the introspection, empathy, and high self-esteem that gives self-directed children their ability to resist negative influences. The author discusses specific techniques for handling many kinds of situations, with rules and disciplinary measures that help kids understand why bad behavior is wrong, instead of shaming or scaring them into blind submission. Indispensible advice for parents seeking to inspire their kids to self-confidence, adventurousness, independence, competence, and the ability to make positive contributions to the world.–MZ

    HEARING IS BELIEVING: HOW WORDS CAN MAKE OR BREAK OUR KIDS

    (This one is pretty funny. Erik stories abound!)

    HEARING IS BELIEVING demonstrates that the words we say to children can have a profound positive – or negative – effect and it goes on to show readers how a few simple changes in parenting language can reward them with family harmony, turn parenting into a joy rather than a burden, and help them rear children with healthy self-esteem. This book suggests we can teach children how to think for themselves and learn to be rewarded with acceptance as a consequence of their contribution rather than needing acceptance and conforming. Dr. Medhus offers changes in language and parent/child communication that are simple to implement and continue to use. The results are immediately gratifying—many who have made these changes say they see profound effects in their children and their families within two weeks.
    Once these harmful phrases and their effects are exposed for what they really are, they’re easy to eliminate from our daily dialogue. HEARING IS BELIEVING offers better and more empowering alternatives for each phrase, as well as stories that illustrate the results. Parents will be rewarded with a fulfilling and harmonious relationship with all children.

    RAISING EVERYDAY HEROES

    Written for parents, teachers, counselors, and everyone else involved with raising children, this book emphasizes the need for kids to learn how to make smart decisions in the face of today’s permissive culture and strong peer pressure. Many parents go to great lengths to protect their children from dangerous influences, boredom, want, and even the consequences of the kids’ own choices, but Elisa Medhus, winning author of the 2002 Parent’s Choice Award and National Parenting Publication Award believes this doesn’t allow kids to develop the skills they need to be successful adults. She tells readers how to give their children opportunities to overcome adversity while still in a loving family environment, so they can develop internal wisdom, creative problem-solving skills, and basic common sense. Raising Everyday Heroes offers easy-to-implement techniques for raising responsible, self-reliant children.

  • March13th

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    I had such a wonderful time with the family in Destin, Florida this week. The weather cooperated only one day, but that day made up for everything. Navarre Beach was delightful: powdered sugar sand, crystal clear water and not more than 6 people stretched out in the sun there. We also went to the quaint town of Seaside to spend the day. 

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    I’d like to extend a special thanks to Kate and Jesse for manning the helm in my absence. Also, thank you, everyone, for keeping your emails and FB messages to a minimum during my down time. Enjoy today’s post! 

    Me: Can you give advice for the mentally ill and their caregiver? Actually, let’s expand that to any one with an illness and their caregiver, but if we need to do it separately, that’s okay.

    Erik: Well, if we’re talking about mental illness, there are tons of those.

    Me: Well, let’s just talk about those who are chronically ill and unable to care for themselves. How about that? I’ll simplify it for you, Erik!

    Erik: Dumb it down, Mom!

    I chuckle.

    Erik: Okay. For the caregiver, I think it would be best if every day that they wake up before they go to dedicate their day and their life to caring for that person, they say this: “Even though this person, this child, parent or maybe their career–(You gotta take care of that, too.) Even though that person cannot do for themselves, they are still honorable and respectable on the inside.” The part that sucks about becoming incapable when you were once capable or just coming in to this life incapable is that you are truly on the inside. You’re really there. You’re still processing shit. It’s normally the fucking body that becomes broken, even if it’s a mental disease. The soul is not broken though. So the soul can comprehend, communicate, reach out, see all the goodness, see all the pain, everything, but the body cannot relay it. It’s like you need a megaphone to communicate, but the megaphone is broken. You’re carrying around a broken megaphone.

    Me: Aww.

    Erik: But you’re totally fine. You’re saying the words, everything.

    Me: Mm.

    Erik: But nobody’s ever fucking listening.

    Me (with sympathy): Aww.

    I know he can empathize from his own struggles in life.

    Jamie: He’s talking about a girl who is, uh, her story of being mentally incapable, but the parents never gave up, kept pushing her, and she learned how to use the computer.

    Me: Oh, that’s a real story isn’t it? I saw that on TV.

    Erik: Yeah.

    Me: Yeah. Yeah.

    Erik: Everyone in the world should read her fucking book. They should be forced, commanded to read her story.

    Hm. Being a little harsh, Erik? Who made you dictator? Talk about overkill.

    Me: I don’t think you can force people to do that, Erik.

    Erik: There should be a fucking curriculum for every human being, and I swear to god, the book Nonviolent Communication should be in there.

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: And this chick’s book, because it would put into perspective that no matter how the body is misshapen, who’s to say you’re shaped right or wrong, if it works great or poorly? Who’s to say what that fucking is? The way that you treat, love, care, provide care for someone should be that way you would want it for yourself.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: And if you cannot do that, you need to fucking walk away for a while. You need to take a break. Caregivers, care providers often don’t know when that is, because they feel too responsible, and they won’t set up breaks for themselves; they won’t call in reinforcements.

    Me: Well, what if they can’t afford reinforcements or don’t’ have those resources?

    (Long pause)

    Erik: Then you do what you’d do to your two year-old when you can no longer stand to be around them, because you’re not providing good care, and they’re pushing your buttons.

    Me: You beat them?

    I’m joking here in case you didn’t know.

    Erik: You lock them somewhere safe, and you sit outside the door and you catch your breath.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: Not in the bathroom where they can turn on the fucking water or pull all the toilet paper out but in their room or in their playpen, and you step around the corner and you breathe. There are ways to train yourself to take a break, but many people won’t because they feel like if they do, then they have the right to say, “I pushed myself. I am a good person. Measure me by this,” when really, you’re a dick [to yourself].

    Me: We’ll it seems like most of the time it’s like, “I’m a failure if anything happens to this person. I need to do this for them. I need to do everything I can and more.”

    Erik: Trust me. I don’t care if the person is two years old or a hundred or if they’ve been incapable since they were born or fell into incapability, they know that you can only go so far.

    Me: Yeah. But there’s also the public. Others. Others in their lives that would see them. “Wait. You weren’t caring for them these past two hours? You had to watch your show? What the hell?”

    Erik: Two hours is a little too long to be by yourself. I’m talking about stepping around the corner, not leaving for two hours.

    Where a two year-old is concerned, two hours is often not enough. And I disagree with him here. You need more time away, as long as the person you’re taking care of will be safe for that period of time.

    Erik: There are other things that people don’t think of like turning on the fucking music.

    Me: Yeah. That would be good for both!

    Erik: Yes!

    Me: And meditation! Don’t forget about that!

    Erik: Yes. Smells. People don’t think about smells.

    With his smellier pranks, he obviously thinks about it a lot.

    Erik: You know when you have an incapable person and they’re calm, give them the smell they know they like. Is it a food? Is it aromatherapy, you know, an essential oil?

    Me: Uh huh.

    Erik: And then when they’re going nuts and pushing your fucking buttons, bring out that smell.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: It’s your way of communicating, “No, we gotta get calm.” People forget about using senses. They forget to set the mood, because they go into protection mode. The caregiver goes into protection mode and can’t think about providing any more care than protecting themselves.

    Me: Protecting themselves from what?

    Erik: Going off the deep end.

    Me; Oh, okay. Got it. Anything else on that?

    Erik: Oh, we can talk about that one forever.

    Me: Well, I don’t gots forever, so…

    Here’s a little bonus post for you guys, because I’m feeling so refreshed! (That feeling should last at least six hours.)

    Me: Erik was there any other solution for your mental illness besides suicide?

    (Pause)

    Erik: Tons of pills and a fucked up reality.

    Me: Oh, that’s no good.

    Erik: So, for me, that could have been a solution. I could have chosen that, but it’s not what I did choose. It’s not what I sought. It’s not what I wanted. So, if you’re asking if there was some comparable answer to what I found here? No.

    Me (Somberly): Okay.

    Erik: I wouldn’t have found that relief, that release and this joy, this kind of presence that I have.

    Jamie (chuckling): I’m watching his hand gestures. They’re very, um… Sometimes he has this, I don’t know what to call it, like a hip-hop way of moving. I don’t know what to, like “Yo, yo.”

    Me: Oh yeah. Right.

    Jamie: It’s those gestures like they do in hip-hop. Kind of ghetto talk.

    Me: I know exactly what you’re talking about. With their fingers down sometimes (I show her.)

    Jamie: Yes! He’s demonstrating it in front of me.

    Talk about a major distraction. I bet Erik is tapping his foot in impatience.

    Me: News flash, Erik. You’re a white boy.

    Jamie giggles.

    Jaime (to Erik): Called out!

    Erik: Well, you know what? The soul of a black man is in me. I gotta let it out.

    Me: And the soul of a black woman sometimes, too!

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Erik: I love me some big, black women.

    Am I going to get in trouble with this? Sometimes I regret my “no editing” policy.

    Me: What were we even talking about? Seriously. Oh yeah. Anything else on that?

    Erik: No. I just couldn’t’ find anything that would give me what I needed. Nope. Nope.

    Me: Okay.

    Next week, I plan on doing a YouTube on aliens and possibly interviewing a Tall White and/or Short Gray (which is kind of scary.) I have tons os questions, but if you think of others that you’re SURE I don’t have on my list, let me know in the comments section, NOT VIA MY EMAIL. Thanks!

    Because so many people requested it, I plan to ask about the Malaysian Airliner during my next session if it’s not resolved by that time.

    Also, many of you have looked for Jamie and Erik’s small group channeling calls since Jamie is booked up for 2014. These “mini-readings” are booked through March, but they have openings through July, from what I understand. I had trouble finding the link, so here it is. PHONE READINGS

    There are three types: The first type of call is the famous/infamous Erik’s “Call-Outs,” which are designed for general questions about career, spiritual mission, past lives, relationships, health, etc. The second type of call is the “Group Phone Readings” which are Jamie’s gig, but you can still call in Erik if you want. Again, these are for all questions. Finally, there are the “Grievers Call.” With these, you can talk directly to your deceased loved one. Erik will bring them forward and, if necessary, help them communicate. You can use the other two types of calls to talk to your loved ones. This is nice to know if the Grievers Calls are booked for a while. As many will attest, all three are very powerful and immensely healing.

  • February18th

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    Here’s something we can all learn from.

    Me: The winner of the first Ask Erik submissions is Marcie. She says, “I hope I am not too late to send a question to Erik.  I had written to you a couple of weeks ago about my husband having schizophrenia and that he had almost killed himself in August of 2013.  He was completely out of his mind and told ambulance drivers and a nurse in the hospital that he had killed myself and my daughter.  You cannot imagine how scary this is.  He is medicated and seems to be regressing at times.  I am so worried about his future and what will happen to him and I am also equally worried about my own future.  I want to move away this year sometime and follow my daughter to wherever she moves to.  I am struggling so badly with all my emotions and what is the right thing to do and I love my husband dearly and am so worried about him. I am sorry for the long-winded question above.  Any help would be appreciated.  I don’t know if I am too late for this submission, I hope not. I also want to quickly tell you how much I loved your book and I hope that you and Erik plan on writing another one soon.”

    Robert: The question is?

    Me: That’s a tough one. It’s more of a statement.

    Erik: I already know what she needs to hear. When it comes to mental illness in general, sometimes it can be rooted in a genetic predisposition, but sometimes we can have emotional experiences in life that rewire our genetics, our DNA, to come down a disease like schizophrenia.

    Erik actually told me the same thing when I was doing a session with Jamie and him this morning!

    Me: You mean it rewires your brain and neurons?

    Erik: Yes, but through the DNA. If they were to map out the DNA of that person, they’d be able to find the specific markers for schizophrenia. Sometimes it’s there from birth, There’s nothing you did to create that, but sometimes it can be created because something happened that destroyed you emotionally so much that through being traumatized and broken, rewires itself to cause those genes to be expressed. This is the case with schizophrenia, with depression, with any other thing. There’s no blame, because you can’t blame the people who created those experiences, and you can’t blame yourself for experiencing things the way that you do: acting or reacting to changes. You have to be compassionate with yourself. Sometimes that’s what the lesson is.

    Me: In her case, what do you think the lesson is?

    (Pause)

    Me: Or any of them: the husband, the daughter, or her—or all of them.

    Erik: I was going to add something else, but, for them, the bottom line is this. This is a common dilemma for a lot of people. It’s about being okay with uncertainty. That’s pretty general and expansive, but that’s the root. In just one answer, I can’t tell this person, ‘Get over yourself. Be okay with uncertainty.’ That’s part of a process, part of a lifelong thing.

    (Pause)

    Robert (to Erik): Yeah. (to me) He’s telling me that one of the ways that this guy, the husband, can learn to be okay with uncertainty is to grasp onto something that is certain. For him that means he needs to be disciplined and take his medicine when they tell him to and not stop it arbitrarily.

    Robert to Erik): Okay Erik, you know I’m a stickler for accuracy so please don’t be leading me down the wrong direction!

    Erik: That’s my main point with him. This is an example of duality at work. In order to be okay with uncertainty, you have to grasp onto something that’s certain. In his case, that certainty is taking his medicines consistently and sticking up for himself when he feels like things aren’t going the right way, because there are times when he’s taking his medicines, but they don’t work right.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: They just kinda quit. For her, they were paired together, because they both have that issue, uncertainty. For her, certainty—and this is just an example—might be allowing herself to be okay—

    Robert (to Erik): How are you saying that, Erik?

    (Long pause as Robert listens to our babbling boy.)

    Robert: I’ll just have to paraphrase a little bit. It was basically that, on an emotional level, she sometimes wants to be drawn to do things, and she may feel proud of herself, but her sense of certainty comes in in allowing herself to just flow with the emotions that she feels. Just go with them. So, if she feels like, in the moment, that she needs be to all over him, watching him, and making sure he’s taking his meds and things like a nurse would do, then she needs to do that and not feel bad about it, like she’s smothering him or anything like that. In the same breath, if it becomes too much for her, because this isn’t the only thing going on in her life, but it’s a pretty damn big one, if anything, she needs to recognize that responsibility doesn’t always have to be on her shoulders. There are other people that can help her.

    Me: Like family members?

    Erik: Family members, friends, anyone—talking to his doctors, if it’s related to her husband, calling on other people when she can’t carry the load anymore, because it’s not fair for one person to take on the responsibility.

    Me: Oh, no. Of course not. Is she safe, she and her daughter?

    Erik: When his schizophrenia is acting up, when he’s having delusions and stuff, right now they’re more like verbal expressions like when he said that he killed them. For him, that feels like a nightmare. Have you ever heard of instances where a person has had what they used to call “shell shock”? Now you can call it posttraumatic stress disorder. They end up acting out there dreams. Like you can be a Vietnam vet who thinks they’re in the middle of a war. In the dream, you’re choking the enemy. Well, that can play out in real life, and they’re literally choking their wife or whoever’s in bed with them.

    Me: Yeah. I’ve heard of that.

    Erik: Yeah. So as long as he remains unstable, that can happen. But if he consistently takes his meds and makes sure that he vocalizes—he and her—when it doesn’t seem like they’re working and he’s starting to hear voices again or having strange thoughts—he needs to vocalize that. There are going to be instances where people who are schizophrenic lose touch with reality, and they can’t vocalize it. That’s where she could come in, or someone else around her who’s watching him.

    Me: So, they would help him vocalize?

    Erik: Right. It’s a two-way street. It’s a lesson in responsibility. When he is able to vocalize it, he needs to vocalize it, but she and other caregivers, their responsibility is not waiting for him to say it, because there will be times where he can’t. They need to be paying attention to any changes in his behavior. They need to ask him, but there will be times when he’ll deny it, but regardless of what he says, if she suspects something, she needs to take him to the professionals.

    Me: Right. Now, she wants to move away this year and follow her daughter, but she just doesn’t know if it’s the right thing to do. I don’t know if that means leaving her husband behind.

    Erik: The bottom line answer for that is that this is an opportunity for her to go with what she feels in her heart is right.

    Robert: He crosses his arms.

    Erik: She knows the answer.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: The reason she would even ask that in the first place, and I don’t mean to make her feel like she’s confronted or anything else, but the reason anyone would ask that question is because they feel uncertain. There’s that uncertainty thing again! The one thing that’s certain for her in this instance is what she feels in her heart that she knows is right.

    Me: It seems like uncertainty is more of a conflict between the brain and the heart.

    Erik: Right. Right. Uncertainty comes when we let the brain overrule the heart. The brain is where all our doubt comes from, all our second-guessing, our expectations. It’s a very difficult balance for people to learn, using both head and heart so that they work together. You always start with the heart first, and allow the mind to be open to hearing what the heart says. Run it through each one of them. In some cases, the heart, if you don’t run it through the brain, can cause you to take a reckless action. The reason it might play out recklessly is because the heart was instilling a feeling in you, but it was doing that so you would stop and run it through your brain and think, “Okay. This is the feeling I’m having. This is what I want to feel,” and then the brain will go, “Okay. How will we go about acting on that in a way that won’t create more challenges?”

    Me: Yeah, you don’t want to take a feeling and act upon it in the wrong way. That’s what happens with crimes of passion!

    Erik: Yeah, that’s what blind passion is, but in her case, she knows in her heart what’s right. She needs to run it through her brain to find that certainty, but she’s passing it off on to something external. That’s why she’s asking me this question. She’s uncomfortable with her own inner uncertainty. One option might be that she stays with him a little bit longer so she feels like she’s done all she can. Maybe she does think she has done all that she can. Then, she might say, “Well, okay. Now it’s time for his family or friends to take over, because I’ve reached my limits.”

    Me: Yeah, you can run out of emotional resources.

    Erik: Right, and it’s up to her to choose between these or choose something else to deal with that lesson in uncertainty.

    Me: I know we’re over time, but is there anything else you want to share in this situation, Erik?

    Erik: I know, over time, things will work out a lot better than she realizes as long as she listens to what I’m saying. She needs to first lead from the heart, then run it through her head. She second guesses herself and judges herself or starts blaming. This happens when she uses her head first. Remember that certainty can come from creating that balance between head and heart and leading with your heart. Feel first, think second.

    That’s something Erik stresses time and time again. Feel first, think second, and emotional honesty is a critical part of the equation.

     

  • February5th

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    Oh my god, guys! I just had my first  (of many) sessions with Robert, and I was blown away. The first part is mostly an introduction: His life, how he met Erik, how their relationship grew and what it’s like now. Here’s an interesting fact that I got from two spirit communicators, including Jamie: In many past lives, Robert was Erik’s teacher. Poor Robert. 

    Me: Why are some people able to stand more stress than others?

    Like my husband. The rock. Nothing fazes him, not even me.

    Erik: That’s from training. They’ve trained themselves to feed off of the adrenaline, feed off of what chemical changes the body makes when they’re under stress, so when there’s no stress around, they feel lethargic, out of touch, lazy, useless, hopeless.

    Me: Yeah, some people really do thrive on it, on stress. It makes them feel alive.

    Erik: Yeah, that’s fucked up.

    For those of you who don’t already know, my husband races motorcycles for fun. I’m talking about 200 mph, knee dragging the ground type racing. Thank god he’s padded from head to toe, because I was looking at the suit he used last race season, and clearly he has been a human hockey puck more than once. Gulp. Anyway, this fits with what Erik is saying.

    Me: I know. Now, how does it affect our body? Maybe you can go through all the bodies: emotional, spiritual, physical, mental.

    Erik: Mm. Stress affects the four bodies. Mental—

    Jamie (to Erik): Mm. Slow down.

    Erik: In the mental body, stress attacks the ability to focus. We pretty much talked about this when we were talking about stress before. Staying in the future, it puts you in the possibilities rather than in the now.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: So, it fights with the mind’s willingness to stay centered, and it triggers the mind—the energy speeds up to trigger the mind to think ahead and be ahead, because obviously if you’re in the now, it’s too late.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: —which is such bullshit!

    Jamie and I giggle.

    Jamie: Such bullshit.

    Erik: So, emotion.

    Me: Right.

    Erik: Stress wreaks havoc on the emotional body, because, the same that it does with the mind, it revs it up to be prepared. It won’t let you feel what you are actually going through in the now. It’ll mask it. It covers it up with layers of energy that’s been created by the head for these multiple possibilities that could be coming that are putting stressors on you.

    Me: Hm.

    Me: Or even if you, say, know what you’re outcome is going to be, and you’re stressed out about it, and it hasn’t happened, like let’s say you were busted for something, and you know your ass is going to jail, and they told you on the 5th they’re coming to get your fucking ass.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik: And so you know you’re nervous, and you’re stressed out about the 5th, cuz when it comes, there you have it. Well, your head is thinking about how it’s going to play out, how’s this person going to look. Are they going to be mean to you; are you going to be safe; are you going to like it—

    Huh?

    Erik: —is this going to be horrible? It’s going through the past, “I regret doing that. Why did I do that? Why did I make the mistake?” But it’s never once letting you stay in the now. So, even though you know what you’re outcome is supposedly going to be, there are so many variables that are the mystery and those create the stress.

    Me: Hm. Very interesting.

    Erik: The heart. All of a sudden the emotional body will not let you feel what you’re going through naturally. It’ll cover it with all of these layers of energy that your mind is creating, because you’re trying to prep when really what your heart should be doing is staying completely open, emotionally honest, so that whatever situation comes your way, their way, you can be readily available for it and be able to handle it.

    Me: Well, you said, “prep” but at first you said, “Yeah, you need to be prepared,” but now you’re talking about preparation in a negative way. How should we be prepared?

    Erik: If I say prepared in a positive way, I mean that you sit down and look at the plausible outcomes, and you think of maybe three ways of how you can handle each one. Then, you let it go and go back to being in the now.

    That’s the hard part. Letting go of things has never been my strong suit, except maybe my sanity, but I blame my kids for that, in part.

    Me: What about the negative way? Are you prepared for a disaster that might not even happen?

    Erik: I didn’t think we’d be into the disaster thing, but, yes, similar to that.

    Me: I guess expectation would be a better word. You expect the worst to happen.

    (Pause)

    Me: Maybe?

    Erik: Expectation really sucks, because if you’re expecting it, you’re almost setting it up to be that way.

    Me: Yeah. If you put yourself in that place of expecting, you’ll always be expecting. Law of Attraction 101.

    Erik: Yeah. You gotta remove expectation. I don’t mind that you prepare yourself; I just don’t want you to get stuck in one of those avenues of possibilities.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: I want you to come back into the present, to the now, to being centered.

    Me: Right.

    Erik: The negative part is that most people will worry and stress and freak out about what’s going to happen, and they’re trying to prepare for it, but they won’t fucking come out of that state of mind so they constantly stress about it.

    Me: Mm. I know what that feels like. So, if it has affected our bodies, how can we reverse the effects?

    Erik: Well, we didn’t finish going through the bodies, Mom.

    Me: Oh, okay!

    Erik: So with the head and the heart being all fucked up, the body can’t naturally be balanced, because all four roommates aren’t on the same page.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Head, heart, body, soul. So, the body will start to compensate, because it’s in this high stress moment. The mind is revving up the emotions and the body to respond to things that aren’t even happening. So the heart and the body are already in responsive mode. It’s already releasing hormones and chemicals, tightening the muscles, collecting lactic acid and all kinds of fucking crazy shit.

    Me: When did you get to be a biologist, Erik?

    Erik: Thank you, thank you. I’ll be taking autographs later.

    I guess next he’ll be talking about the Krebs cycle.

    Me (chuckling): Professor Erik.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik: I can’t even pretend that that wasn’t for real. But you wanted to know chemically what the body does. That’s exactly what it does, and if you stay in a high stress situation all the time and your adrenaline is up, you can blow that shit out. Then all of a sudden when you get back to what’s really neutral, you feel like it’s the bottom of the fucking ocean. You’re used to your adrenals firing off for no fucking reason at all just because your mind is going on some goddamn journey.

    Me: Okay. Mine is always on some kind of journey.

    Without a sextant or compass, might I add.

    Erik: And we sit around, and we wonder—

    Jamie bursts out laughing.

    Jamie: His voice just squeaked! I don’t think I can imitate that!

    Erik: We sit around and wonder why (this is when his voice crescendos to a high girlie pitch) fucking meditation doesn’t work!

    Jamie (still laughing): It just went up really high!

    Erik: It’s the same thing. Meditation is the focus of the mind. Stressors are actually a focus of the mind, but it’s all fucking made up. It’s not in the now. Emotions can truly react in the now; the body only can truly react in the now, but the mind? Man it just doesn’t understand time at all.

    Me: That totally makes sense. So, we can reverse the effects with meditation?

    Erik: Yes.

    Me: Anything else? Is that the biggest one?

    Erik: That’s the hugest one. It’s state of mind, and if you can’t figure out how to reach that state of mind, look at what’s under the most stress in the body. Then find a massage therapist. Find a physician that you really trust. Find a holistic physician that you really trust. Maybe get some herbal supplements that will support you and your body in finding, you know, ground zero again.

    Me: Yeah. Interesting. So, there are a lot of options. That’s good. This blog member says, “Stress is known to be one of the biggest silent killers, and more illnesses can be attributed to it, but why now? Does our environment have a major impact on stress? Our surroundings?” I don’t know what he means by, “why no?.”

    Erik: Yes, and I totally understand the other one, Mom, cuz now they’re talking about, “Oh, cancer. It’s actually related to forms of stress.”

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Stressors in the body. Migraines, they come from stress.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: And so now, all of a sudden, if we boil everything down, it’s back to stress. I think that we’re coming out with that information now to help people find a more enlightening way of life. The truest answer in alleviating stress is meditation. So, this is a great excuse for all these New Age centers to become more modern, more respected, and that’s why we’re finding out that yoga works. It kind of puts the mind in the now, connects it to the body, allows you to understand what you’re feeling in the present.

    Me: It makes all those four roommates behave themselves.

    Erik: Yes! It puts them all on the same page! That’s what Americans are mostly missing.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: We’re signing up for all this huge fucking external world that’s collapsing, and we’re not acknowledging and honoring the internal world.

    Me: Yeah, we want those four roommates to sit in a circle in the living room and sign Kum-ba-yah.

    Jamie: He was talking about Kum-ba-yah, too!

    Me: Oh, my god!

    Jamie: He was like, Kum-ba-yah! (She sings it.)

    Me: One playing a guitar, one playing a little tambourine. I like that idea. Okay, Anything else on stress?

    Erik: Nah. I’m good.

  • February4th

    9 Comments

    I spoke to Erik today, and he’s decided that the Channeling Erik Facebook group will continue to be open. He hopes that there will be no drama or negativity, but if there is, of course members can choose to leave the group. He’d prefer that people stay and use the discord as a teachable moment, a time to practice unconditional love, to be nonjudgmental and, in some cases, to teach. 

    Today, I’m going to have my first channeling session with blog member and gifted medium, Robert. I’ll try to post it after the second part of this series on stress, depending on how much time I have for transcription. I’ll also ask him to, through Erik, answer the winner’s Ask Erik questions, and that will be up and running when I get it transcribed. 

    I’m so, so excited about the Channeling Erik Weekend of F-ing Enlightenment starting this Friday! The event is completely full. I can’t wait to hear what Erik has to share and to acquaint/reacquaint myself with the blog members lucky enough to attend. Par-tay time!

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    Me: Erik, you’ve experienced it numerous times when you were here, but what can we do about it, and don’t just say marijuana is the answer! So, why do we have it? Well, first of all tell us what you can like why we have it, how can we get over it—

    Jamie: What is “it” again?

    Me: Stress.

    (Pause, followed by Jamie’s laughter.)

    Erik: We have stress because we put more faith and power into the future than into the present.

    Me: Mm! That’s good!

    Erik: How loud do I have to fucking be—

    Jamie: Okay, sorry. He’s being very loud. “HOW LOUD DO I FUCKING HAVE TO BE”? He’s looking at me like, “Jamie, where’s your animation? You talk about it all the time! You need to be mimicking me.”

    Jamie and I both giggle.

    Erik: To teach people, but if they’re stress out, because it’s something they cannot control—and I’m telling you, 99% of the time, it’s something that’s in the future, and it hasn’t even come yet!

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: You’re stressed about what so and so will say when they read the report. They haven’t even read the fucking report yet! So, why are you stressed out? Handle it as it comes, people!

    Me: Easier said than done, though, because we can’t—

    Erik: No. It’s quite easy.

    Me: Well, we can’t stop ourselves from thinking about possibilities.

    Erik: It’s fine to be prepared. You can go through the possibilities. When you’re prepared, you go through all of the plausible outcomes, and you set up how you want to react to it or what you want to say to it.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: You don’t linger on one. You don’t’ go, “Oh, I think that she’s not going to like it”, and then adopt that they’re not going to like it.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: That’s crazy! You prep. Okay, if she doesn’t like it, then I can pitch this, then I can find out why she doesn’t like it, and I can do that, that, and talk to so and so.

    I’d like to get know this so and so person. Seems like they have a lot of power!

    Erik: And then you wait until that future becomes the now, and you handle it in that moment.

    Me: I like that!

    Don’t know if I can do it, but…

    Erik: That’s where most of stress come from, and the reason why smoking—

    Jamie bursts out laughing.

    Me: Oh! I knew he would go there!

    Erik: That’s the reason why smoking marijuana is an answer. It’s because it puts you in the present.

    Me: Ah.

    Erik: It narrows your mind down to where it can’t wander off into future possibilities. You can’t sustain living in the future when you’re high.

    Me: Well, you can’t be high all the time.

    Erik: Creativity. Wouldn’t the world be a kinder place?

    Me: Yeah. Probably. But when the marijuana is out of your body, then there you go; you’re not in the now anymore. So, how’s that going to help?

    Erik: Well, what if you just get high to get to the point?

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: Through the waiting phase, where you claim you can’t be disciplined enough, and you must live in the future, because you must be prepared which is a false line of thinking if that’s the way you’re thinking. So, I get you high.

    Jamie (laughing): Oh my god. It’s like if you can imagine he has this kind of lawyer face on. He’s leaning forward with his elbows on his knees being very serious. He has his baseball cap on today.

    Me: Aw. I wish I could see that. What color is it?

    Jamie: The hat is red.

    Me: Oh, okay.

    Jamie: I’ve never seen him in a red one.

    Me: I think he had a red one.

    Of course he may have gone to the celestial mall and bought one, I guess.

    Me: I think it had a sort of maroon tint to it to be slightly gay.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik (laughing): Loud and proud, Mom. Loud and proud.

    Jamie and I howl in laughter.

  • October25th

    6 Comments

    Me: Anyway, let’s go to the sister of anxiety and go on the depression. A lot of people out there are depressed now, and of course it seems like there’s more incidence of depression now. What’s behind that, spiritually? Why do people get depressed?

    Erik: There is, first, let’s not get it confused, Mom. Those are sisters?

    Me: Okay, brothers! I don’t know! They’re enemies; they’re opposites. You tell me.

    Jamie leans back and laughs hard.

    Jamie: He’s teasing you.

    Erik (with a girlie-like enthusiasm): Anxiety, depressions, sisters forever!

    Me: BFFs. They’re BFFs

    Erik: Yeah, depression has this magical way of making you feel like nobody understands you. I’d like to call it a curse, but that’s not the truth. You’re experiencing the depression because you can’t ground yourself or link yourself into your life, into what’s happening. And some of it’s a bit of a safety mechanism to where you withdraw, you come in. So, a lot of this depression is very valuable because when you draw in, you have time to look at yourself. You have time for quiet internal dialog and direction. The catch is you gotta fucking come out of it, right? So the pulling in part for moments here and there and here and there and here and there—

    Enough already!

    Erik: —can actually benefit you. But if you’re choosing to stay in it or if you’re just unaware of how to get out of it, this is like getting caught in a dryer.

    Jamie (giggling): In a dryer?

    Me: What?

    Jamie: I know, and that’s the visual I have in my head—this tiny person in a big, huge dryer and it’s just looping; it’s spinning.

    I chuckle. Some of the images he sends her!

    Erik: You’re spinning all your energy, and you’re trying not to tumble, not to tumble, not to tumble, that you’re not even thinking about opening the door and stepping out. You’re trapped in this, and it’s taking so much energy and it’s exhausting to try to stay upright. You don’t even think about opening the door and stepping out.

    Is it just me, or is he repeating things over and over?

    Erik: The overall, not kind of spiritual tone—I mean, I guess it’s more of a spiritual tone, not a lesson, because people step into depression for—now this is a variety of reasons. I can’t even put it into one or two pockets. It’s like millions of pockets of why we come into this, but the lesson that you do get out of it is how you go internal, how you cut ties from your entire surroundings and look at the self, look at you. The golden nugget is—

    Jamie (chuckling): Golden nugget.

    (Pause)

    Jamie (to Erik): I get it. Move on.

    Erik: — is how to address yourself without a broken mind.

    Jamie (looking puzzled): I’m asking him to explain it.

    Erik: Cuz when you go inward and you cut all the ties, then most people want to fall into, “I’m alone; I’m alone; I’m alone. Nobody understands me; nobody understands me” and it’s rote. It just goes again and again and again.

    Me: Like that dryer.

    Erik: Like the dryer. But the beauty of that depression is when you’re able to separate all those ties, pull in to those quiet moments but not have the broken record play and play and play. Instead, say, “I’m here for a moment in time. What can I see from where I’m standing?” to look out but not engage out. Depression doesn’t let you engage. It closes you in.

    (Pause)

    Jamie: He doesn’t know where to go from here, so he’s giving the ball back to you.

    Me: All right, so how do you reach out? That’s easier said than done! How do you get out of your shell, just by being more conscious about it and saying, “Okay, I gotta get out of my shell.”? That’s not easy when you’re in the throes of depression.

    Erik: Yeah, and most of the time people don’t even know to ask. They think it’s just normal or that they’re having a crazy fit and that crazy fit will go away soon.

    Jamie (dropping her head and sighing): He’s getting loud again!

    Erik: I hope anyone who’s watching or anyone who’s listening—when you don’t feel right. When…you…don’t…feel…right, whether you think you’re crazy, whether you think it’s just for a moment in time, whether you feel like it’ll heal naturally on its own or whether you think there’s no end in sight, if you don’t feel (air quotes) right, which is your definition of balance or security or safety, you need to touch base with someone. C’mon, you guys have buddies to tell each other when to—

    Jamie (blushing): He said, “to rub your boobs” but the vision is clearly checking for lumps in your breast”

    Me (Letting out a surprised guffaw first): Okay, good.

    Erik: Boob buddies, right?

    Jamie and I both giggle.

    Erik: Why can’t you have depression buddies or “I don’t feel right” buddies, and as soon as you’re “off” you go and check in with this buddy be it your therapist, your doctor, your mom, your dad, your best friend, your sibling, whoever, and saying, “Feeling fucky today. Don’t know what it is” and they can say, “Well what do you need?”

    Not playing with my boobs, that’s for sure. Unless it’s Antonio Banderas and then I might at least think about it.

    Erik: They can help you with some questions and then you’ll know, “Okay if I’m calling you every day here, then I probably need to seek extra help” or that depression buddy can say, “You need to go get professional help or someone who’s going to understand you better than me.”

    Me: Okay, so Erik, if I get a boob buddy, will you get a testicular lump buddy?

    Jamie (Laughing hard swaying back and forth in her chair): He’s cracking up so hard!

    Erik: Deal. Deal.

    Me: I can just see that. Not getting a good visual. This is probably a good time to stop.

    Jamie (still laughing) gives the “cut it off” sign.

    Jamie: He’s giving the Captain Morgan where one of his feet is up on my table (and his fist under his chin.) And yeah. (Grinning nervously) That’s all.

    Me: Hmm. There must be something more to that, but we’ll stop.

    Jamie grins widely and moves her head in short nods.

    I wonder what that was all about. I think I know. What about you guys?

     



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