Channeling Erik®
  • Mental illness
  • May5th


    Although today may seem like a selfish “Elisa Day” because of what might appear to be the shameless plugging of my own books, I do want people to know more about my journey. Raising five children is no walk in the park, especially a rambunctious set like mine. I had to do my best in spite of the fact that many struggled with ADHD, learning disabilities, mental illness, among other things. I’ve been told that my children chose my husband and I because they needed to grapple with an immense amount of pain related to their past lives and other parents might not have the same capacity for patience, love and encouragement.

    I believe I was supposed to go through this for many reasons. First, it’s made me more humble and compassionate. There were many points in my motherhood that I felt close to being broken. That infused me with a sense of humility. There are things much more important in the world than me and my little ego. Second, I learned to embrace my mistakes and flaws (and there were plenty) and see them as gifts. Third, I learned that the actions of others are never really meant to be personal vendettas designed to bring me down. Fourth, it taught me how important it is to let go. Because of my upbringing, I expected to give my children a fairytale childhood. It didn’t work out that way. We have had our trouble, our drama, our disappointments and our pain. But, love helped us survive.

    That said, I learned that love is the secret to letting go of pain, and, according to Erik, that is what I’m here to teach. When I say “letting go of pain,” I don’t want you to envision the hero in a movie with white knuckled fingers gripping frantically to the frame of a  broken window of a skyscraper while the villain repeatedly stomps on his hand, ripping his palm against the broken glass. I’m talking about giving that pain a long and loving hug, thanking it for the lessons it provided, and sending it on it’s way. I’m still working on this and have a long way to go, but the disappointment that comes from dashed expectations has lost its sting.

    Here are my three first books. They are all award-winning and translated into multiple languages. Each one comes in all possible book formats.


    “Raising Children Who Think for Themselves, by Elisa Medhus, M.D., is the proud recipient of three highly prestigious awards: The 2002 Parent’s Choice Award, The NAPPA Gold Award (National Parenting Publications Association,) and the National Parenting Center Seal of Approval.”

    NAPRA Book Review:

    The problems that seem pervasive among youth today, from mindless consumerism and premature sex to school shootings and drug abuse, have raised an uproar on all sides, and the blame for these ills gets bounced around like a ping-pong ball!–TV, video games, lack of religion, rap music, and on and on. But Dr. Medhus, after hundreds of interviews with children from all kids of backgrounds, reaches the conclusion that the problems really all spring from a common source: personalities that react to outside forces rather than their own beliefs and morals. Laying out the difference between “externally directed” people who act according to impulses, peer pressure, and the fear of punishment, and “self-directed” people, who have been taught to think for themselves and follow their own consciences, she goes on to share parenting methods intended to encourage the introspection, empathy, and high self-esteem that gives self-directed children their ability to resist negative influences. The author discusses specific techniques for handling many kinds of situations, with rules and disciplinary measures that help kids understand why bad behavior is wrong, instead of shaming or scaring them into blind submission. Indispensible advice for parents seeking to inspire their kids to self-confidence, adventurousness, independence, competence, and the ability to make positive contributions to the world.–MZ


    (This one is pretty funny. Erik stories abound!)

    HEARING IS BELIEVING demonstrates that the words we say to children can have a profound positive – or negative – effect and it goes on to show readers how a few simple changes in parenting language can reward them with family harmony, turn parenting into a joy rather than a burden, and help them rear children with healthy self-esteem. This book suggests we can teach children how to think for themselves and learn to be rewarded with acceptance as a consequence of their contribution rather than needing acceptance and conforming. Dr. Medhus offers changes in language and parent/child communication that are simple to implement and continue to use. The results are immediately gratifying—many who have made these changes say they see profound effects in their children and their families within two weeks.
    Once these harmful phrases and their effects are exposed for what they really are, they’re easy to eliminate from our daily dialogue. HEARING IS BELIEVING offers better and more empowering alternatives for each phrase, as well as stories that illustrate the results. Parents will be rewarded with a fulfilling and harmonious relationship with all children.


    Written for parents, teachers, counselors, and everyone else involved with raising children, this book emphasizes the need for kids to learn how to make smart decisions in the face of today’s permissive culture and strong peer pressure. Many parents go to great lengths to protect their children from dangerous influences, boredom, want, and even the consequences of the kids’ own choices, but Elisa Medhus, winning author of the 2002 Parent’s Choice Award and National Parenting Publication Award believes this doesn’t allow kids to develop the skills they need to be successful adults. She tells readers how to give their children opportunities to overcome adversity while still in a loving family environment, so they can develop internal wisdom, creative problem-solving skills, and basic common sense. Raising Everyday Heroes offers easy-to-implement techniques for raising responsible, self-reliant children.

  • March13th


    I had such a wonderful time with the family in Destin, Florida this week. The weather cooperated only one day, but that day made up for everything. Navarre Beach was delightful: powdered sugar sand, crystal clear water and not more than 6 people stretched out in the sun there. We also went to the quaint town of Seaside to spend the day. 

    th-3 \th-2





    I’d like to extend a special thanks to Kate and Jesse for manning the helm in my absence. Also, thank you, everyone, for keeping your emails and FB messages to a minimum during my down time. Enjoy today’s post! 

    Me: Can you give advice for the mentally ill and their caregiver? Actually, let’s expand that to any one with an illness and their caregiver, but if we need to do it separately, that’s okay.

    Erik: Well, if we’re talking about mental illness, there are tons of those.

    Me: Well, let’s just talk about those who are chronically ill and unable to care for themselves. How about that? I’ll simplify it for you, Erik!

    Erik: Dumb it down, Mom!

    I chuckle.

    Erik: Okay. For the caregiver, I think it would be best if every day that they wake up before they go to dedicate their day and their life to caring for that person, they say this: “Even though this person, this child, parent or maybe their career–(You gotta take care of that, too.) Even though that person cannot do for themselves, they are still honorable and respectable on the inside.” The part that sucks about becoming incapable when you were once capable or just coming in to this life incapable is that you are truly on the inside. You’re really there. You’re still processing shit. It’s normally the fucking body that becomes broken, even if it’s a mental disease. The soul is not broken though. So the soul can comprehend, communicate, reach out, see all the goodness, see all the pain, everything, but the body cannot relay it. It’s like you need a megaphone to communicate, but the megaphone is broken. You’re carrying around a broken megaphone.

    Me: Aww.

    Erik: But you’re totally fine. You’re saying the words, everything.

    Me: Mm.

    Erik: But nobody’s ever fucking listening.

    Me (with sympathy): Aww.

    I know he can empathize from his own struggles in life.

    Jamie: He’s talking about a girl who is, uh, her story of being mentally incapable, but the parents never gave up, kept pushing her, and she learned how to use the computer.

    Me: Oh, that’s a real story isn’t it? I saw that on TV.

    Erik: Yeah.

    Me: Yeah. Yeah.

    Erik: Everyone in the world should read her fucking book. They should be forced, commanded to read her story.

    Hm. Being a little harsh, Erik? Who made you dictator? Talk about overkill.

    Me: I don’t think you can force people to do that, Erik.

    Erik: There should be a fucking curriculum for every human being, and I swear to god, the book Nonviolent Communication should be in there.

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: And this chick’s book, because it would put into perspective that no matter how the body is misshapen, who’s to say you’re shaped right or wrong, if it works great or poorly? Who’s to say what that fucking is? The way that you treat, love, care, provide care for someone should be that way you would want it for yourself.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: And if you cannot do that, you need to fucking walk away for a while. You need to take a break. Caregivers, care providers often don’t know when that is, because they feel too responsible, and they won’t set up breaks for themselves; they won’t call in reinforcements.

    Me: Well, what if they can’t afford reinforcements or don’t’ have those resources?

    (Long pause)

    Erik: Then you do what you’d do to your two year-old when you can no longer stand to be around them, because you’re not providing good care, and they’re pushing your buttons.

    Me: You beat them?

    I’m joking here in case you didn’t know.

    Erik: You lock them somewhere safe, and you sit outside the door and you catch your breath.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: Not in the bathroom where they can turn on the fucking water or pull all the toilet paper out but in their room or in their playpen, and you step around the corner and you breathe. There are ways to train yourself to take a break, but many people won’t because they feel like if they do, then they have the right to say, “I pushed myself. I am a good person. Measure me by this,” when really, you’re a dick [to yourself].

    Me: We’ll it seems like most of the time it’s like, “I’m a failure if anything happens to this person. I need to do this for them. I need to do everything I can and more.”

    Erik: Trust me. I don’t care if the person is two years old or a hundred or if they’ve been incapable since they were born or fell into incapability, they know that you can only go so far.

    Me: Yeah. But there’s also the public. Others. Others in their lives that would see them. “Wait. You weren’t caring for them these past two hours? You had to watch your show? What the hell?”

    Erik: Two hours is a little too long to be by yourself. I’m talking about stepping around the corner, not leaving for two hours.

    Where a two year-old is concerned, two hours is often not enough. And I disagree with him here. You need more time away, as long as the person you’re taking care of will be safe for that period of time.

    Erik: There are other things that people don’t think of like turning on the fucking music.

    Me: Yeah. That would be good for both!

    Erik: Yes!

    Me: And meditation! Don’t forget about that!

    Erik: Yes. Smells. People don’t think about smells.

    With his smellier pranks, he obviously thinks about it a lot.

    Erik: You know when you have an incapable person and they’re calm, give them the smell they know they like. Is it a food? Is it aromatherapy, you know, an essential oil?

    Me: Uh huh.

    Erik: And then when they’re going nuts and pushing your fucking buttons, bring out that smell.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: It’s your way of communicating, “No, we gotta get calm.” People forget about using senses. They forget to set the mood, because they go into protection mode. The caregiver goes into protection mode and can’t think about providing any more care than protecting themselves.

    Me: Protecting themselves from what?

    Erik: Going off the deep end.

    Me; Oh, okay. Got it. Anything else on that?

    Erik: Oh, we can talk about that one forever.

    Me: Well, I don’t gots forever, so…

    Here’s a little bonus post for you guys, because I’m feeling so refreshed! (That feeling should last at least six hours.)

    Me: Erik was there any other solution for your mental illness besides suicide?


    Erik: Tons of pills and a fucked up reality.

    Me: Oh, that’s no good.

    Erik: So, for me, that could have been a solution. I could have chosen that, but it’s not what I did choose. It’s not what I sought. It’s not what I wanted. So, if you’re asking if there was some comparable answer to what I found here? No.

    Me (Somberly): Okay.

    Erik: I wouldn’t have found that relief, that release and this joy, this kind of presence that I have.

    Jamie (chuckling): I’m watching his hand gestures. They’re very, um… Sometimes he has this, I don’t know what to call it, like a hip-hop way of moving. I don’t know what to, like “Yo, yo.”

    Me: Oh yeah. Right.

    Jamie: It’s those gestures like they do in hip-hop. Kind of ghetto talk.

    Me: I know exactly what you’re talking about. With their fingers down sometimes (I show her.)

    Jamie: Yes! He’s demonstrating it in front of me.

    Talk about a major distraction. I bet Erik is tapping his foot in impatience.

    Me: News flash, Erik. You’re a white boy.

    Jamie giggles.

    Jaime (to Erik): Called out!

    Erik: Well, you know what? The soul of a black man is in me. I gotta let it out.

    Me: And the soul of a black woman sometimes, too!

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Erik: I love me some big, black women.

    Am I going to get in trouble with this? Sometimes I regret my “no editing” policy.

    Me: What were we even talking about? Seriously. Oh yeah. Anything else on that?

    Erik: No. I just couldn’t’ find anything that would give me what I needed. Nope. Nope.

    Me: Okay.

    Next week, I plan on doing a YouTube on aliens and possibly interviewing a Tall White and/or Short Gray (which is kind of scary.) I have tons os questions, but if you think of others that you’re SURE I don’t have on my list, let me know in the comments section, NOT VIA MY EMAIL. Thanks!

    Because so many people requested it, I plan to ask about the Malaysian Airliner during my next session if it’s not resolved by that time.

    Also, many of you have looked for Jamie and Erik’s small group channeling calls since Jamie is booked up for 2014. These “mini-readings” are booked through March, but they have openings through July, from what I understand. I had trouble finding the link, so here it is. PHONE READINGS

    There are three types: The first type of call is the famous/infamous Erik’s “Call-Outs,” which are designed for general questions about career, spiritual mission, past lives, relationships, health, etc. The second type of call is the “Group Phone Readings” which are Jamie’s gig, but you can still call in Erik if you want. Again, these are for all questions. Finally, there are the “Grievers Call.” With these, you can talk directly to your deceased loved one. Erik will bring them forward and, if necessary, help them communicate. You can use the other two types of calls to talk to your loved ones. This is nice to know if the Grievers Calls are booked for a while. As many will attest, all three are very powerful and immensely healing.

  • February18th


    Here’s something we can all learn from.

    Me: The winner of the first Ask Erik submissions is Marcie. She says, “I hope I am not too late to send a question to Erik.  I had written to you a couple of weeks ago about my husband having schizophrenia and that he had almost killed himself in August of 2013.  He was completely out of his mind and told ambulance drivers and a nurse in the hospital that he had killed myself and my daughter.  You cannot imagine how scary this is.  He is medicated and seems to be regressing at times.  I am so worried about his future and what will happen to him and I am also equally worried about my own future.  I want to move away this year sometime and follow my daughter to wherever she moves to.  I am struggling so badly with all my emotions and what is the right thing to do and I love my husband dearly and am so worried about him. I am sorry for the long-winded question above.  Any help would be appreciated.  I don’t know if I am too late for this submission, I hope not. I also want to quickly tell you how much I loved your book and I hope that you and Erik plan on writing another one soon.”

    Robert: The question is?

    Me: That’s a tough one. It’s more of a statement.

    Erik: I already know what she needs to hear. When it comes to mental illness in general, sometimes it can be rooted in a genetic predisposition, but sometimes we can have emotional experiences in life that rewire our genetics, our DNA, to come down a disease like schizophrenia.

    Erik actually told me the same thing when I was doing a session with Jamie and him this morning!

    Me: You mean it rewires your brain and neurons?

    Erik: Yes, but through the DNA. If they were to map out the DNA of that person, they’d be able to find the specific markers for schizophrenia. Sometimes it’s there from birth, There’s nothing you did to create that, but sometimes it can be created because something happened that destroyed you emotionally so much that through being traumatized and broken, rewires itself to cause those genes to be expressed. This is the case with schizophrenia, with depression, with any other thing. There’s no blame, because you can’t blame the people who created those experiences, and you can’t blame yourself for experiencing things the way that you do: acting or reacting to changes. You have to be compassionate with yourself. Sometimes that’s what the lesson is.

    Me: In her case, what do you think the lesson is?


    Me: Or any of them: the husband, the daughter, or her—or all of them.

    Erik: I was going to add something else, but, for them, the bottom line is this. This is a common dilemma for a lot of people. It’s about being okay with uncertainty. That’s pretty general and expansive, but that’s the root. In just one answer, I can’t tell this person, ‘Get over yourself. Be okay with uncertainty.’ That’s part of a process, part of a lifelong thing.


    Robert (to Erik): Yeah. (to me) He’s telling me that one of the ways that this guy, the husband, can learn to be okay with uncertainty is to grasp onto something that is certain. For him that means he needs to be disciplined and take his medicine when they tell him to and not stop it arbitrarily.

    Robert to Erik): Okay Erik, you know I’m a stickler for accuracy so please don’t be leading me down the wrong direction!

    Erik: That’s my main point with him. This is an example of duality at work. In order to be okay with uncertainty, you have to grasp onto something that’s certain. In his case, that certainty is taking his medicines consistently and sticking up for himself when he feels like things aren’t going the right way, because there are times when he’s taking his medicines, but they don’t work right.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: They just kinda quit. For her, they were paired together, because they both have that issue, uncertainty. For her, certainty—and this is just an example—might be allowing herself to be okay—

    Robert (to Erik): How are you saying that, Erik?

    (Long pause as Robert listens to our babbling boy.)

    Robert: I’ll just have to paraphrase a little bit. It was basically that, on an emotional level, she sometimes wants to be drawn to do things, and she may feel proud of herself, but her sense of certainty comes in in allowing herself to just flow with the emotions that she feels. Just go with them. So, if she feels like, in the moment, that she needs be to all over him, watching him, and making sure he’s taking his meds and things like a nurse would do, then she needs to do that and not feel bad about it, like she’s smothering him or anything like that. In the same breath, if it becomes too much for her, because this isn’t the only thing going on in her life, but it’s a pretty damn big one, if anything, she needs to recognize that responsibility doesn’t always have to be on her shoulders. There are other people that can help her.

    Me: Like family members?

    Erik: Family members, friends, anyone—talking to his doctors, if it’s related to her husband, calling on other people when she can’t carry the load anymore, because it’s not fair for one person to take on the responsibility.

    Me: Oh, no. Of course not. Is she safe, she and her daughter?

    Erik: When his schizophrenia is acting up, when he’s having delusions and stuff, right now they’re more like verbal expressions like when he said that he killed them. For him, that feels like a nightmare. Have you ever heard of instances where a person has had what they used to call “shell shock”? Now you can call it posttraumatic stress disorder. They end up acting out there dreams. Like you can be a Vietnam vet who thinks they’re in the middle of a war. In the dream, you’re choking the enemy. Well, that can play out in real life, and they’re literally choking their wife or whoever’s in bed with them.

    Me: Yeah. I’ve heard of that.

    Erik: Yeah. So as long as he remains unstable, that can happen. But if he consistently takes his meds and makes sure that he vocalizes—he and her—when it doesn’t seem like they’re working and he’s starting to hear voices again or having strange thoughts—he needs to vocalize that. There are going to be instances where people who are schizophrenic lose touch with reality, and they can’t vocalize it. That’s where she could come in, or someone else around her who’s watching him.

    Me: So, they would help him vocalize?

    Erik: Right. It’s a two-way street. It’s a lesson in responsibility. When he is able to vocalize it, he needs to vocalize it, but she and other caregivers, their responsibility is not waiting for him to say it, because there will be times where he can’t. They need to be paying attention to any changes in his behavior. They need to ask him, but there will be times when he’ll deny it, but regardless of what he says, if she suspects something, she needs to take him to the professionals.

    Me: Right. Now, she wants to move away this year and follow her daughter, but she just doesn’t know if it’s the right thing to do. I don’t know if that means leaving her husband behind.

    Erik: The bottom line answer for that is that this is an opportunity for her to go with what she feels in her heart is right.

    Robert: He crosses his arms.

    Erik: She knows the answer.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: The reason she would even ask that in the first place, and I don’t mean to make her feel like she’s confronted or anything else, but the reason anyone would ask that question is because they feel uncertain. There’s that uncertainty thing again! The one thing that’s certain for her in this instance is what she feels in her heart that she knows is right.

    Me: It seems like uncertainty is more of a conflict between the brain and the heart.

    Erik: Right. Right. Uncertainty comes when we let the brain overrule the heart. The brain is where all our doubt comes from, all our second-guessing, our expectations. It’s a very difficult balance for people to learn, using both head and heart so that they work together. You always start with the heart first, and allow the mind to be open to hearing what the heart says. Run it through each one of them. In some cases, the heart, if you don’t run it through the brain, can cause you to take a reckless action. The reason it might play out recklessly is because the heart was instilling a feeling in you, but it was doing that so you would stop and run it through your brain and think, “Okay. This is the feeling I’m having. This is what I want to feel,” and then the brain will go, “Okay. How will we go about acting on that in a way that won’t create more challenges?”

    Me: Yeah, you don’t want to take a feeling and act upon it in the wrong way. That’s what happens with crimes of passion!

    Erik: Yeah, that’s what blind passion is, but in her case, she knows in her heart what’s right. She needs to run it through her brain to find that certainty, but she’s passing it off on to something external. That’s why she’s asking me this question. She’s uncomfortable with her own inner uncertainty. One option might be that she stays with him a little bit longer so she feels like she’s done all she can. Maybe she does think she has done all that she can. Then, she might say, “Well, okay. Now it’s time for his family or friends to take over, because I’ve reached my limits.”

    Me: Yeah, you can run out of emotional resources.

    Erik: Right, and it’s up to her to choose between these or choose something else to deal with that lesson in uncertainty.

    Me: I know we’re over time, but is there anything else you want to share in this situation, Erik?

    Erik: I know, over time, things will work out a lot better than she realizes as long as she listens to what I’m saying. She needs to first lead from the heart, then run it through her head. She second guesses herself and judges herself or starts blaming. This happens when she uses her head first. Remember that certainty can come from creating that balance between head and heart and leading with your heart. Feel first, think second.

    That’s something Erik stresses time and time again. Feel first, think second, and emotional honesty is a critical part of the equation.


  • February5th


    Oh my god, guys! I just had my first  (of many) sessions with Robert, and I was blown away. The first part is mostly an introduction: His life, how he met Erik, how their relationship grew and what it’s like now. Here’s an interesting fact that I got from two spirit communicators, including Jamie: In many past lives, Robert was Erik’s teacher. Poor Robert. 

    Me: Why are some people able to stand more stress than others?

    Like my husband. The rock. Nothing fazes him, not even me.

    Erik: That’s from training. They’ve trained themselves to feed off of the adrenaline, feed off of what chemical changes the body makes when they’re under stress, so when there’s no stress around, they feel lethargic, out of touch, lazy, useless, hopeless.

    Me: Yeah, some people really do thrive on it, on stress. It makes them feel alive.

    Erik: Yeah, that’s fucked up.

    For those of you who don’t already know, my husband races motorcycles for fun. I’m talking about 200 mph, knee dragging the ground type racing. Thank god he’s padded from head to toe, because I was looking at the suit he used last race season, and clearly he has been a human hockey puck more than once. Gulp. Anyway, this fits with what Erik is saying.

    Me: I know. Now, how does it affect our body? Maybe you can go through all the bodies: emotional, spiritual, physical, mental.

    Erik: Mm. Stress affects the four bodies. Mental—

    Jamie (to Erik): Mm. Slow down.

    Erik: In the mental body, stress attacks the ability to focus. We pretty much talked about this when we were talking about stress before. Staying in the future, it puts you in the possibilities rather than in the now.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: So, it fights with the mind’s willingness to stay centered, and it triggers the mind—the energy speeds up to trigger the mind to think ahead and be ahead, because obviously if you’re in the now, it’s too late.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: —which is such bullshit!

    Jamie and I giggle.

    Jamie: Such bullshit.

    Erik: So, emotion.

    Me: Right.

    Erik: Stress wreaks havoc on the emotional body, because, the same that it does with the mind, it revs it up to be prepared. It won’t let you feel what you are actually going through in the now. It’ll mask it. It covers it up with layers of energy that’s been created by the head for these multiple possibilities that could be coming that are putting stressors on you.

    Me: Hm.

    Me: Or even if you, say, know what you’re outcome is going to be, and you’re stressed out about it, and it hasn’t happened, like let’s say you were busted for something, and you know your ass is going to jail, and they told you on the 5th they’re coming to get your fucking ass.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik: And so you know you’re nervous, and you’re stressed out about the 5th, cuz when it comes, there you have it. Well, your head is thinking about how it’s going to play out, how’s this person going to look. Are they going to be mean to you; are you going to be safe; are you going to like it—


    Erik: —is this going to be horrible? It’s going through the past, “I regret doing that. Why did I do that? Why did I make the mistake?” But it’s never once letting you stay in the now. So, even though you know what you’re outcome is supposedly going to be, there are so many variables that are the mystery and those create the stress.

    Me: Hm. Very interesting.

    Erik: The heart. All of a sudden the emotional body will not let you feel what you’re going through naturally. It’ll cover it with all of these layers of energy that your mind is creating, because you’re trying to prep when really what your heart should be doing is staying completely open, emotionally honest, so that whatever situation comes your way, their way, you can be readily available for it and be able to handle it.

    Me: Well, you said, “prep” but at first you said, “Yeah, you need to be prepared,” but now you’re talking about preparation in a negative way. How should we be prepared?

    Erik: If I say prepared in a positive way, I mean that you sit down and look at the plausible outcomes, and you think of maybe three ways of how you can handle each one. Then, you let it go and go back to being in the now.

    That’s the hard part. Letting go of things has never been my strong suit, except maybe my sanity, but I blame my kids for that, in part.

    Me: What about the negative way? Are you prepared for a disaster that might not even happen?

    Erik: I didn’t think we’d be into the disaster thing, but, yes, similar to that.

    Me: I guess expectation would be a better word. You expect the worst to happen.


    Me: Maybe?

    Erik: Expectation really sucks, because if you’re expecting it, you’re almost setting it up to be that way.

    Me: Yeah. If you put yourself in that place of expecting, you’ll always be expecting. Law of Attraction 101.

    Erik: Yeah. You gotta remove expectation. I don’t mind that you prepare yourself; I just don’t want you to get stuck in one of those avenues of possibilities.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: I want you to come back into the present, to the now, to being centered.

    Me: Right.

    Erik: The negative part is that most people will worry and stress and freak out about what’s going to happen, and they’re trying to prepare for it, but they won’t fucking come out of that state of mind so they constantly stress about it.

    Me: Mm. I know what that feels like. So, if it has affected our bodies, how can we reverse the effects?

    Erik: Well, we didn’t finish going through the bodies, Mom.

    Me: Oh, okay!

    Erik: So with the head and the heart being all fucked up, the body can’t naturally be balanced, because all four roommates aren’t on the same page.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Head, heart, body, soul. So, the body will start to compensate, because it’s in this high stress moment. The mind is revving up the emotions and the body to respond to things that aren’t even happening. So the heart and the body are already in responsive mode. It’s already releasing hormones and chemicals, tightening the muscles, collecting lactic acid and all kinds of fucking crazy shit.

    Me: When did you get to be a biologist, Erik?

    Erik: Thank you, thank you. I’ll be taking autographs later.

    I guess next he’ll be talking about the Krebs cycle.

    Me (chuckling): Professor Erik.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik: I can’t even pretend that that wasn’t for real. But you wanted to know chemically what the body does. That’s exactly what it does, and if you stay in a high stress situation all the time and your adrenaline is up, you can blow that shit out. Then all of a sudden when you get back to what’s really neutral, you feel like it’s the bottom of the fucking ocean. You’re used to your adrenals firing off for no fucking reason at all just because your mind is going on some goddamn journey.

    Me: Okay. Mine is always on some kind of journey.

    Without a sextant or compass, might I add.

    Erik: And we sit around, and we wonder—

    Jamie bursts out laughing.

    Jamie: His voice just squeaked! I don’t think I can imitate that!

    Erik: We sit around and wonder why (this is when his voice crescendos to a high girlie pitch) fucking meditation doesn’t work!

    Jamie (still laughing): It just went up really high!

    Erik: It’s the same thing. Meditation is the focus of the mind. Stressors are actually a focus of the mind, but it’s all fucking made up. It’s not in the now. Emotions can truly react in the now; the body only can truly react in the now, but the mind? Man it just doesn’t understand time at all.

    Me: That totally makes sense. So, we can reverse the effects with meditation?

    Erik: Yes.

    Me: Anything else? Is that the biggest one?

    Erik: That’s the hugest one. It’s state of mind, and if you can’t figure out how to reach that state of mind, look at what’s under the most stress in the body. Then find a massage therapist. Find a physician that you really trust. Find a holistic physician that you really trust. Maybe get some herbal supplements that will support you and your body in finding, you know, ground zero again.

    Me: Yeah. Interesting. So, there are a lot of options. That’s good. This blog member says, “Stress is known to be one of the biggest silent killers, and more illnesses can be attributed to it, but why now? Does our environment have a major impact on stress? Our surroundings?” I don’t know what he means by, “why no?.”

    Erik: Yes, and I totally understand the other one, Mom, cuz now they’re talking about, “Oh, cancer. It’s actually related to forms of stress.”

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Stressors in the body. Migraines, they come from stress.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: And so now, all of a sudden, if we boil everything down, it’s back to stress. I think that we’re coming out with that information now to help people find a more enlightening way of life. The truest answer in alleviating stress is meditation. So, this is a great excuse for all these New Age centers to become more modern, more respected, and that’s why we’re finding out that yoga works. It kind of puts the mind in the now, connects it to the body, allows you to understand what you’re feeling in the present.

    Me: It makes all those four roommates behave themselves.

    Erik: Yes! It puts them all on the same page! That’s what Americans are mostly missing.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: We’re signing up for all this huge fucking external world that’s collapsing, and we’re not acknowledging and honoring the internal world.

    Me: Yeah, we want those four roommates to sit in a circle in the living room and sign Kum-ba-yah.

    Jamie: He was talking about Kum-ba-yah, too!

    Me: Oh, my god!

    Jamie: He was like, Kum-ba-yah! (She sings it.)

    Me: One playing a guitar, one playing a little tambourine. I like that idea. Okay, Anything else on stress?

    Erik: Nah. I’m good.

  • February4th


    I spoke to Erik today, and he’s decided that the Channeling Erik Facebook group will continue to be open. He hopes that there will be no drama or negativity, but if there is, of course members can choose to leave the group. He’d prefer that people stay and use the discord as a teachable moment, a time to practice unconditional love, to be nonjudgmental and, in some cases, to teach. 

    Today, I’m going to have my first channeling session with blog member and gifted medium, Robert. I’ll try to post it after the second part of this series on stress, depending on how much time I have for transcription. I’ll also ask him to, through Erik, answer the winner’s Ask Erik questions, and that will be up and running when I get it transcribed. 

    I’m so, so excited about the Channeling Erik Weekend of F-ing Enlightenment starting this Friday! The event is completely full. I can’t wait to hear what Erik has to share and to acquaint/reacquaint myself with the blog members lucky enough to attend. Par-tay time!


    Me: Erik, you’ve experienced it numerous times when you were here, but what can we do about it, and don’t just say marijuana is the answer! So, why do we have it? Well, first of all tell us what you can like why we have it, how can we get over it—

    Jamie: What is “it” again?

    Me: Stress.

    (Pause, followed by Jamie’s laughter.)

    Erik: We have stress because we put more faith and power into the future than into the present.

    Me: Mm! That’s good!

    Erik: How loud do I have to fucking be—

    Jamie: Okay, sorry. He’s being very loud. “HOW LOUD DO I FUCKING HAVE TO BE”? He’s looking at me like, “Jamie, where’s your animation? You talk about it all the time! You need to be mimicking me.”

    Jamie and I both giggle.

    Erik: To teach people, but if they’re stress out, because it’s something they cannot control—and I’m telling you, 99% of the time, it’s something that’s in the future, and it hasn’t even come yet!

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: You’re stressed about what so and so will say when they read the report. They haven’t even read the fucking report yet! So, why are you stressed out? Handle it as it comes, people!

    Me: Easier said than done, though, because we can’t—

    Erik: No. It’s quite easy.

    Me: Well, we can’t stop ourselves from thinking about possibilities.

    Erik: It’s fine to be prepared. You can go through the possibilities. When you’re prepared, you go through all of the plausible outcomes, and you set up how you want to react to it or what you want to say to it.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: You don’t linger on one. You don’t’ go, “Oh, I think that she’s not going to like it”, and then adopt that they’re not going to like it.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: That’s crazy! You prep. Okay, if she doesn’t like it, then I can pitch this, then I can find out why she doesn’t like it, and I can do that, that, and talk to so and so.

    I’d like to get know this so and so person. Seems like they have a lot of power!

    Erik: And then you wait until that future becomes the now, and you handle it in that moment.

    Me: I like that!

    Don’t know if I can do it, but…

    Erik: That’s where most of stress come from, and the reason why smoking—

    Jamie bursts out laughing.

    Me: Oh! I knew he would go there!

    Erik: That’s the reason why smoking marijuana is an answer. It’s because it puts you in the present.

    Me: Ah.

    Erik: It narrows your mind down to where it can’t wander off into future possibilities. You can’t sustain living in the future when you’re high.

    Me: Well, you can’t be high all the time.

    Erik: Creativity. Wouldn’t the world be a kinder place?

    Me: Yeah. Probably. But when the marijuana is out of your body, then there you go; you’re not in the now anymore. So, how’s that going to help?

    Erik: Well, what if you just get high to get to the point?

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: Through the waiting phase, where you claim you can’t be disciplined enough, and you must live in the future, because you must be prepared which is a false line of thinking if that’s the way you’re thinking. So, I get you high.

    Jamie (laughing): Oh my god. It’s like if you can imagine he has this kind of lawyer face on. He’s leaning forward with his elbows on his knees being very serious. He has his baseball cap on today.

    Me: Aw. I wish I could see that. What color is it?

    Jamie: The hat is red.

    Me: Oh, okay.

    Jamie: I’ve never seen him in a red one.

    Me: I think he had a red one.

    Of course he may have gone to the celestial mall and bought one, I guess.

    Me: I think it had a sort of maroon tint to it to be slightly gay.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik (laughing): Loud and proud, Mom. Loud and proud.

    Jamie and I howl in laughter.

  • October25th


    Me: Anyway, let’s go to the sister of anxiety and go on the depression. A lot of people out there are depressed now, and of course it seems like there’s more incidence of depression now. What’s behind that, spiritually? Why do people get depressed?

    Erik: There is, first, let’s not get it confused, Mom. Those are sisters?

    Me: Okay, brothers! I don’t know! They’re enemies; they’re opposites. You tell me.

    Jamie leans back and laughs hard.

    Jamie: He’s teasing you.

    Erik (with a girlie-like enthusiasm): Anxiety, depressions, sisters forever!

    Me: BFFs. They’re BFFs

    Erik: Yeah, depression has this magical way of making you feel like nobody understands you. I’d like to call it a curse, but that’s not the truth. You’re experiencing the depression because you can’t ground yourself or link yourself into your life, into what’s happening. And some of it’s a bit of a safety mechanism to where you withdraw, you come in. So, a lot of this depression is very valuable because when you draw in, you have time to look at yourself. You have time for quiet internal dialog and direction. The catch is you gotta fucking come out of it, right? So the pulling in part for moments here and there and here and there and here and there—

    Enough already!

    Erik: —can actually benefit you. But if you’re choosing to stay in it or if you’re just unaware of how to get out of it, this is like getting caught in a dryer.

    Jamie (giggling): In a dryer?

    Me: What?

    Jamie: I know, and that’s the visual I have in my head—this tiny person in a big, huge dryer and it’s just looping; it’s spinning.

    I chuckle. Some of the images he sends her!

    Erik: You’re spinning all your energy, and you’re trying not to tumble, not to tumble, not to tumble, that you’re not even thinking about opening the door and stepping out. You’re trapped in this, and it’s taking so much energy and it’s exhausting to try to stay upright. You don’t even think about opening the door and stepping out.

    Is it just me, or is he repeating things over and over?

    Erik: The overall, not kind of spiritual tone—I mean, I guess it’s more of a spiritual tone, not a lesson, because people step into depression for—now this is a variety of reasons. I can’t even put it into one or two pockets. It’s like millions of pockets of why we come into this, but the lesson that you do get out of it is how you go internal, how you cut ties from your entire surroundings and look at the self, look at you. The golden nugget is—

    Jamie (chuckling): Golden nugget.


    Jamie (to Erik): I get it. Move on.

    Erik: — is how to address yourself without a broken mind.

    Jamie (looking puzzled): I’m asking him to explain it.

    Erik: Cuz when you go inward and you cut all the ties, then most people want to fall into, “I’m alone; I’m alone; I’m alone. Nobody understands me; nobody understands me” and it’s rote. It just goes again and again and again.

    Me: Like that dryer.

    Erik: Like the dryer. But the beauty of that depression is when you’re able to separate all those ties, pull in to those quiet moments but not have the broken record play and play and play. Instead, say, “I’m here for a moment in time. What can I see from where I’m standing?” to look out but not engage out. Depression doesn’t let you engage. It closes you in.


    Jamie: He doesn’t know where to go from here, so he’s giving the ball back to you.

    Me: All right, so how do you reach out? That’s easier said than done! How do you get out of your shell, just by being more conscious about it and saying, “Okay, I gotta get out of my shell.”? That’s not easy when you’re in the throes of depression.

    Erik: Yeah, and most of the time people don’t even know to ask. They think it’s just normal or that they’re having a crazy fit and that crazy fit will go away soon.

    Jamie (dropping her head and sighing): He’s getting loud again!

    Erik: I hope anyone who’s watching or anyone who’s listening—when you don’t feel right. When…you…don’t…feel…right, whether you think you’re crazy, whether you think it’s just for a moment in time, whether you feel like it’ll heal naturally on its own or whether you think there’s no end in sight, if you don’t feel (air quotes) right, which is your definition of balance or security or safety, you need to touch base with someone. C’mon, you guys have buddies to tell each other when to—

    Jamie (blushing): He said, “to rub your boobs” but the vision is clearly checking for lumps in your breast”

    Me (Letting out a surprised guffaw first): Okay, good.

    Erik: Boob buddies, right?

    Jamie and I both giggle.

    Erik: Why can’t you have depression buddies or “I don’t feel right” buddies, and as soon as you’re “off” you go and check in with this buddy be it your therapist, your doctor, your mom, your dad, your best friend, your sibling, whoever, and saying, “Feeling fucky today. Don’t know what it is” and they can say, “Well what do you need?”

    Not playing with my boobs, that’s for sure. Unless it’s Antonio Banderas and then I might at least think about it.

    Erik: They can help you with some questions and then you’ll know, “Okay if I’m calling you every day here, then I probably need to seek extra help” or that depression buddy can say, “You need to go get professional help or someone who’s going to understand you better than me.”

    Me: Okay, so Erik, if I get a boob buddy, will you get a testicular lump buddy?

    Jamie (Laughing hard swaying back and forth in her chair): He’s cracking up so hard!

    Erik: Deal. Deal.

    Me: I can just see that. Not getting a good visual. This is probably a good time to stop.

    Jamie (still laughing) gives the “cut it off” sign.

    Jamie: He’s giving the Captain Morgan where one of his feet is up on my table (and his fist under his chin.) And yeah. (Grinning nervously) That’s all.

    Me: Hmm. There must be something more to that, but we’ll stop.

    Jamie grins widely and moves her head in short nods.

    I wonder what that was all about. I think I know. What about you guys?


  • July4th


    Me: What’s behind psychopaths/sociopaths? What’s the spiritual basis for that disease?

    Erik: People can not let go of this, right?

    Me: Of course not.

    Jamie (to Erik): That’s a weird image.

    Me: Probably not a pretty one.

    Jamie: It’s kind of hard to explain, but do you know those fiberoptic lights?

    Me: Oh yeah. Yeah.

    Jamie: They usually come in a stand and there’s maybe like fifty of them that come out with all of the lights on at the top.

    Erik: That’s how, energetically, we see sociopaths or psychopaths. There’s only one point at the base that grounds all of these different lights together. It’s like having one soul, but it’s torn 98% and only two percent is a solid mass. It’s like you took scissors to it and just shredded it down from the top and left the base together. So, they only have a small percentage that they can collect and ground and get their ideas together while the rest of it is shredded.

    Me: Into each of those little fibers?

    Erik: Yes.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: The lesson of it, of course, is self-understanding. Our culture doesn’t teach us self-understanding. It just teaches us to point at other things and say, “Light. Plant.” Everything’s external to us.

    Me: Exactly.

    Erik: It doesn’t point at self and say, you know, “Body. Love. Tension.” So, it’s a bad fix. A bad cocktail. Not many sociopaths live to an old age. They can’t handle all of the division. There’s a small percentage that are not truly sociopaths, but they are wide open, spiritually. They’re hearing a multitude of voices and guidance, and they feel they can’t separate themselves from it.

    Me: Wow.

    Erik: But it is mostly a lesson in internal learning and grounding and mending. We aren’t, as a culture, as a society, giving them the right tools.

    Me: Hm.

    Erik: In the future, this kind of mental shredding won’t exist.

    Me: Good!

    Erik: It’s not because we kill off the people who stay that way or don’t want them to have babies so it’s not, you know, like it’s genetically growing out. But it does deal with genetics and we will be able to find the missing answers. It’s going to be weird; most of the mental illnesses are going to be cured.

    Me: Why?

    Erik: There’s a lot—

    Jamie (to Erik): B-busting? Say it differently, Erik.

    Erik: There’s a lot of scientific healing coming about dealing with the brain.

    Me: Well, what’s the important spiritual aspect? Is there any spiritual reason that we need to eliminate these mental illnesses?

    Erik: No, there’s no spiritual reason to eliminate anything.

    Me: Well, just because, you know, you don’t want people to suffer from mental illnesses and you don’t want their friends, families and anyone who crosses their path to be negatively effected, too.

    Erik: Yes, but at the moment of death, they’re relieved from it, and they get to see their life and the lesson they gave us and how other people treated them and reacted to them. I mean, it seems horrible as an outsider looking in, but you can’t jump into their life and say it’s not worthy; it’s not valuable. Fuck that! So many people do that. It’s so unfair how these people are saying that—

    Erik: Look what all of these people have been saying about the gay marriages—that it’s only right for a man and a woman. How can someone be so egotistical to believe that their thinking is the right thinking and that they have to push it?

    Jamie (to Erik, laughing): Been reading the paper?

    Me: Yeah. Makes no sense. That’s crazy.

    Erik: When are we going to start thinking as a whole and not as slices of an apple?

    Jamie laughs.

    Me: It shouldn’t be anybody’s business but the people involved.

    Erik: That’s right, but there’s such a fear about the loss of control, you know, and these people feel like they have to rise up and keep everybody together under one rule and one religion and it’s just fucked up! Let us be who we came here to be!

    Me: Hallelujah. Exactly. I couldn’t agree more.

    What’s the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath?

    Although the Psychological process of denial of Conscience within the MIND of a sociopath and a psychopath is the same dynamic [Esoteric processes], the particular Fate Karma of the individual determines which behavioral expression one engages in, and it is these behavioral expressions that modern mental health focus on and label as either sociopathic or psychopathic.

    Of the more distinguishing traits, some argue the sociopath to be less organized in his or her demeanor, nervous and easily agitated – someone likely living on the fringes of society, without solid or consistent economic support. A sociopath is more likely to spontaneously act out in inappropriate ways without thinking through the consequences.

    Conversely, some argue that the psychopath tends to be extremely organized, secretive and manipulative. The outer personality is often charismatic and charming, hiding the real person beneath. Though psychopaths do not feel for others, they can mimic behaviors that make them appear normal. Upon meeting, one would have more of a tendency to trust a psychopath than a sociopath.
    cause of the organized personality of the psychopath, he or she might have a tendency to be better educated than the average sociopath, who probably lacks the attentive skills to excel in school. While psychopaths can fly under the radar of society, many maintaining families and steady work, a sociopath more often lacks the skills and drive for mimicking normal behavior, making “seemingly healthy” relationships and a stable home less likely. From a criminal standpoint, a sociopath’s crimes are typically disorganized and spontaneous, while the psychopath’s crimes are well planned out. For this reason, psychopaths are harder to catch than sociopaths, as the sociopath is more apt to leave ample evidence in his or her explosions of violence.


     Simple Answer

    A psychopath thinks 2+2=5 rather than 2+2=4. A sociopath knows 2+2=4, but hates to admit it.

  • June25th


    Me: I’d like to talk about homeless people now. Tell me about that. Well, first of all, should we give money to them? You know there are a lot of questions about that. Some think that they’ll just spend it on alcohol, tobacco or drugs and  that it might perpetuate their plight. Or maybe we should just reach out and—

    Erik: Hey. Hey, hey, Mom, Mom.

    Me (chuckling): What, what, what!

    Erik: If you want to give a gift, you have to give it without strings attached.

    Me: Of course.

    Erik: Cuz if not, you’re trying to give a gift and control ‘em.

    Me: Yeah, that’s true.

    Erik: That sucks. So, if you’re giving the gift, fucking shut up and give them to gift! Don’t even think, “I wonder what that man’s story is.” “I wonder how he’s going to spend the money.” “I wonder if he’ll have a drink.” “I wonder if that five bucks I just gave him will be the money that he uses for crack and he dies from it.”

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: Who the fuck cares! Your battle is, do you give a gift or not? And do you know how you address that battle?

    Me: Hm mm, but I have a feeling you’re going to fill me in.

    Erik: Do you feel compelled to give them the money? If you do, then give it. If you give it when you don’t feel like it, you’re a dick to yourself. If you approach somebody, and they’re begging, and you feel extremely tense and reserved, and you don’t want to do it, then guess what? Pay attention to that. Own up to it. Look them in the eyes and say, “I’m so sorry I’m not going to give to your cause today. I hope you have a beautiful day.” Don’t treat him like a piece of shit.

    Me: Oh, no! Of course not.

    Erik: Just because they’re asking doesn’t mean you have to do what they say. Stop living your whole life by being polite and giving your resources, emotional or otherwise, when you don’t want to. And that doesn’t just apply to giving to homeless people. It has to do with a lot of situations in your life. Don’t give your resources away when you don’t want to or when they’re depleted. That takes emotional honesty so you can save yourself from guilt. Guilt is fucked up and totally unnecessary.

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: You gotta do what you gotta do.

    Me: Yep. But why do some people choose to be homeless from the spiritual basis? Is there some sort of spiritual contract or lesson going on there?

    Erik: A lot of the times, yes, but it’s mostly people who have decided, hah, thank you, Sarah Palin, from bringing the word back to life. These people have gone rogue.

    We both giggle.

    Erik: It’s a bit of rebellion against responsibility, right?

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Or the weight of the world, so actually, their career is begging. It’s those people who cannot do for themselves. Sometimes it’s a life contract, but most of the time it’s because they choose to be there outside of contracts.

    Me: Okay, so it’s not to teach the masses compassion or anything like that? Is it just on the level of the individual?

    Erik: If it’s teaching the masses, it’s showing the masses that you have to be proactive with your life choices. You can’t just ride the fucking ride. You not going get what you want all the time.

    Me: So, it’s not usually about teaching compassion? It’s about teaching responsibility—taking care of yourself and being proactive before you get yourself in a situation like that.

    Erik: Yeah.

    Me: Okay. But a lot of them are mentally ill, from what I understand.

    Erik: Probably so.

    Me: I wonder if that causes the homelessness or if homelessness causes the mental illness.

    Jamie: That’s what he was going for just now!

    Me: Yeah.

    Erik: The choice of the homelessness, the malnutrition, the abuse of their bodies, their sense of wanting to be removed and just kind of flake away—that’s what’s feeding the mental illness.

    Me: Yeah, that sounds right. Do you think that we, as a country or as a society, do not do enough to help the homeless?


    Erik: Actually, we do a lot. The sad thing is, it’s not publicized to the homeless. Why are we going to put all of this publicity into helping the homeless? They don’t have a fucking TV. They’re not listening to the radio. You know? So, if your market is not going to be watching it, then of course we’re not going to be putting it on TV. Actually, in every big city and even in small towns, there are great programs and church outreach efforts.

    Me: I know. So, why do so many homeless people not take advantage of those resources?

    Erik: Because when they go through these programs, then they feel like they owe somebody something. They have to learn. They have to take responsibility. Maybe they have to do a chore. Maybe they have to stand on their own two feet, and they just want to be a freeloader.

    Me: And maybe they have to try to get a job. So, are we making any inroads with what we’re doing as a society?

    Erik: Some, but there are always going to be those people who don’t want to be a part of any program, and they just want to be alone. Then we have to smile and say, “Okay.” And, like I said before, if your heart lights up and you think, “Man, I’ve gotta give this guy a buck!” And you do it, and you feel great about it. You don’t think about all the, “What is he going to do with it” thoughts. You’re giving the gift. Free.


    Dear Reader,

    The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.

    As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.

    Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.

    I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.

    Love and light,


  • June24th


    I was supposed to post this Sunday, but I had to take the kids out for some R and R on Lake Conroe. By the time I got back, I was too tired! (from all of the fun) This is part of the Best of Erik series.

    Okay, Erik. Time to wow us.

    Me: Okay, here’s a controversial one. I think the penal code is messed up. In my opinion, it’s too punitive. A lot of people who get arrested and thrown behind bars are in pain; they need help.

    Erik: And we don’t provide it for them. All we do is we punish.

    Me: We just punish, punish, punish. I think we’d go a long way but helping people and showing compassion. These are often just people with a lot of pain inside, so what can we do, Erik? I think we might just need to look at things a little bit differently.

    Erik: Hell, yeah. Wouldn’t it be great if we really didn’t have so many jail cells? We don’t need so many of them, because people are in them for the wrong reasons, first of all—and for stupid ass reasons. And if you get arrested and it’s for a certain kind of a crime or what not, you should immediately be placed in a six-week program.

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: We still have to pay for your fucking food anyways if you’re in jail, so why don’t we give you a good place to be and give you love, attention and therapy.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: And they do a six-week program, and then they’re under like a house arrest—they’re monitored for another six weeks and we see how they interact with life. Then, if they already have gone through that program and they get arrested again, then let’s put your ass in jail if that’s what you need.

    Me: Yeah, but there’s also the problem that these people get records that can’t be expunged, and they can’t get jobs because everybody does background checks now. That totally sucks, too.

    Erik: Yeah, because it always puts a label on them. I think if you go through the six-week program successfully and it shows that you’ve done rehabilitation work on yourself, but it doesn’t show that you’ve been placed in a jail. There needs to be levels. A person has to have the right to go back to a life.

    Me: I know. Exactly.

    Erik: If that’s not going to be offered, why the fuck get better? If you’re not going to get what you want to begin with, you have nothing to lose.

    Me: Yeah, one person gets arrested for ½ a gram of cocaine when they were 17, they can’t even rent an apartment or find a job for like 15 years. They can’t even be a Wal-Mart greeter, for god’s sake. They’re options are pretty much drug mules or tattoo artists. Not that the latter’s bad, but I doubt they do background checks. It’s ridiculous. They get punished for the rest of their lives for something they did when they were so young! It makes no sense. So, what do you do with the murderers and the serial rapists, though? What so you do with them, Erik? I mean, they’re people in pain, too, but still, they’re a threat to the public.

    Erik: They are, but I would still put them in the six-week program. I would put them in a different kind of program—more solitude like away from community and so forth. Then I would take them through different levels of processing. I wouldn’t put them back into society right away. I really think that after the six-week program that they need to go live in a commune somewhere with other people like themselves so that they can reach certain markers in their lives to where they can be reintroduced back into the community. I think they should be privately tagged, not publically tagged, if they’ve gone through this whole process and rehabilitation because if we can see how they honestly tick and if they’re really successful, like they know they’re going to heal, then we give them a chance. We put them back into society and monitor them from a distance. But building that community in the commune, they’ll have the comfort to be honest to say they’re really fucked up in the head and that they really don’t wanna do real life anymore. If that’s the case, we just keep them in the fucking commune, man!

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: Make them do something successful; teach the bastards how to knit!

    Jamie and I laugh.

    Me: They can be a self-sustaining community, of course.

    Erik: Yes!

    Me: If they need to murder or rape each other, so be it.

    Erik: Just don’t let ‘em on a farm; they’ll rape the goats and the sheep.

    Me: Erik! You bad boy!

    Jamie and I laugh hard.


  • May14th


    I’ve noticed that a lot of blog members struggle with not-so-nice spirits hanging around them. Erik gives up great advice on how to handle them. If you like this post, please share!

    Me: One blog member wants to know this: You said that once a psychopath passes, they’re relieved of their condition. That’s nice to know. So, we can presume that dementia and bipolar disease disappear, too. Is that right?  She goes on to say that Ted Bundy was cool about having spiritual contracts to kill those women. She’s wondering if some spirits are stuck in an earth memory phase, but, for her, it doesn’t appear to be so. What about evil spirits who torment us? They can seem to by psychopaths from our perspective, so are the latter not suffering a latent memory lapse of their previous human state—not psychopathic, but rather making a personality choice to be bad because that’s still the stage their spirit is in?  So basically she’s saying Ted Bundy passed over and was fine because what he did was part of a spiritual contract and had meaning. So, why are some of these spirits evil torment us?

    Erik: They obviously haven’t crossed over, Man. Like, you die; you have a choice. Do you stay on Earth in the lower dimensional planes or are you going to cross over to where your natural state of being would be, cuz you don’t have a fucking body? So, if you were crazy and didn’t believe in God and all that shit and you die, then guess what? You’re not—

    Erik (to someone else):  Yeah, I know.


    Jamie: Who are you talking to? I didn’t say anything.

    (Long pause)

    Jamie bursts out into laughter. I’m left hanging.

    Jamie: Wow! Some other person in spirit was telling him, “Don’t put it that way.”

    Jamie (to Erik): Oh my god! Did you just get in trouble?

    I gasp.

    Erik: No, but it was a good point. I didn’t want to base the concept of going to Heaven on the belief in God.

    Me: Oh, yeah. Right.

    Erik: Cuz that’s not what gets you there.

    Jamie (to Erik): Who was that?

    Erik: No, don’t worry about it.

    Jamie: He’s giving me these hand signals like, “Shut the fuck up.”


    Jamie (to Erik): Uh uh. You put me on the spot all the time!

    Me: So, it’s your turn, Erik.

    Jamie: Your turn, Buddy!


    Jamie: It’s an archangel that watches him. He calls it part of his team.

    Me: Oh! Okay.

    Jamie (laughing): The team that’s helping him be a better spirit! A better person.

    Me: Aw.

    Jamie: And this was all formed because of his growing character on Earth.

    Me: Oh.

    Jamie: Yeah, because he has, uh (to Erik) you’re right. You do!

    Erik: Because I have a huge opportunity to teach people a simple truth not based in any religion. But, you know, sometimes you fuck up and say those things. That’s why I have them there. They’re like my autocorrect.

    Let’s hope it works better than the iPhone autocorrect. My brother in law, Jim, texted somebody about virtual reality and it ended up as “Vaginal reality.”

    Me: That’s good, Erik. Are they like your supervisors?

    Erik: Yes.

    Jamie: I looked at him and go, ‘You care!’ And he goes, “Of course I do!” But, you know, he just plays it off as if he’s some tough, rough kid, and then all of a sudden when you see that side of him, you realize how much work he’s putting into it.

    Me: God, yes. You work so hard, Sweetie.

    Jamie (with a slight quiver in her voice): That’s so awesome.

    Me: But sometimes you have fun doing it. It’s good that you are having a good time.

    Jamie: Aw, he just leans back in his chair and goes, “Ah, I love my job! This is me.”

    Me: That’s so awesome.

    Erik: So, yeah, you don’t have to believe in God to get to Heaven, but, if you had no belief about the afterlife and you were an asshole, you’re going to be an asshole still, just without a body. It’s in the higher dimensional—

    Jamie: I like that. “Higher dimensional.”

    Erik: –dimensional planes where those lower vibrational emotions just don’t resonate. So, of course when you cross over, all that bipolar crap and, you know, the need to kill people and to fuck people up—it’s just not really there. I mean, you can have those thoughts; you just can’t pass it on; you can’t really act on it. They just go flat. So, if they’re dead and they’re having those thoughts; you can pretty much say that son of a bitch hasn’t crossed over. They’re hanging in the lower dimensional.

    Jamie (giggling): Dimensional! I like that.

    Me: He’s got the lingo down!

    Jamie: Yeah. Dead people lingo. The dimensional.

    Me: Sounds like a TV show. The Dimensional. Or a band.

    Jamie: Oh, wouldn’t that be fun.

    Erik: Ahem. So, if you’re hanging out with a spirit that’s a little tweaky-tweaky, first of all, I’d say. ‘What the fuck did you do?’ You’re obviously not protecting yourself. You’re entertaining this kind of interaction.’ So, I’d say, ‘Shame on you!’ cuz you have more power than Mr. Crazy Dead Person! I would tighten that up, and then I would start laying better boundaries for that shit to get away from you, and if you are the “chosen one” to help Mr. Crazy Dead Person cross over, then fucking man up! You know, do it! Do your job. Help it. Who knows why the crazy dead person picks that one person who probably has no fucking knowledge about how to help a dead person cross over. It could just be this living memory of who they used to be.

    Me: Exactly. Wait; let me tell my sister to get the dog. She’s barking. She’s a little Yorkie puppy. Weighed 12 oz. when we got her, and she’s still so tiny. She wants to play with the cat.

    (I try to call my sister, but she must be outside.)

    Me: She’s supposed to be watching her. Okay, go ahead.

    Erik: I was wondering how long you were going to take that barking.

    Me: I know. Okay, go ahead, Erik.

    Erik: I don’t remember where I was, cuz I went over to the house to see the dog bark.

    Me: Okay. Anything else?

    Erik: Nah. Just tell that person that if they have someone like that around, they’re the ones who are fucked up. Set the boundaries. Tell them this is not what you’re looking for; this is not what you’ll allow.


    Be sure you share all of the pranks and visits you’ve received from Erik on our new “Erik Visits” page by clicking on the appropriate tab on the top menu of the homepage or on the link below. Even if you experienced a whopper in the distant past, don’t keep it to yourself!


    Take this POLL whether or not you’ve had him spook you!


    This is a very short YouTube of Erik sharing some of the struggles we have as humans. If you are human, you need to watch. If you’re not and you’re eavesdropping and thinking, “Nanny nanny boo-boo. It must suck to be human,” go back to your alternate universe!



    Dear Reader,

    The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.

    As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.

    Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.

    I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.

    Love and light,



  • April5th


    Erik really shines on this one. Sorry to start with part one on a Friday, because you’re going to be writhing in anticipation until Monday, but no pain no gain. I also would like to announce that the regular small group channeling call scheduled for 4/11 is sold out, but the griever’s call where Erik will bring forth a loved one for you to communicate with still has one spot open. The date for that is 4/18. Jamie also has the channeling call schedule up for all of her calls at this link: EVENTS


    Note: I’m going to start using plain text rather than italics from here on out. (Hopefully I’ll remember). My editor told me it’s easier on the reader’s eyes. Feedback?

    Me: Let’s talk about destiny, Erik. Can you talk about the spiritual contracts souls make before incarnating?


    Jamie (sternly): Okay, straighten up, Erik. Come on. (To me): Okay, so you want him to tell you about destiny, how it’s planned before reincarnation?

    Me: Yeah. I mean, part of it has to do with spiritual contracts, right?

    Jamie: Yeah.

    Me: So, I thought maybe we’d start out with that.

    Erik: First of all, we want to ditch the concept of karma, because people with use the term, karma, as an excuse for the shit they deal with in their life that they don’t feel like they’re responsible for. They’re just experiencing this shit.

    Me: Mm hm,

    Erik: Okay. There’s really no karma.

    Jamie (laughing): He’s making sounds like, “Poo-poo,” and “Blech”, and “Yuck,” and “just get that out.”

    I giggle.

    Erik: Now, because there’s not karma, and, which means you’re not held by honor or by any greater system to balance your own scale—we have to go back to balancing your own scale which means you have a judgment system in place.

    Damn, he’s all over the place.

    Erik: It means there is a right and there is a wrong, which there isn’t. There is no judgment scale so there is no karma. Now some people use the eye for and eye. You know, if you caused pain to one person, then you must suffer pain. That definitely has some validity. What you drop into the pond ripples out to the edges and comes back to the place where the pebble was dropped, but it’s not karma. It’s not a punishment program.

    Me: Okay.

    Erik: Okay. I just wanted to get that out, cuz let’s say you’re choosing to live in a life that still sucks shit and you’re thinking, “Ah I must be paying”—

    Jamie: I love that! He’s talking in an old Jewish man voice. Nice.

    Jamie laughs.

    Erik: “Ah, I must be paying for it because of what I did in another lifetime or what I did to somebody else.” Even though there’s no karma, people still wanna play the victim, because they don’t know how to take responsibility for how the environment is behaving. They feel like they’re not in control over the environment. They’re correct. They’re not in control, but they’re connected to it, and how you choose to perceive it changes how it affects you.

    Me: Ah!

    Erik: Right? So, you could play the role of the victim, but if you had a really good teacher, I don’t know, say, like myself cuz I’m so awesome—

    Jamie (giggling): Erik!

    Jamie and I bust into a laugh.

    Erik: –come in and say, “Hey, just tweak how you’re looking at what’s happening. Then all of a sudden, you finally feel a part; you’re connected to the environment. It’s no longer a victim circumstance, but a participant one. I wanna know where people get off on labeling themselves (in a whiny voice) the victim, the poor person, you know, the one shit always happens to, they’re cursed, they’re this, but yet they’re really good people and they pray and they’re really positive and they have a really good heart. (Sarcastically) Oh, these poor people! Where do they get off in doing this when they talk all this shit, but they don’t do anything about it? They’re not proactive in their life at all! They pray, (with great sarcasm) “God, please come and take this depression, this sadness, this curse away from me! Oh Great Being of Whomever”—

    Me: Erik, you gotta wrap this one up, because we have some questions to go on to!

    Erik: Oh, c’mon, Mom! I’m having a good time!

    All three of us laugh.

    Me: I know, but Jesus Christ, we have other questions, boy!

    Erik: Well, that’s great! We’ll get to them!

    This century, I hope.

    Erik: Just listen.

    Jamie chuckles.

    Erik: So, they pray to this god to do all of these things for them, but they’re not putting in any action or anything. All right. So, the whole contract thing—

    Thank you, Jesus.

    Erik: —comes into place when you come into life and you’re choosing whatever situation whether it’s poverty, richness, joy, sadness—neither one is greater than the other—whatever you’re living in—is to help you learn some kind of life lesson that you’re attracted to learning. Is it possible that you’re basing this on another life? Absolutely! I mean, who the fuck says, “I want to learn how to ride a bike. I really fucking wanna learn how to ride a bike”, and then get on the bike once and fall down and hurt themselves and never get on a bike again? That’s stupid!

    Me: Yeah!

    Erik: So, you get into one life and you say,” I really wanna be a pilot. I really wanna be a pilot”, and you learn how to fly, but you crash, and you die. That really sucks. So, you get into another life. “I really wanna be a pilot. I really wanna be a pilot!” You try it again, man! That’s why we have contracts in place, so that we can hit the certain notes to make our song. Contracts help shape our destinies.

    Me: Ah!


    Okay guys. You’ve GOT to watch this YouTube my daughter made. It’s the 21 things you don’t know about her. Hilarious.


  • March26th


    I know, I know. You’re probably wondering about the title. I’m giving you guys a two-fer today because both questions yielded pretty short answers. Still, Erik came through with his usual wit and wisdom.


    Me: Can spirits cry?

    Erik: Yeah, if we really want to.

    Me: Would they want to or is it more like, “Oh, let me see what it feels like to cry.” Or do they ever feel sad enough that they want to cry and release that sadness?

    Erik: It’s pretty weird here. You don’t really get that overwhelming need to cry as a release. We don’t process struggle the same way. On Earth there’s a lot of Force A and Force B.  Cause and effect. Right and wrong. Positive and negative. There are a lot of opposites whereas in this higher dimensional plane, there are not a lot of opposites. It’s based a lot on unity. So you don’t quite feel that tug or separation. We don’t get that kind of, “I need to cry. I’m misunderstood. I’ve been, you know, shamed, walked on.” We don’t really come across that easily.

    Me: So, why would a spirit want to cry?

    Erik: Well, like sometimes –

    Jamie: Which is, I had it this morning. He’s giving me permission to give my example. I had a mother, a caller, call in for a reading, and her mother had passed away. So, her mother had come in to talk. And she just burst into tears. She’s trying to talk through it, and finally she just told me—me, Jamie—“You know, I didn’t expect to react this way. I’m really content with where I am. It’s just all these emotions came back, and they’re just exiting through this crying.” It was just this purge. It was the first communication, audio communication through a medium, that she had with her daughter, and they got a lot of conversation under the belt. A lot of healing.

    Me: Good.

    Jamie: But the mother was so surprised, being deceased and content where she is, that so much came out through tears and, you know, sobbing. So, that kind of thing can be that they’re lowering their vibration to communicate with a human, and in lowering it, they process the energy differently.

    Me: And that makes them cry?

    Erik: Yeah. It can come out in tears. It could be that they decided that they want to cry, that this is part of their personality and how they work, but the crying would come from internal inflection. It would not come from and external, “Oh, I’m poking you and hurting you and making you cry!”

    Me: Oh, I understand. Do they cry tears?

    Erik: Tears? If you’re a human and you’re watching a spirit kind of release energy that way, then, yeah, you’re going to describe it as tears falling down their face, because that’s what you’re used to calling it.

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: But no. No, we don’t have tears.


    Me: Okay, now when we were talking about hoarding, I forgot to ask the main thing! What’s the spiritual basis for hoarding? We talked about why people hoard and all that, but what is the spiritual basis?

    Erik: The fear that it’s going to be taken away. Come on. When you died and came to Earth—

    Jamie (laughing at what Erik is about to say): Oh my god, that’s funny.

    Erik: A spiritual way of looking at it is when they leave Home and come to Earth—when they die, then come back to Earth, you lose everything.

    Me: Oh!

    Erik: And some have fear that they’ll never be able to have a life where it’s not going to be taken way from them. You know, there are some circumstances where—

    (Long pause)

    Jamie: I’m listening. Hold on.

    Me: Sure.

    Erik: There are some circumstances where a spirit is, let’s just say, being a little bit of a dick, and is supposed to be reincarnating. They have this other thing that they, themselves, wanted to learn, you know, because reincarnation is self-driven. God’s not around going, “You have to do that shit, and you gotta go over there. You promised me you’d do that!”

    I chuckle softly.

    Erik: No, it’s totally self-driven, but sometimes they fucking cop out, and that’s why we have people like Gracie who are like, “Listen. Stay true to yourself. This is what you’re doing.” And then they come back in with a little bit of a kick, you know, a disappointment about being alive. They’re pissed. It’s their own fucking fault.

    Jamie: He’s laughing, He thinks it’s funny.

    Erik: So, they feel like they’ve had everything ripped from them or taken from them—

    Me: Mm hm.

    Erik: Which is bullshit, but, you know, people believe what they wanna believe. Spiritually, they’ll get to Earth and then they’ll try to hold on to every little piece of shit they can get their hands on, because they don’t want it to be taken away.

    Me: What a mess.

    Erik: And they create those patterns in their relationships on Earth. In their family, everywhere. They get made fun of; they get abandoned. Oh, it’s crap.

    Me: They just wanna cling on to whatever they can. Except people, I guess.

    Anyone up for Spring cleaning?

    Anyone up for Spring cleaning?


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