Channeling Erik

May6th

32 Comments

Skeptics and Parenting

Posted in: After Death Communication, Afterlife, Channeling, Communication from the dead, Contact with the dead, Heaven, Jamie Butler, Life After Death, Memorial Service, Proof in the spirit world, Proof of the Afterlife, Psychic medium, Skepticism, Skeptics

The other day, someone asked me if I knew that Erik was an exceptionally evolved spirit from the beginning. I’ve given that a great deal of thought since. Yes, he was an unusually sweet, affection and humble child. He showed great concern when one of us became ill.

Erik didn’t possess even the tiniest hint of pettiness. He apologized freely to his siblings when they engaged in their usual spats. He cried when we were sad and laughed when we were happy. Sure, he’d have bouts of anger, but they were directed at either himself or events; I’ve never heard him say anything bad about a friend or family member. So, yes, Erik was and is a very unique and spiritual being. I sure do miss him.

Channeling Transcript

Me: What can we do about skeptics and why are some people so skeptical, like I was in the beginning?

Erik: Ha, that’s the fun of it all! C’mon, if we were talking about, and everybody in the world believed in a table, where’s the drama? That table is gonna be old news. It’s not gonna be discussed or played with or, uh, it’s just gonna be (in a monotone voice mimicking boredom) “The Table.”

Me: Yeah.

Erik: We need those skeptics to fuel the learning for the rest of the world.

Me: Oh! So, I guess we need the provocation in order to bring up the questions so that we have a reason to present the answers.

Erik: That’s right.

Me: Okay, but why are the skeptic, Sweetie?

Jamie giggles at Erik’s response.

Erik: Cuz they’re assholes.

Jamie and I laugh.

Me: Well, I think it’s okay to be an open-minded skeptic, but it’s the closed-minded ones—the ones whose mission is life is to debunk and tear down anything they can’t see, touch, smell, hear or taste—they’re the ones I simply don’t get.

Erik: Wouldn’t it be great to imagine that those skeptic were up in Heaven, in Home, and they were all just pissy and they sucked and we just threw them back into a body as a jail sentence?

Jamie laughs.

Erik: Wouldn’t that be awesome?

Me: Oh, yeah, I bet they get the shock of their lives when the cross over, too!

Erik: Course it doesn’t work that way at all, but the thought is fun. No, they come back and play that part of the contract, that part of the role.

Me: Oh, I see. So you’re saying that a lot of times, there’s a spiritual contract involved. Is that so we can begin to debate, question, and strive for the truths, the answers?

Erik: Exactly.

Me: So, they’re really not true assholes. Well, they’re assholes by contract.

Erik (as if he were in a TV commercial): “Though they play one on TV.”

Me: Ah, okay. Now, do you have any advice for parents, in general? Just general advice.

Erik: My general advice is listen to your child. They’re smarter than you believe.

Me: Yeah, most of them are smarter than we are. The rest definitely think they are, at least when they’re teenagers.

Erik: And don’t be afraid to ask them the big questions. Really, okay, okay, okay, Two things.

Jamie: He slaps his hand down. He kind of looks like a ratty 007, you know, with that suit on. Why are you, uh, it’s like a tux, but no bowtie or cummerbund.

Me: That’s funny, because he liked to either dress ratty or dress up. There is no in between with that guy. He used to put on his “Pappa suits,” as he’d call it.

Jamie: Yeah, he’s got a Pappa suit on today.

I pause and think about that wretched day at the funeral home when the director asked Rune and I what we’d like them to dress him in. When we told him he loved to dress in a suit and tie, even when he didn’t have any place special to go, Rune and I looked at each other and said, “one of his Pappa suits.” Then the tears flow.

Me: Yeah, he loved looking sharp.

Jamie: Yes, he looks sharp but he’s got a, (to Erik) Dude, comb your hair, you know!

Erik: Nah, that’s the style, Jamie.

Jamie and I giggle.

Erik: Okay, okay, two things. Don’t ask your child what they think. Ask them how they feel.

Me: Ah, yes. Just feel, just feel. We all analyze way to much.

Erik: If you do that with a kid, it’ll blow you away! Second one: It’s not about rules and authority, it’s about boundaries and respect.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: No more rules. Just use boundaries. No more authority. Just use respect.

Me: Awesome.

Erik: That’ll blow you out of the water, too, about how much they respond to that.

Me: And children are so much more connected to spirit, so they have a wisdom that we adults have often lost, so yeah, we need to listen.

Please enjoy my interview on Everything Positive Radio airing 7PM to 8PM CST tonight, Saturday and Sunday. If you miss it, I’ll put up the archives link next week!!

http://sjrn.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=35&Itemid=93

Erik sent a message to my sister, Laura. He wanted her to tell me that I need to post the following YouTube video. It’s beautiful and, though there’s an element of darkness, the light of hope shines through. It always does. Have a wonderful weekend, everyone.

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  • Denise

    I think skeptics also serve the purpose of exposing frauds, too.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      So true! That’t the other side of the coin. You’re so good at revealing things like that, Denise. Always a fresh perspective from you! Love it!

  • http://channelingerik Pat

    I read an excellent book recently called “How to Talk to Kids So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk”. I highly, highly recommend it to any parents.

    These are some basic tenets:

    1. Let children make choices
    2. Show respect for a child’s struggle
    3. Don’t ask too many questions–don’t interrogate
    4. Don’t rush to answer questions–let them learn to solve problems
    5. Encourage them to use sources outside the home
    6. Don’t take away hope

    I believe today parents want to protect their children from everything in the world and their children never learn to solve problems or learn to cope. This can be very destructive later in life.

    The other thing we don’t do is validate them as human beings, very special human beings. Asking children “how they feel” as well as validating how they feel is the start to very important dialogue. And, this applies to any interaction with any human being.

    Great post Elisa!

    Great questions Elisa!

  • nikki

    Ahhh Erik, such great advice. I do think we have come a long way in child rearing. I was never understanding of the “children should be seen and not heard” way of thinking. Honestly, I would rather talk to kids than adults. They are much more honest and spiritual. I hope my Eric knows we tried our best in raising him. We are big fans of listening and respect!

    Funny(?) story. I have no idea what this means if anything but ya know when something happens and it is totally out of character, this was it.
    We have a smallish dog that has issues, fear biting etc. However he is a champ when it comes to never having “accidents” in the house. Gee, not really a good dog, but we love him. So I have had a feeling that Eric has a dog in the afterlife, he always wanted a “Big dog”. As a matter of fact I think he may have my nephews 7 month old dog that died mysteriously just days after Eric with what was described as a genetic defect. I have asked Eric over and over if has the darn dog and have not gotten a response.
    So, this morning after I shower I notice a brown something on the bed. I figured, twig, leaf, etc. NO! A walnut sized piece of really really hard dog poop. WTH? Now, our dog takes eons to find the right spot and I just don’t think he would do this. This is his bed too.
    Eric’s dog? A sign that I am gonna have a shitty day? An early Mother’s day gift? Dog Poop? really?
    Have a good one.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Maybe Eric scared the poop out of her!

  • hiral

    thank u erik. Spot on. I usually ask my 2 and a half year old son what he is feeling in his heart? Whats your heart telling you? , whenever he misbehaves or is mean to his sister.that almost always evokes a response. He goes and hugs her and says he is sorry. Also, keeping out of their fights helps them to solve things faster rather than trying to mend things between them becoz invariably one child feels mummy is favouring the other!! Love this post….have a nice weekend!

  • Patrick

    What’s the difference between a skeptic and a believer? Conditioning, that’s all. Just apply conditioner. (Hey it works for hair, doesn’t it? So it’ll work on what’s UNDER the hair, too.)
    Skeptics need conditioner.
    We are Conditioner, all we need to do is bottle ourselves and get some slick marketing.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Only you could say it like that, Patrick!

  • Vic

    Thanks Erik, Jamie and Elisa – I have only just started to talk and listen to my kids about all this stuff – they are only 4,7 and 8, but this morning my middle child came down to breakfast telling me all about how she had gone to the astral plane in the night and it was a fabulous place! I was amazed – this is the child who normally rolls her eyes and changes the subject when we talk about anything spiritual – I always laugh when people tell me that children are your teachers but I am learning a lot in my relationship to them! Keep up the good work – I treat myself to this post every evening (Isle of Man time 5pm!!) after finishing my chores. Love and light, Vicx

  • http://www.channelingmyself.com Todd | Channelingmyself

    Great advice by Erik, I just realized I’m guilty of asking my kids what they think. I will definitely start asking them how they feel.

  • nikki

    LOLLLLL I laughed so hard at that. good point. althought he already acts like a freak, looking around as if he sees spirits (I am sure he does). Wagging a tail at what seems to be nothing. Maybe Eric brought his big dog and it scared the poop out of him. Great point!

  • iola

    Hey Patrick! Love the conditioner analysis….you are so inventive…love your comments!
    I too am guilty of trying to overprotect, and to ask what you think..rather than what you feel. Andy was so bottled up inside himself as he grew, that he couldnt tell me how he felt if he had even wanted to. I wish I had done the feel much earlier in his life, when he was a little open book, and full of joy. Good advice, Erik, as moms day approaches. Be sure and hang out with Elisa Sunday, ok? and be sure to send Drew home to me….will be watching for you! Hope you all have a peaceful moms day. Lubya all!!

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Back atcha, Iola! I so bummed you’re not coming to Atlanta.

  • Yvonne

    Elisa
    You are very fortunate to have your son available in the other world as someone you can talk to and hear. It is a tremendously difficult thing to develop those spiritual/psychic ears. It must be comforting to carry on these two way conversations and know that it is not “just you.”

    When my father died, I knew that I would “see” him again with my other ancestors, but to tell the truth I can’t hear him that well, if at all. I feel the presence but can’t hear his words like you do. Then I asked myself would I rather be able to carry on a physical conversation with him standing here in front of me in his physical body, like when he was alive. Would I want him back if I could?

    The answer is no, since his body was dying and in so much pain. I miss some of the moments in this time, but I do not miss him. I wonder if you feel the same about Erik. peace my friend

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      I just had this conversation with his sister, Michelle. Would I want Erik back in the physical even if it means I wouldn’t have the blog to help others? I’m selfish, so yes, but only if I knew he would be happy and fulfilled here like he is there. Of course, we all know that Erik was and would be miserable if he were back on the earthly plane, plagued by his sensitivity, his tics, his learning disabilities, and his mental illness. So know that, I’d rather him be happy in Heaven, even if I thought I’d never be able to see him or communicate with him again. I wish I could hear him better too. I know that in Atlanta, Jamie is going to teach us how to see/hear the deceased, so I look forward to that/ Are you going to come, Yvonne?

  • JoAnn

    this is great timing for me..i have 3 of my grandchildren with me at home now so i need all the good advice i can get ..and Erik has provided again! thank you veryu much Elisa for sharing. I have noticed lately that reality is differtent for everyone even though wer are here toogether on this earth we all see it differently and it takes kids to teach us all the important lessons. My grandchildren have been teaching me so much of this lately because they will argue over events that they both will be witness to,,even though both are there each have their own memories of the events that took place. where one will remember say,the music that was playing the other will not have even noticed the music at all. so the one that didnt listen to the music will tell the other one. no,that was not playing,,,i was there and didnt hear that song at all,you are wrong. then lets say the one that wasnt noticing the music remembers that the Hot wings were Awesome,,,and the other child that didn’t worry about what food was there will say ,no.’..there were not any hot wings there,,i didn’t see any so you are “wrong”,,,i have been learning now that i have to figure a way all the time to explain just because one person doesn’t notice something that another one does, does not mean anyone is “lying”.i never remember having to do this when my children were younger,,i guess i just did not pay as much attention to what my kids fought and argued about when i was younger.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      I consider my children my greatest teachers too. I’ve learned such humility. Raising children can be a very humbling experience.

  • iola

    Oh Elisa, I SOOOOOO wish I was coming. Would give the world to meet you..all of you. You all have to post up what you learned, thought, laughed about the entire weekend! I want lots of gossip, stories, and your take on it. I will be with you in spirit, and in thoughts. I love you my heart family!

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      ;-(

  • Eizabeth M

    Elisa, just want to wrap you in a big hug. Don’t know why this post got to me so today; the missing of your beautiful sensitive child and having to pick out clothes for the…; just clobbers the brain. I hope you know that your blog makes me more aware of being able to hug my own gorgeous (and occassionally infuriating)teenagers everyday. Nobody gets guarantees in life, so I really do appreciate them every single day. Love the comments on parenting, I so agree! And also on board with the comments about the skeptics. We should all be skeptical — that means we’re thinking for ourselves. The close minded skeptics (or close minded anyone) are the ones to ingore. Once the mind is closed, learning ceases, and what fun is that?

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Love you, Elizabeth M.

  • Jane

    What a beautiful, sweet, precious soul Erik was and is. I’m so grateful for him.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Awww.

  • Jane

    Pat thank you for the comment, I agree those sound like great approaches. And Erik’s advice for listening to, respecting, and validating children I loved so much.

    I too need to work on asking more about feelings and emphasizing boundaries more than rules and respect for boundaries more than respect for authority. It’s easy to get that confused when trying to give kids structure.

  • Skoshi

    Thanks for the really valuable information on child rearing. There was a study years ago of interaction between parents and children, and overwhelmingling, in discussing an event (say, for instance, after a spat at school) parents asked girls how they FELT and they asked boys what they DID.

    It’s no wonder people are skeptics, actually, given Erik and the angel’s explanation that NO religion gets it 100% right and it doesn’t matter what religion they choose but they should gravitate away from those that teach hellfire, etc. It would seem one gets closer to the “truth” (or Source?) by being spiritual rather than religious or dogmatic.

  • Steve

    Erik- Thank you for sharing this great video :)
    Steve

  • Debbie B

    What a great video Erik suggested to your sister Elisa, thank you. So sad we will not get to meet Iola-if she is not coming to Atlanta then I am not bringing that car load of Florida Cabana Boys I promised! Sorry Elisa!!
    May all of us pause on Mothers Day to be thankful for our Mothers and if we are Mothers, to be soooo grateful for the opportunity to give a soul a body to learn, grow and love in….for whatever time that soul had or has on this earth. Love to you all.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Aw, Debbie B. I was counting on you! (tee hee)

  • Lorna

    A poem written for me for mothers day by my partner from my dog Poppy…I melted.

    You mothers of sweet animals, I am sure they would say this to you if they could.

    You take me walks
    and give me treats
    You clean my poop up
    from the streets
    Throughtout the day
    when I’m alone
    I just can’t wait till
    you get home
    cos
    everything a mum should be
    is what you always are to me.

    Happy Mothers Day
    Love Lorna

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Awwww.

  • Kathleen

    Another good book I read many years ago when my children were little was called “How To Really Love Your Child” written by a psychologist I think, but unfortunately I dont remember the author’s name. I just remember what good reading is was and so apt. He firstly reiterated how important “eye contact” was before interating with your child.
    He was forver amazed how so many children and teenagers felt “unloved” by their parents, but after interviewing the parents found that they loved their children very dearly, but for some reason, unable to convey that to them resulting in the children feeling “unloved” and therefore all sorts of problems devoloping within the family.
    A must book for any parent who is having trouble understanding any of their children

    Love to all,
    Kathleen

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Eye contact is so important and so underused. I guess people feel vulnerable when eyes connect. But I even notice it in the drive-thru window at McD’s. The person’s entire persona/energy shifts when you connect in that way. It’s quite powerful.

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