Channeling Erik

July25th

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Brutal Honesty Needed

Posted in: Channeling, Death of a Child, Grief, Grieving, Love, Struggles, Suicide

Hey all,

I received this email this afternoon, and I need your advice and honest feedback. I don’t know why, but it took the wind out of my sails a bit. I tend to be more vulnerable and fragile on the weekends, because, during the week, I focus so heavily on the blog and work that it distracts me from my grief, which is still quite fresh. It’s only been a matter of months since Erik died, but it’s still very painful, especially during those off days when I have time to remember…  But I see these moments are crucial parts of the grieving process, so I don’t want to wish them away. I have to go through this.

In the email below, I will address some remarks in italics–thoughts and explanations you might need to come to your own conclusions. I have learned in my 55 years on this planet that every criticism has a kernel of truth. I need help finding that truth so that I can face it. The only reason I think there is some truth hidden away in this email is because it hurt me deeply. If there is no truth in it, why would it hurt?

I don’t want flattery or defense. I just need objectivity. Hard to come by that commodity when looking through the grey glasses of grief. I know you are all wise and brave and care enough about me to provide me with an honest assessment. Thank you!

The Email

Hi Elisa,

I read the Huff Post article several weeks ago and have followed your blog with interest.  I lost my beloved firstborn son a year ago.  He was older than Erik, but still in life’s prime.  I also channel him, as well as other guides and teachers.  It’s a work in progress for me, too, and I have so much to learn.

There’s nothing I would like to see more than a long-overdue public acceptance of this sort of thing, but, Elisa, I have some strong reservations about a couple of things where your work is concerned.

For one, I feel that you are still so very ambitious for your son.  I understand the difficulty in letting go of our ambitions for our children.  My initial reaction to my son’s passing is that it took all of my hopes and dreams for him away.  More importantly, at a human level, it took his. One thing I will say about my parenting style is I’ve always taught my children to do what they love and do it lovingly. Money or status should never be factors. Frankly, they can dig ditches for all I care as long as they do so with pride and love. I even wrote about this in my book “Raising Everyday Heroes,” to point out the dangers of our meritocratic society where external achievements are valued more than internal ones like loyalty, perseverance and compassion. Why would Linda assume I was “ambitious” for Erik? Because it’s very common, especially among parents who are high achievers like physicians, lawyers, etc. I probably would have taken one look at “Dr. Medhus” and assume the same thing.

I have no reservations about telling people he was and is my heart and soul and a very, very special person.  But please believe me when I say that your frequent references to Erik’s greatness come across as nothing short of deification.  This may turn a lot of people off, as it does me. This does concern me. In the Huffpo article, I made it clear that Erik is no Dalai Lama or mountaintop guru. He has plenty of flaws, just as I do. But that’s what gives his perspective its uniqueness. He’s just like us. He’s not Seth or Abraham or God, he’s just little ol’ Erik. But I do feel like many have elevated Erik to a quasi-deity status that is perhaps not realistic. From the beginning, I’ve wanted this blog to be a journey, first my journey through grief, a means to vent, and then a journey toward truth and purpose. This needs to be about the message rather than about me or Erik. The message is what’s important here, and it’s much bigger than Erik and me.

Also, I saw your responses on another site to some non-believers.  Your comebacks were uncharitable, to put it mildly.  Within a short time, your responses to them had been deleted.  You seemed to take their comments as a direct assault on your son, and whether deservedly or not, your replies to them came across as quite vicious and personal, not from a spiritual place. Now this is simply not true. In fact, I looked at the site again today and all of my comments are still there and are extremely civil. The harshest it got was simply telling those who called me desperate and pathetic that I felt their remarks were unkind and to remember that my grief is still raw and fresh. Perhaps someone else wrote nasty comments using my name, but I don’t see any. Given the tone of the email, I don’t think Linda would intentionally lie, so this puzzles me. None of my comments have been deleted. They’re all there.

This is not about us.  Or even about Erik.  There’s nothing to prove or disprove.  The spirit world is what it is and it doesn’t have to prove itself.  Neither do we have to spend the rest of our lives proving that we were good mothers, in spite of our sons’ premature deaths.  My son passed from an accidental prescription drug overdose.  He struggled with addiction, very successfully, for the most part, for most of his adult life.  It only took that one little brief relapse to leave a beautiful and supportive young widow now struggling to understand. I KNOW I was and am a wonderful mother and feel very confident about my abilities. My children all know how deeply and unconditionally I love them. I made that point, much to their annoyance, every day, several times a day. Am I perfect? Heck no, and I mention that in each of the three books I’ve published on parenting. I wrote them so that others can learn not only from my successes but also my mistakes. Unlike some physicians, I really don’t have much of an ego. I’m not saying I have a poor self-worth, quite the contrary. I learned long ago what my limits are flaws are and how detrimental an over-inflated ego is to raising children and doing good. Raising five children is a humbling experience and has tamed my ego considerably. Love will do that, I suppose. So I don’t have to prove myself or Erik to anyone. Now, I have felt the need to prove spiritual truths to myself and it has helped me to receive confirmation for spiritual phenomena from you, the readers. Remember, I started as a skeptic, so this has been a huge spiritual journey for me. Many of you are more evolved and enlightened than me and your wisdom has been a tremendous help. So the spirit world may be what it is, as Linda points out, but I needed to found out what “is” is! I needed to find out where my boy had gone and if he was alright.

The message will either find its mark with people eventually or it won’t.  There’s nothing wrong with taking the time to let this ripen a bit.  We all have a lot to learn about life after death, and Erik and many other souls have much to teach.  You achieved what you’ve achieved in your life through a great deal of study and effort.  I’m sure you expect nothing less from your children.  But, Elisa, I come away from your blog feeling that you’re demanding more and more miracles from Erik before he can even recharge.  It comes across as, “Come on, Erik, you’re not churning it out fast enough!  I have my book, my radio show, my tv show to think about!  Let’s get this on the road!  Oh, and if you can help a few people by checking out their loved ones, that would be really great, too.” I would like to ask Erik if he wants to continue this. As you see from the channeling transcripts, he’s taken the lead, recommending a book, a movie, a TV show. I’ve been the passive and reluctant spectator dreading such onerous projects when I still struggle with decision like “paper or plastic” and “live or die.”  I can recall Erik saying (through Kim) “Chop, chop, Mom,” because he knows I’m procrastinating. So if anything, Erik is pushing his worn out old mom to “churn it out faster.” I wonder if Linda has really read every entry. It seems she has not, but I hope she does. Plus, with projects like those, I run the risk of being tossed into the limelight, which I do not want. Once that happens, it all becomes about Erik and me rather than the message and the help it’s meant to deliver to those in need.

I think you have a tremendous desire to help people, and as many as you can as fast as you can.  You’re in a service profession, after all.  You’ve spent your life helping people, and the room just kept filling up with more and more patients.  So I get it that you’re accustomed to that and I also get it that that’s just Elisa.  And as you and those you’re trying to reach now have witnessed, there’s an incredible hunger and need for this sort of thing.  But I’m sure you learned early that before you could take care of the patient, you had to take care of yourself.  You were as ambitious for your patients as you were for yourself in your drive to achieve.  And maybe you’re not as personally ambitious for yourself or Erik as it would seem.  Maybe your efforts are almost totally altruistic.  But that’s not what comes across.  And if you’re going to advance the “cause,” I think you have to take the time to grow as you go.  You’re here for your own spirituality and you have to take care of that first.  You want to do more than run a messenger shuttle for others, although that’s a noble endeavor, too.  The point is, this blog is for my spirituality. It IS how I take care of myself. Perhaps that is a bit selfish, but I have to do what I have to do to want to go on. I don’t care if I’m just the secretary in this. Someone has to do that, after all. And as I’ve said, healing others heals me. It really does. Many of my years of medical practice involved pure charity on my part. Those years were and are the best. To me, Medicine is a calling, not a career. Although is has been uplifting to know how many people have been helped by the blog, I can say that it comes at a price. Four different people have confided in me that had it not been for the blog, they had planned to take their own lives too. So it’s very difficult to turn anyone away. I just can’t do it. I can’t deal with another loss. I don’t know why Linda says it doesn’t come across as altruism. Am I missing something?  Except for the fact that it helps with my own healing too…I supposed there is some selfishness in that. Plus, I’ve used this, at Erik’s request, as a venue for him to find a purpose and feel fulfilled, to pay a karmic debt and progress as a soul. He may be dead, but I am still his parent. A parent’s main job is to help their child find their purpose, to find personal fulfillment and to be a decent and compassionate and loving human being.

It was disheartening and somewhat surprising to see the degree to which you were vilified in the comments to your Huff Post article on their site.  It’s a given that most people are going to be derisive and cynical about this and the metaphysical in general.  But I think — and this is just my opinion — that much of it was and is in response to the ego that spoke louder than the words.  I remember thinking when I read it — and when I read your blog — that you’re still wearing the bumper sticker that says, “My kid sold your honor student all of the answers to the tests!”  I know that’s not the way you want to come across. Linda may be projecting a bit here, but again, I think that’s a natural response, given that I’m a physician. Most physicians and those in “high achievement” careers have been pushed into it by their own parents who wanted to hold their children up as trophies giving proof of their own success. I’m sure Linda came to that conclusion for those reasons. I probably would have come to that conclusion myself. Yet she didn’t have all the information and it’s a bit dangerous to communicate based on assumptions rather than intimate knowledge of that person as a human being. We’re all different and should not be stereotyped.

I wish you the very best and don’t intend for this to be a negative communication, not at all.  I wholeheartedly endorse what you’re doing.  You’re an incredibly brave person to put yourself out there like that, as a very tall lightning rod, braver than me and most people.  I just hope you’ll consider my perceptions and also consider pacing yourself — please — as you and Erik continue your loving relationship with this wonderful new spiritual dimension that has such promise for us all.  I want it to be just as successful as you do. All in all, I believe Linda wrote this email with good intentions. Perhaps some was projected based on her own grief after losing her child, but it was very courageous of her to send me this. It can’t have been easy, and I believe she sent it with love in mind. She seems like a very enlightened person.

That said, the sting is still there so a truth must be somewhere in here hiding like a needle in a haystack. I know it will take courage on your part, but your honesty is important for my progress in this life. I love you all! Sorry about any typos. I’m just not up to editing right now.
All the best,
Linda

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  • Lidian

    Elisa,
    i’m hearing alot of rule making and decision making coming from you – that seems to stem from you being judgemental about yourself. As you’ll likely agree, now may not be the best time to be making judgements about much of anything, most of all yourself. I keep hearing the word allowing – so i’ll put it out there. Allow yourself to just be who you are in the moment without self criticisms or judgements about your behaviour.
    In this early stage of the grief process i believe it is enough to just “be” – how often do we get to do that in life? I think it may be one of the few benefits of having to experience grieving. That we can put off all that extraneous stuff that seemed so important before but in hindsight is well, just stuff to push out of the way – at least for a time.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      But Lidian, the last thing I want to do is to have a post hurt someone. It’s not about how it reflects on me, it’s just my fear of causing someone pain. What to do, what to do????

  • Lidian

    I know, i know. That’s why I was surprised to hear you say you were no longer going to censor anything. Why do you have to make a final decision like that at a time like this? Even mediums censor stuff sometimes if it seems like the spiritually appropriate thing to do. So leave it up in the air – your heart will tell you if there is something that should be taken down. It’s not the end of the world if you decide to do it for the right reasons. And I bet, as a Dr., you know that you have to cause pain sometimes in order to let the healing process begin – yes?

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Here’s what I sent in an email to one of the readers who also voiced those concerns: Hey Girl!

      I channeled my guides and here’s what they said last night: Keep the post up as it is. As human beings, we need to learn how to find ways to love even the unloveable and send love to those in pain, perpetrators and victims. Stories like Avery’s evoke anger and disgust and hate, but we must learn how to find compassion and understanding and we must learn to send loving vibrations to both sides. Perpetrators and victims are, like us, a part of the whole. What affects them affects us too. If we send hate and scorn, it affects the whole and therefore every individual soul. If we send love and healing, we all benefit as an individual and as a collective. Since the information was channeled from Erik and Avery’s guides without censor, I feel like it was meant to be shared. We are being challenged once again and must learn from even those things which break our hearts.

  • Candis

    Ahh – listen, My Doc is also afraid of causing pain – she hates to have to do it! But there is this tiny little wart or growth or something on my shin that I just want her to cut off and she won’t do it. She thinks maybe I might be able to shave it off when I’m shaving or something and then I would not even feel it…, but she does not want to do something painful if it can be avoided. I just want her to cut it out already! Recently, I gave her a real challenge by managing to deposit a staple completely into my thumb! (Don’t ask) She had no choice but to get it out, but she hated every minute of it – as did I, but imagine if she had left it in?
    Anyway, I know from direct experience that having really really bad things happen to you does not always make you a better person. So, even if I had somehow chosen all of the bad things in my life – it’s really a huge gamble that I’m not going to go around causing a lot of damage to a lot of other people because of it. I’d say that most of the time there is a lot of damage done along the way by a damaged person. So I’m not so sure that saying like “I want to be damaged to the max next time around because I personally need to have this experience” is not kind of very selfish in the long run…

  • Italia

    Hi Elisa,

    This is Italia. I really think Lidian said it best and its true. You have been through so much. The loss of Eric in such a brutal and selfish way, for his family to find him in that manner, it was selfish and cruel, yet, I look at his photos you have posted and in reading a bit of his histroy before the suicide, I can’t help but feel the loving Eric is coming through. When I first came on the board, if you recall, I spoke of the same issues that Lynda is advising of, however, I was being protective of your putting yourself out there on a limb…(shades of Shirley McClaine) and it came across that you were somehow making atonement for Eric’s selfish action, while grieving. I do think it is a little of everything, what Lynda has said, yet,especially what Lydian has written. Very much what Lydian has written. I was angry that Eric would do what he did to a person or a family seemingly as loving and kind a person as you seem to be. How could he do such a thing? Which is why early on I asked if you were blaming yourself as a physcian that somehow you couldn’t help your Son. So I think she has made some valid points. You and I have had lovely conversations off board and you have been honest about feeling raw and vulnerable as would be expected. It is a lot to behold and if God has given you the gift to communicate with your Son, by all means have at it. Me. I continue to wait for confirmation on my Mother through Eric. Once that comes through or not, I will accept either way it goes, that will tell me one way or another if this is real. Until that time, I have to say, reading your blog has given me hope that I can experience an Adult dialogue with my Mom and clarity, just as you are seeking, as thatis all this is. You, are having a Mother’s love for your Son, even in death. YOu are refusing to allow Death to have the last word. Death be not Proud is a fitting title for this post. And in so doing, yes, I feel protective of you because it is so raw for you and the brutality of how it happened. But you keep on stepping Elisa, because one day, when you understand the true concept of what this communication really means, you will be able to let go and allow his spirit to soar. I do want to say to you, that keep in mind you have other children who are living and need you, but I hesitate to say that because you are grieving and hey, you are MOM! And guess what Eric is your baby and if you want him to be in heaven doing great things, hey that is your call. God is love, he speaks the Universial language of love and I truly believe that love transcends death. Just because Eric died doesn’t mean you stop loving, or hurting or feeling the need to reach out to him. I am happy for you because in time you will heal from this and Eric will heal and he will move on in the true concept of the afterlife. You are just not there yet and so be it. Now, that is why I am waiting patiently for Eric to tell me about my Mother, my needs are as great as yours.

    Take exquiste care Elisa and continue to heal, we are all learning from your grace.

    Kind thanks,

    Italia

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hey Italia, I spoke to Erik through Jeannie Barnes yesterday. My first questions were: Is this what you want, Erik or are you just feeling pressure to make up for what you did? Do you need to be released and allowed to soar, etc? The answers: a resounding no. He said this is his mission. No one is stuck on a certain level, but he’s in a place where he is encouraged to make retribution and he finds great joy in doing it. He sees this as his mission, his destiny in the afterlife and he loves it, loves it, loves it. He knows he we have forgiven for his suicide, but he sees, for the first time, that he and I are so alike. He now knows he is a teacher and healer. It would have been better if he had stayed on the earthly plane to follow his destiny and he could have overcome his struggles if only he had persevered. He would have been a wonderful teacher, he thinks. But now he wants to help those on the earthly plane, especially to prevent others from making the same mistakes he made.

      He also says he’s been visiting some of the readers, because he gets a big kick out of it. He loves the freedom of travel he enjoys as a soul. His guides have been advising him to use these visits for a more purposeful reason instead of just using them to play, so he laughs and says he needs to use those visits for his work as well. You’ll be able to hear the audio file as soon as a post it. I love you, Italia!

  • Italia

    Oh and Elisa, we have gathered for a family wedding and my two Sisters are here with me. I had hoped to have some word from Mother before now so I could share with them. I continue to wait and I will not share with them unitl I hear, but we were talking last night my sister and I and she told me something about Mother that I didn’t know and it is very much like what you have written about how Eric lets you know he’s with you. So I am trying to stay calm and not get excited about Eric’s communication with Mom and what it will be, armed with this news from my Sister. So do not let your heart be heavy Elisa, it is what it is go with your heart.

    Love

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      OOOOOO!!!! Italia, how exciting! I can’t wait to find out! I know you’ll get the comfort and confirmation you need, hopefully sooner than later.

  • Shawna

    Hi Elisa, I haven’t read everyone’s comments so I hope I’m not repeating myself too much. I’ll read everyone’s when I have more time because I enjoy the comments too just as much as the blog. But as I was writing my thoughts on each it was funny because then I would read on and what I had wrote you wrote so I was thinking a lot of what you were. I don’t think Linda gets Erik’s sense of humor. When he talks about my people and being on a thrown or something I know that’s his sense of humor but some may take it as ego. What I like about Erik is that he is like us and people can relate. Different people will be attracted to different teachers and maybe Erik and you are just not a match for her, yet. I know this may not make sense but I’m going to copy what I wrote on the piece of paper as I was reading this. It can still be about ya’ll. There’s no way this isn’t going to be about ya’ll (you and Erik and your family). Ya’ll have touched our lives and hearts. It doesn’t have to be all about the message – people want to be able to relate first and then they’ll get the message. But yes, it is bigger than all of us – the message. We are eternal, we are one, learn unconditional love (that’s a lot of what I get out of it). You will find people that won’t be able to hear what you are saying or don’t want to hear it, can’t handle the grief that you are going through, don’t understand, so they may distance themselves (that’s ok), there will be those that think of you as a delicate flower during this time (which you are and that’s ok), but the best I have found during grief are those that support you allow your tears and will cheer you on and keep you strong (those are angels). You are really going to build your spiritual muscles with this and be able to take the criticism with a grain of salt. I’m not really feeling this lady Linda and she contradicts herself a lot. I think she is still harboring a lot of bitterness and is a bit jealous of you (no offense Linda) but that’s how I feel. She needs to practice what she preaches some and not be so judgemental. She condemns you in one paragraph but praises you in the next. Make up your mind lady. Honestly, I didn’t care for her tone but was trying not to let my ego get into it and judge her because I love you and feel a bit protective. What I mean about her contradicting herself is one minute she says this is not about us and it’s not about Erik and it’s not about the spirit world and the next she says we have a lot to learn about life and death, and Erik and may other souls have much to teach. I’ll send you love Linda and hope you don’t take this the wrong way. I feel that Erik too is pushing you- the world is asking and he wants to answer. Just like with Seth, Abraham, God, or any other spiritual teacher we are asking and they are answering. So don’t let her make you feel like that- ask Erik himself like you said you would. There’s nothing wrong with helping others and yes, in your healing others you heal yourself. :) Only, thing I disagreed with what you said was that a parent’s main job is to help their child find their purpose. I think they can to an extent but don’t over do it…that can push a child away. You still want your children to be independent and let them make up there own minds. Thanks for sharing. Stay strong and don’t let em get to you.
    Love & Light,
    Shawna

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Wow, Shawna, I couldn’t have said it any better. You know, you have a real gift. (Several of course) The gift I’m speaking about is this: You seem to be able to shed light on muddled subjects and make them so clear. You can step back and assess things so objectively, leaving your own belief paradigm and your ego out of the equation. For me, this makes your every comment to powerful and I learn something valuable every time. God, I love you!

      And I agree with the whole raising children to be independent. In fact, my first published book is called: Raising Children Who Think for Themselves. By help, I don’t mean pushing, I mean encouraging. If a child shows an interest, we offer the tools they need to facilitate exploration, we encourage, we offer objective feedback, we help them pick themselves up after they fall down and we prod them to find the lessons in each teachable moment. The entire subject matter of my books is about how parents raise their children to be externally directed rather than internally directed. We turn them into approval seekers and we squelch their ability to develop internal dialogue and to self-evaluate. So children often make their decisions based on what’s going to win them love and acceptance. A child who is self-directed gains pack approval not by begging or conforming, but by contributing something meaningful to the pack. This frees the child to base decisions on his or her sense of right or wrong. Such kids grow to become adults who do the right thing even when no one is listening. My third book, Raising Everyday Heroes, deals with the current culture of parents rescuing children from consequence, frustration, conflict, defeat, etc. And it also deals with how we push them to follow our own agendas, how we focus on external achievements rather than internal ones, etc. So you and I are definitely on the same page!

  • Shawna

    First, I want to say thank you so much, I take that as a very nice compliment that you think I have a gift. Sometimes I wonder if I should even say anything because I don’t want it to come out the wrong way and you don’t have a delete or edit button after posting the comment. But I just post it anyway and hope it doesn’t come out the wrong way.
    Wow, Elisa-you are so enlightened and such a great teacher! Now, I’ve got ya. Glad you clarified that for me. You’ve got it going on! I’m not a parent but I want to check out your books. So many parents need to know this information. Love it!
    Yes, we are on the same page!
    Love & Light,
    Shawna
    Have a great evening and weekend! Hopefully, I’ll be able to check out some more blogs this weekend so I can catch up here. Lots of what I say or think and then the answer will be in the next blog. lol

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      ;-) Love you too, Shawna.

  • Shawna

    Elisa in your comment back to Jahmaiah you found your truth! See it’s a good thing you shared this. What you said: The blog needs to be about helping Erik, helping others, and healing myself, not escaping. I thank Linda for opening my eyes.
    *****
    So there was good that came out of this. Still reading everyone else’s comments but I liked what he said! Wow some great messages here.

  • Shawna

    Elisa, Just one last thing did you mean internally directed rather than externally directed? You don’t have to post this I was just wondering? Thanks

  • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

    We raise our kids to be externally directed, which is bad. They should be internally (self) directed. Even saying “I’m proud of you,” fosters approval seeking, because the child thinks, “What do I need to do to ensure my mom or dad stays proud of me?” Better to say, “I bet you’re proud” so the child reflects, “Am I proud? Hmm, yes, I guess I am because I did this and that…blah blah.” Make sense?

  • Mike

    Hi Elisa,

    I found your blog through HuffPo as well, and I did not have the same reaction as Linda. I felt that you are incredibly brave and amazingly honest and open. As a physician myself, I have a hard time imagining being so raw and exposed like you are on this blog. It is really amazing. Thank you.

    I feel compelled to ask if you are familiar with Steve and Erin Pavlina. Steve has a very successful self-development blog, where he often writes about these amazing “30-day trials” he does. He is in the midst of one of these where he is exploring Subjective Reality. This post from Linda, and your responses made me think of this, in terms of how much of what she said to you seemed to resonate at some level, even if it was a pretty deep level, but by blogging about it and being open, you were able to deal with some of these issues and move past them. I was again impressed with your bravery of being so open, and open-minded, to the criticism in the letter.

    Also, I mention the Pavlinas, because Erin is a medium, who has a great blog and offers phone sessions as well (though more expensive than your recent medium).

    All the best,

    Mike

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hi Mike, So rare to find a physician like me on the site. I’m so glad to see how open-minded you are. I haven’t heard of Steve and Erik but I’d love to find out more!!!! Is Erik a channeling medium? How much does she charge? Can you tell me more about her style? (Some mediums paraphrase and some speak word for word what the deceased or the guardian angel says, etc.)

      I’m glad our paths have crossed!

  • Elisa P

    Elisa,

    You have to heal as well and if you have to do that by using this website (which is also helping thousands of other people) then that is absolutely fine! You should not have to feel guilty for helping yourself at the same time you help others.

  • Melanie

    Frankly, I didn’t get the point of the email that was sent to you. It kind of seemed liked, “I totally like what you’re doing but you come off like a knob-job. I mean, don’t take this personally or anything. Just think about it!”

    If she wanted to give you some constructive criticism, she should have included some ideas of what to do instead.

    She may not have included because she wasn’t sure how to go about doing it better.

    The only thing that she really communicated is that people will feel every possible emotion about you from the entire spectrum that includes hate, love, indifference. Having said that, not everyone is going to get everything about you. If you want to get your message out, you will have to spread across the world and the whole world doesn’t get it. You will be met with skepticism from people.

    Miraculously, people seem to form an opinion about anything you do–even breathing! Have you ever taken pilates? If not, you should know, you’re not breathing right. ;)

    As far as the things she said about you: I have never thought you describe Erik as a god. You describe him as an imperfect creature who you love unconditionally.

  • Tiffany

    Elisa,

    Hi! My dear friend Lois Gish called me a few weeks ago and told me about your site and how much it has helped her in her recent grief. Just talking to her on the phone gave me goosebumps. I knew by that reaction that I had to read this. I have to say that you, Erik and Kim have helped confirm and change some of my perspectives on life, death, God, what happens after we depart this earth and the possibilities that lie at our fingertips. All we have to do is ask. I have to also say that there are no coincidences. The past three weeks of reading about your experience in this realm has unknowingly helped prepare me for a sudden tragedy that occurred this week with a dear friend of ours. My sister in law Elisa P., mentioned I had a vivid dream about trying to stop someone (couldn’t figure out who) from committing suicide with a gun. I didn’t really know how to interpret this until later that day when my husband called to tell me that our friend Paul had decided to exit this earth. The shock of it was stunning and painful. The timing is confusing as well because my dream occurred 2 days after his departure, yet hours before the news of his passing reached us. I have always had vivid dreams and remember them in detail and I have realized through your site that this is a gift that I intend to use. The one tenth of a percent of pain that I feel from losing such a wonderful man and friend (especially to my husband) that possessed such love, kindness, amazing talent and potential, pales in comparison to the loss of your son. My heart aches for the now obvious pain he was in and because of you and your braveness to speak your truth, you have given my family peace in knowing that Paul is in a place of love and is fulfilling his purpose in teaching those he knew on this earth, as well as learning the lessons he chose to participate in, in order to progress in his own life.

    The questionable, negativish, comments you receive in regards to your work can certainly affect you in ways that make you wonder if what you are doing is right, good, beneficial etc. We all experience that, I think, in one way or another. However, one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn when it comes to hearing those “constructive criticism” comments from others, and its still a work in progress, of which I learned from my own personal guides here on earth, is “it is none of your business what other people think of you.” Tough one eh? But so true.

    You and all of the efforts involved in this blog are helping and guiding thousands in ways that are indescribable and life changing. It has certainly helped me to take my gifts in the energy healing modalities that I have been trained in and used for my own personal growth and use them to help others. Thank you for turning your tragedy into miracles! I am channeling Erik as we speak and pray he will give me information I am seeking. Cheers to you, and the healers of this earth!

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Oh, Sweet Tiffany, every loss to suicide is a tragedy, isn’t it? I’m so glad to have such a gifted soul joining our loving family here. Elisa P. did recount your story and I find it amazing. i am in awe of your gifts, gifts which I’m trying so hard to develop myself. We’re so lucky to have you and Elisa, who I consider to be very highly evolved souls, because you will offer so much insight, wisdom and love. People like you are a comfort, because you are able to tap into the knowingness that is deep in our souls. Please give my love to your husband too. I know it must be difficult for him. I love you, Tiffany!

  • Rebecca in San Francisco

    sounds like this person has prejudged you as being just another inauthentic wannabe fame-whore. I think there are people out in mainstream media that may have caused this person to feel this way and that is why this person has labeled you as having an agenda. oh well, let it slide. i think the truth will prevail

  • jenada

    We all grieve differently. If your son has made this site possible and people may not believe it or support it, I just think that is their problem and loss, and not yours. We all love our children differently, we’re all different human beings. I’m the last person to judge even the emailer, so I’ll simply say do what feels right for you!

    I’ve read many blogs in the past and I think you should know this is a very common thing readers will do. You just have to develop a thick skin because think about it, this stuff could eat you up alive if you let it! You’re doing a great job here and this site has been such a blessing to me and so many others.

  • Ingrid

    Elisa- I know I’m a little late in reading this post (don’t know how I missed it!) and I know you have already answered several times that you are grateful for Linda’s feedback and have learned from it, but I too just have to say- I have no idea what blog/post this woman read because everything she said is the exact OPPOSITE of what you have written!! I have seen on multiple posts where you asked Erik if he’s ok to keep going, is he too tired, of Erik prompting YOU to keep going, and of you making sure to say any financial gains you make from this will go towards spreading the love and light to others. Like everyone else, I see pure projection and I also think it’s very sketchy that she just “happened” to mention the book she wrote. Anyway, I don’t want to be negative in this wonderful, positive space, but just had to vent and let you know that we all love you!!!!!!! Hope you have a wonderful weekend! xoxo Ingrid

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      You have a great weekend too, Sweetie! You know, I didn’t even notice her mention of a book!!!

  • Linda

    Elisa, I would like to correct the perception that I have written a book or have published anything. As I e-mailed you several weeks ago, my e-mail was sent to you privately, not for posting, and I didn’t know it was published on your site until you e-mailed me that it was already posted. By then, there was already a comment posted by a reader. I didn’t have an agenda, Elisa, and I didn’t mean to sound angry. If anything, as we mothers who have lost sons way too soon, I hoped to let you know that I was channeling my son, too — so awesome that’s it’s possible, isn’t it?! — although I’ve never written publicly about it before, and I just wanted to lend support but also express concern that you were taking on too much too soon – my opinion, only — and I didn’t want to see you staggering under the weight of it all before it got off the ground. What you’re doing is way too important! I’ll say it again, you’re very brave. I apologize if I hurt you. I know what that’s like. I’ve noticed strangers who are apparently unhappy in their own lives love the opportunity to make me feel like — So what? Big deal. You lost a child. Happens all the time, so get over it — But Elisa, as you know, it leaves you feeling soul-less and waking up is the worst time, when you realize yet again it’s not just a nightmare you dreamed. So, again, I haven’t published a book or anything else. As of now, I’m not on a social networking site, don’t have a blog, don’t have an agenda, and wouldn’t add to another mother’s grief for anything! Not intentionally! The pain is unbearable enough. And Erik as a spirit can’t be pushed. lol The idea of a petite and pretty Elisa shoving a soul around? Too funny. I didn’t mean for it to come across that way. Peace, and thanks for your kind words. I’m sorry to have upset your readers and send love and light to them all.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Linda, we were connected for a reason. I am grateful for the lessons you taught me and i feel so connected to you just based on the journey through grief we have both traveled. I’m glad you said what you said. It was important for me to hear these things so I could separate my grief from the blog and allow myself to mourn. Hard, but necessary. You didn’t hurt me, you opened my eyes to the fact that I was burying my head in the sand. I’m glad I’m free now. Are you doing okay?

  • Linda

    Thanks, Elisa. I’m okay. Tonight. Can’t say about tomorrow. It comes in waves, doesn’t it? But it’s getting better, little by little. I try not to think about the magnitude of the loss. When my Dad suicided a few years ago, I saw a psychic a couple of weeks later for the first time in my life. I staggered into the street after the session, blinded by tears of joy, but royally pissed off at my Dad for saying he was ready to go again! He meant jump right back in with another life on the earth plane. Then why the hell did he leave?! I wasn’t on a spiritual path back then and couldn’t figure that one out. Now I like to think I understand it a little more, but really, I only know more about what I don’t know. Anyway, once they/we transition, there’s no feeling of sadness or separation with them. It’s all an illusion. They really never leave. And they’re like, “Hey, I beat you here!!” LOL And with my Dad, he said his death — and his choice to die — was “an act conceived in love.” When I look back, I see that I was reborn by his death. It was his gift to me, as terrible as it was at the time. But back to my son, it helps me if I simply feel the love that I feel for him by closing my eyes, focusing on my heart center, and disconnecting from the brain and its memories. It’s hard to do — to feel, but don’t think — and easier because I learned how to quiet my mind in meditation long before he passed. When I do this, it keeps me in the present and helps me see that love is eternal when disconnected from the mechanical brain. It’s the way the soul experiences it, so in this way, I can come closer to experiencing it the way he does — centered in the present moment, together. I hope you feel better tomorrow, Elisa. You will.

  • Tracy Lamont

    Dear Elisa,
    I am relatively new to your site and am slowly going through it from your very first posting. I have to tell you that I find it very comforting, being a bereaved mother myself. (I lost my son, Adam to a car accident in 2007 when he was 18 years old.)
    Reading about the early days for you has been very helpful to me as I can identify with your pain. I am also comforted with Erik’s obvious euphoria at finding himself back in our spiritual home. I have never had such communication with Adam, so I don’t really know how he felt upon finding he had passed over. I have however, had many dream visits with him, it’s just that he never tells me anything important! I just spend that time with him touching his face and holding him. It’s all very real. I’m looking forward to learning how to channel him myself – something I would have had no idea of, had I not come across your site.
    Anyway, the point of my reply is this. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing. Life has a way of setting us on the right pathway and losing Erik was, for you, the catalyst that set you on this path. Take no notice of small-minded people who like to over-think everything. If Erik is urging you onward, then that is because this is what you are both meant to be doing. The help and comfort you are sending out to the world is immense. You have reached me and I live in Inverness, Scotland!
    Please keep up the good work and do not be deterred. As a rule, if something feels natural, then you’re probably meant to be doing it.
    Love and blessings to you and your family and your precious boy, Erik.
    I hope our boys bump into each other over there. They would really get along. They have the same sense of humour. Much love, Tracy xxx

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Thanks for that, Tracy, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I guess we really haven’t lost our babies forever, but losing them in the physical is so devastating, especially for us, as moms. I’ve always been very physically affectionate with my kids and I miss that with Erik.

      I’m sure that since we’re connected, our boys are too. I hear that’s the way it works. If they have the same sense of humor, God save us and batten down the hatches! They’re probably having the time of their “lives.” I’ll ask Erik to have Adam come to you more tangibly and give you messages you can sink your teeth into. Love you! Thanks for being a part of this loving family.

  • Tracy Lamont

    Thank you so much, Elisa!
    Looking forward to a serious conversation with Adam!
    Love & light xx

  • Jane

    Tanya – that was the sense i was getting also. I think you are onto something here. Linda’s points may have some logic to them but they are tainted by something.
    My feeling is that Elisa would be well-served to reject the letter altogether and not internalize any of it as it is definitely more poisonous than helpful though Linda probably did not mean for it to be so.
    Sometimes we just have to avoid “taking the bait” if you know what i mean.

  • Nina

    Hi Elisa,

    I’ve been reading this blog since Thanksgiving Eve, so not very long. But I am devouring every entry because it’s just amazing! I think what you’re doing is wonderful.

    Like other readers have posted, I couldn’t get through reading what that person wrote you. It was like someone pecking at you unnecessarily and it didn’t seem to come from a good place. I wouldn’t sweat it! Just keep doing what you feel is right. Btw, I’m a fellow Texan (currently transplanted in Los angeles.)

    I had a reading done from Felix lee lerma on Tuesday. He answered some of my questions but it was new to me so I didn’t probe some of the information further. I wish i wouldnt have been so overwhelmed! Is there a place we can ask Erik questions?

    Much love to you. Like I said, don’t sweat it! There are always going to be naysayers along your journey, just do your best and soldier on, friend.

    Love and Light,
    nina

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hey Nina, There will be a place to ask Erik questions as soon as I’m finished with the questions for the book. If you have general questions about death, the afterlife, etc. I’ll be happy to help. Otherwise, the “Ask Erik” page should be up soon. I you want me to ask Erik to bring forth a deceased loved one, let me know the person’s name as well as his/her age and city of death. Be forewarned that if you do, you might get some fun visits or pranks from my boy! Much love to you and I’m happy you’ve joined our family.

  • Nina

    Ohmigosh!

    I’m just going to be honest here and say that if Erik showed himself to me the way he has to Jason I think I’d lose it! I hope he’d just take it easy on a very sensitive soul! lol!

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      No worries, Nina. From what I understand, we can only perceive what we can manage. ;-)

  • Thoso

    Well, I’m a newcomer here and haven’t really had the time to read all the blogs yet, but I’ll say this:
    - I think it’s fantastic that you can find the time and commitment to do this and share it for all interested. Sometimes it’s a bit like waching a program on Discovery or National Geographic, following a guide in an undiscovered country. I really like to broaden my horizont and learn more about the nature, the world and the cosmos, be it from a spiritual or scientific viewpoint.

    So thank you for the huge effort in making Eriks voice available for all of us.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Thoso, so glad you’re part of our family now.

  • aniri

    Elisa, I did not have the patience to finish the article. I read most of it, and I want you to know that you are a great mother, you show it and you are proud of it. I do not agree with the criticism and I want you to know that there are a lot of people out there who support you, and feel close to you and what you are going through even though we were never introduced. Do not stop writing and good job in raising your son.

  • http://www.supernaturalsenisitives.com kathy

    Elisa, I know I am writing this a little late and may have figured out what I have to tell you but here goes…everyone has their own intrepation of what a parent should be and do. We all learn as we go and if we are doing the very best we can with our children than that should be all that matters. Erik came knowing the type of parents he would receive and was well prepared to be part of his family and the lessons he was going to learn was going to be an exciting advendture to learn and gain knowledge about his physical body and his family and he would gain love in the process. I feel that Erik probably felt at a soul level he would do better on the otherside helping people like himself and being able to reach further with his bright clear light and love through being such a clear strong channel to make more of impact on humanity. I do not know but it might be handy for you do look at the kyballion and learn about the 7 sacred principles if you have not yet. It explains how the universe works and helps you come to terms with how you could perceive things. I just read it and loved it. You are loved and Erik…. I am sure loves you beyond your wildest dreams. He Knows now that good and bad are the same just at each end of the pole and what ever way we have to learn is the way it should be until are soul gains enough knowledge to follow the higher self in our lives. This is a good way to find compassion for those who judge and criticize you and by understanding there are those who blame and those who work through their issues like yourself….by channeling Erik tells me you are a highly evolved soul needing to find the truth and this truth comes from your heart and your are on the right track and you should be proud of yourself for reaching out to Erik. He left this plane to help you reach a higher level of understanding and love. I hope this helps.
    Love and light
    Kathy

  • Jamie G

    Elisa,
    In my opinion there is a mustard seed of truth in Linda’s email, but most of it gives me a sense of her unconsciously feeling like your path with Erik’s communications is “showy”, and in her mind you’re not the only person who has this happening to them, she does to (as she points out several times, along with noting the books SHE’S already published). It feels a little “nyahh-nyahh, I’ve already done this, I’m better than you…” To put it scientifically.
    The mustard seed I’m referring to is it could be a slippery slope for you to keep things completely relevant and sincere as the whole “Channeling Erik” thing takes on a life of its own and the media see a way to champion it for 15 minutes in order to make some $ off of it. But I think you’re smart enough, and wise enough to weather the storm. I’m delighted to have come across this blog, and as sorry as I am for you losing your son, I’m twice as happy that you’ve connected with him again in such a rich, open way.

    Much love,
    Jamie

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Jamie, you’re right. My aim is to make sure that the message is bigger than anything else: Erik, me, the blog, etc. People die every day by the scores. People channel the deceased all the time, and many, maybe even most of them have amazing messages to share with humanity. THis is just my way of doing what’s been done for eons, but in a way that heals me and others and gives Erik a venue for his voice. Thanks for being part of the family, girl! I’m in constant awe of the wisdom and love others bring to our blog.

  • http://channelingErik Rebecca

    I am very new to this site (3 days) so I may be “behind the eight ball” commenting on such an old topic. However, I felt the need to tell you my impression of the e-mail that has been a topic of discussion. My Mother is 84 yrs young. She, too, lost her son to suicide in June of 2009. Tonight I sat down with her and played one of Erik’s radio sessions. From that point on, I saw a woman who finally found other humans that could relate to her. Erik and Elisa have provided more comfort and peace of mind because they spoke out loud the beliefs she always had and continues to have about life and the tragic death of her beloved son. There are no “earthly” words that describe how thankful I am to have found this site. I do believe that it was no accident. I don’t believe anything is. I found this site for a reason. I can now admit, I was in a very bad place mentally, which is what made me start searching the internet. I did not come by this by accident. I thank you for what you have given my Mom and I. As Eric says “It’s a ripple effect”. Thanks for letting us be a part of the “ripple” and I will continue to “pay it forward”.

    Love,
    Rebecca XXOO

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Oh Rebecca, you’re sweet words couldn’t come at a better time. I’m so glad you’re part of our family. I love you. What’s your mom’s first name? Tell her I love her too.

  • http://channelingErik Rebecca

    Elisa,
    I love you, too! It does my soul good to know that my words may have helped. My Mom’s name is Margaret but she goes by Peggy. I will be sure and share your comment with her.

    Love,
    Rebecca
    XXOO Paying it forward

  • just me, loving your presence

    In my humble opinion, I think two grieving mothers are simply grieving and finding the best way and best path for each to do so. Neither is right or wrong, it just is. If Erik didn’t want to help you, or others, he would be straighforward about it, as I am coming to know him well through your blog Elisa; and likewise -you. You are on the right track. Blessings, and more wind to your sails! You are both truely gifts to our precious world. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have already passed your link to others.
    p.s.
    While reading one of your posts where Erik tells you he will be there through your granddaughter because babies and dogs see better than adults, my dog came whipping in the house b-lining over to me like I’d never seen him run before and just sat in front of me -panting and smiling. I felt Erik in that moment. Bless you both!
    p.p.s.
    Had you never said you were a doctor, I would never have guessed… and I say this with the utmost of respect, in that, ego is NOT, I repeat NOT a factor here, at all! I am humbled by your humility and honoured by your authenticity. The gift of your ptrue resence is refreshing.

    • http://www.channelingerik.com Elisa Medhus, MD

      Aw, that’s so sweet of you. I think the string of tragedies and hardships I’ve had from birth on pretty much slapped the ego out of me! But I still have a long way to go to reach the level that many of the blog members have attained. Love you!!

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