Paul’s Questions

Dear Elisa,

My name is Paul and I am 52 years old. I live in Hamilton NJ, just outside of Trenton. My son Jim died June 17, 2010 in Trenton NJ. My son was thirty years old when he died. He had been sick for some time, but my wife and I were not aware of it. When we realized how serious a condition he was in, we took him to the ER. He died about three weeks later. I already believe in the afterlife. Just after he died a friend of mine received a message form the other side. This message was specific and so I know that it was from my son. I have also received a few dream visitations from him as well. I would appreciate it if your son Erik could bring my son through. I need a little more detail and confirmation concerning what he is doing on the other side.

I would like to know if his death was a lesson that I needed to learn. I suspect that is the case, but I would like an answer on that. I would also like to know a little bit about what it is like where he is now living.  Who is he living with and what his purpose is on the other side.

I am grateful that you started this web site. There are so many that are hurting deeply due to the death of a loved one. I am glad for you that you received confirmation from your son Erik that he is alive and well. By the way, my son also had bipolar disease. He had a bad reaction to any medication that he took, so he stopped taking it. As a result he self-medicated to blunt the emotional pain. Thanks again for your help and for your son Erik’s help.

Sincerely,

Paul

Channeling Transcript

Me: Now, let’s see. This one is from Paul. He’s 52, lives in Hamilton, New Jersey. Uh, his son, Jim, died at the age of 30 in Trenton. Paul wants to know if his death had a purpose, and if so, what?

Erik: Jim died to help many people connected to him learn something.

(pause)

Me: Okay, so what…

Erik: Mom, it’s almost like a self-sacrifice. Jim is telling me that it’s like pulling one tooth to save the others.

Me: Oh, okay.

Erik: So he felt like he was pulled from his position so that the others could learn where they are in life and what the precious focus should be. Oh, Jim is really complaining!!

(Jamie laughs)

Me: Oh, no! About what?

Erik: Friends and family were more focused on the outer perspective of life: how your house is, do the clothes look good on me, are we going to put that in the savings account? It was never on the subtle details of a relationship—of love, of personality. Always the unimportant shit that really doesn’t matter so much. He wants them to focus more on the spiritual things. And so he really feels his absence has made that real grounded. People need to realize how precious life on the earthly plane is so they don’t waste the whole human experience there.

Me: Yep.

Erik: Mom, tell Paul that this was decided between them all before this lifetime. It was part of a spiritual contract they all agreed on.

Me: Okay, so this is what he was complaining about before, not now, right?

Erik: Yes.

Me: Okay, good. So things are different.

Erik: Hell, yeah! Oh, and his dad is supposed to write about the lessons and share it with others so more than just family members will learn about it. People need to get their heads out of their asses and see what’s really important. Lotta times their priorities are fucked up.

Me: Oh yeah, I know. I know. Now, he also wants to know a little about who Jim’s with, what it’s like where he is and things like that. Oh, and what is his purpose over there on the other side?

Erik: Jim’s laughing and pointing around. He’s saying where he is doesn’t have the same structure as it does on Earth. He doesn’t live in a house or anything. Souls create their own environment, and he tells me that in his, there are baseball fields everywhere. He’s one cool dude. Great personality, great outlook over here. And he wants me to tell you that he crossed over just fine. He’s done it plenty of times before, you know.

Me: So what kind of work does he have there?

Erik: His job right now is to help his family move past their grief and put the lessons into action.

Me: Okay. Who’s he living with?

Erik: He says he doesn’t live in a particular house. He goes to see his parents a lot, but it looks like he visits them separately. He hangs out with a grandmother and two friends who have passed. He also hangs out with his wife a lot, of course.

Paul’s Response

Dear Elisa,

I am grateful that you got a message back from my son. I am surprised that it happened so fast, but I am pleasantly surprised. His death was like a whirlwind. One moment he was here with us and the next moment he was fighting for his life. I think that the reason it was so tough for us was the fact that it was so unexpected. We did not know how sick he was until that day we called an ambulance to take him to the hospital. It was like being hit in the gut. We were totally unprepared for his death. It may have been a little different if we knew that he had been struggling with a serious disease for a long time. I do want to move on from his death and use his death as inspiration for the next phase of my life.

I have been writing poetry for about two years. I believe that I already told you that. I have wanted to write a book of inspirational poetry. I have written 78 poems so far. The poems that come through are so touching that I know my Father is helping to inspire the thoughts and feelings. I also want to write a book about the Father within and the afterlife. I know that so many people’s lives could be better if they knew what happens when we die. I have a couple of thoughts and I would like to pursue that.

My wife and I live in the same house. My son may have meant that he visits us at separate times. I know that he has come to me in my dreams about four or five times. I also have been visited in my dreams by my mother, my grandmother, (father’s mother) mother-in-law, father-in-law, and an old friend that passed away a few years ago. We used to belong to the same religion that I do not practice anymore. It is quite possible that my son is living with my mother, his grandmother. She came to me a few times before Jim passed away. Jim was always close to his grandparents. He also wrote poetry and he wrote poems about his experiences with his grandmother and grandfather. My wife compiled some of his poetry and put it together in book form. She then took his poetry and put it together with pictures from his life. It is a memorial book. It is very moving.

I need to tell you about the synchronicity that I experienced before my son died.  First of all I go back to 1991 when my mother died. I was in the hospital sitting beside the bed that my mother was in. I was in the hospital room with my father and a male nurse. There was a movie on that the male nurse was curious about. He said out loud: “I wonder what the name of that movie is?” It was a movie starring John Wayne. My mother piped up real quick and said that the name of the movie is Donovan’s Reef. She died August 7, 1991, a few weeks later.

Fast forward to my son. After being in the hospital for a few days something happened that assured me my son was going to die. Needless to say I was ticked off because I did not want that to happen. I still prayed furiously for his recovery and healing, to no avail. In the bed next to my son there was a husband lying in his hospital bed. His wife was there next to him and two friends or family members. A movie was playing on the TV and someone said: “What is the name of that movie?” Either the husband or wife said: “That is Donovan’s Reef.” I was floored when I heard that because I knew that synchronicity was at work. The universe was telling me that my son was going to die.

I am grateful for this labor of love that you have taken on. I know that it is labor intensive to transcribe these sessions. But I am grateful for what you do. And I am grateful to your son Erik and the mission that he has embarked upon to unite our deceased loved ones with those living on this side. When my son was not hampered by his mental illness he was very talkative. He was also very bright. I think that he is making up for what he did not have when he was here on the earth. I look forward to reading the transcript of my son’s session. I just want to say thank you so much. And thank you to Erik. You are helping more people than you could possibly imagine.

Love,

Paul

My Response

Thank you for giving Erik and I the opportunity to help you and to help Jim reinforce his message. He seems like an enlightened soul and must be since he sacrificed to impart lessons to some of your family members. I get a sense that you and he are tag teaming on this one. He sacrificed his life and you are left behind to, through your writing, ensure that message is heard by many.

xo

Elisa

Paul’s Second Response

Hi Elisa,

Thanks for posting the message from my son.  I have been wanting to write a book about the Father within for some time.  I feel like returning the gift that the Father gave to me.  A nudge from my son should do the trick.

I have an idea about the two friends that he may be seeing now.  They died within the last two years and they belonged to the same religion.  I would like to find out if it is those two persons.  His comment about there being baseball fields everywhere is interesting.  I don’t know what the significance may be, but we have baseball fields behind our house.

Thanks again Elisa.  I know it is not easy for you because you are still dealing with your grief.  But I appreciate your hard work in bringing this to other grieving persons.  I will keep you in my prayers so that you will be able to cope with your grief.

Love,

Paul

I know most of us, me included, need an occasional refresher course on priorities. How courageous of Jim and Paul to suffer in order to help so many learn such a crucial lesson.

I invite you all to revisit “Ask Erik: Kathleen’s Questions” to read her belated response. It will give you the additional confirmation that so many of us need and enjoy. Here’s the link:

http://www.channelingerik.com/ask-erik-kathleens-questions/