Channeling Erik

September6th

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Ask Erik: John’s Questions

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John’s Question

Hello Elisa and thank you and Erik so much for this wonderful blog. I’ve read every word so far and many times have been moved to tears. I feel like I’ve been directed here for a reason. I too feel transitional. Although I’m in my late 50′s and have had a fairly good career, at this juncture in my life I just feel lost. Reading Erik’s response to Olivia has been an inspiration. I would like to pose a few questions to Erik but can’t find the “Ask Erik” link . Has that been removed and in future will you be taking more questions for Erik? Once again thank you for all that you’re doing.

I was born and raised in St. Joseph, Michigan, but now live in San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico. I have a few questions regarding my father, Harold, who passed away at the age of 69. He was very abusive to me both physically and mentally leaving a tremendous amount of scars that are still trying to heal. I thought I had come to terms with all of that, but recently he has been visiting me in some very violent and distressing dreams, which just dredge up all of those horrible memories. My question is simply, why? Why the abuse, why the terror, and why can’t he just leave me in peace? On a happier note, my maternal grandmother, Julia, also from St Joseph, Michigan, was my protector, ally and friend. I want to know if she is one of my guides as I feel her presence often. Also just out of curiosity can you ask Eric if there is a universal language that is used on the other side. Sounds kind of silly but after struggling to learn Spanish, I don’t think I could deal with trying to learn another language, LOL! I forgot to mention the age of my maternal grandmother when she passed. She was 96. Both her and my father died in St Joseph, MI. And if you have time I would just like to know how my brother is dong. He lived and died, at the age of 30, in St Joseph, MI also.

John

Channeling Transcript

Me: This gentleman, John, lives in Mexico but was born and raised in Michigan. He’s in his late 50s. Uh, he, uh, wants to ask about his dad, Harold, who died at the age of 69. Apparently he was very abuse to John’s all of life. It’s caused a lot of mental and physical scars that he’s still trying to heal. Recently his dad has been visiting him in dreams, some of which have been very violent and distressing. His questions is: why? Why the abuse? Why can’t he just leave him in peace?

Erik: His father wants it resolved. His son, John, didn’t mend it. All he did was bury it with his death.

Me: Okay, so this is why he’s having those horrible dreams, so he’s forced to confront and deal with it?

Jamie: You could have said the guy was lovely and wonderful, but right when you mentioned John’s father, Erik said, “asshole.” He started laughing and sort of whispered it, “asshole”

Me: Oh no!

Jamie: Yeah, and Erik says he still behaves that way. He’s got that character that’s like arrgghh! He’s showing himself that way in the dreams and even when he’s present spiritually with his son, because it’s not learned. The lesson between them is not learned.

Erik: What ever was supposed to take place, you know, the lesson, didn’t, because after he died, the son was like, “Well, he’s gone, so it’s okay.”

Me: Well what’s the use if  the guy is still an asshole?

Erik: That’s the trigger to help everything mend.

Me: Him being an asshole?

Jamie: Yes! Isn’t that horrible? I feel bad that the guy is stuck in that sort of pattern but…

Erik: Mom, tell the man to pull everything back from the past, to sit down and look at it from the wisdom of an older man.

Me: Okay. (pause) Maybe it’s like “Some people are assholes, and I’m not going to let it affect what I think about myself and who and what I am.” Is that the trigger? Is that the lesson?

Erik: You got it right, Mom.

Me: Okay. Also, he has a question about his maternal grandmother, Julia, who died in St. Joseph, Michigan at the age of 96. Is she one of John’s guides? He feels her presence often.

Jamie: Erik says, “Absolutely. She’s around him all the time.” Wait a minute. What do you mean, Erik?

(pause while Jamie listens to Erik)

Jamie: Oh, Erik says it’s because the grandmother won’t let any harm come to her grandson.

Erik: Well, yeah, but she’s also allowing the father to come in.

Me: What? Why? That doesn’t make sense!

Erik: That’s a sign that the father isn’t being harmful, but he can use anger and mean patterns to pull out a resolution. This is the way his dad is helping him learn to deal with that, so John can learn that another person’s behavior, you know, the way they treat you and what they say about you, isn’t really an absolute. You get the idea of who and what you are from the inside, not the outside.

Me: Interesting. (pause) Oh, and he wants to ask about his brother. He died in St. Joseph, Michigan too, and was around 30. His name…oh, wait a minute. Dang, I guess I didn’t get his name.

Erik: Wait, Mom. And it’s also about forgiveness. It’s hard to forgive. But we shouldn’t even judge each other anyway. Once we learn to not judge there’s really no need to forgive. Anyway, about the brother, they don’t stay in contact. The brother is fine. Don’t worry. I don’t need his name. He’s actually out looking after his family.

Me: His spiritual family in the afterlife or the family he left behind?

Erik: The family he left behind.

Erik: Oh, got it.

I believe the lessons from John’s reading will reach the hearts of many. We all struggle to define ourselves, our sense of worth. Our first clues come from our parents. Later, we rely on the opinions of our peers. Eventually, we internalize all or part of these external assessments. But since we are from God, all connected, all parts of one another, we are truly perfect and divine. We must learn to see that for ourselves through the all-knowing eyes of the Higher Self. And we must learn to see every other being in that same way: saint and sinner, homeless “derelict” and loving mother, disabled child and scholar. We are all beings on a road littered with imperfection trying to discover our own perfection and beauty.

  • buddy boy

    Wow, that was very interesting. I feel like I’m going to church when I come here to read. My emotional and spiritual well being is always being nurtured. Thanks.

  • http://channelingerik Pat

    Beautiful summation Elisa.

    My only comment is that “suppressed emotion never dies”.

  • Steve

    Wow, Elisa – this is a powerful lesson here. This guy is a “relationship villain” (John’s dad). We all have them in our lives as teachers. John’s dad’s soul is actually doing John a great service here by playing the bad guy so John can learn self worth, self love, or whatever the lesson is.
    Think about life as like a play. Our soul group gathers before incarnation with the script, and one soul takes role X, the other role Y…in another life the roles swap around and the group tries out a new play, a new script. Within each “play” on Earth, we all put on our masks (characters) and we forget who we are when we are born. We go through the play as if it’s real. We die, regroup as souls and compare notes and see what was learned, what wasn’t.
    There is no judgement.

    So all John as to do here is conquer this fear, realize his dad was imperfect and had lessons of his own, and move on. Even in the dreams, he should not react to his dad. He should stand up to him and tell him he is no longer going to take it or be a victim,etc.

    This story completely resonates with my life, as I have an emotionally abusive/alcoholic father. It took me nearly 40 years go get him. He used to make me crazy, angry, sad, scared – you name it. Now I just chuckle at his issues and I don’t own any of it anymore. It’s very free-ing to get to that point.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      So true. We’re all in a school play of sorts trying to remember what we have forgotten. Once we realize the greater reality, fear will fade and love will prevail.

  • Skoshi

    So many of us have or had cruel people in positions of power in our lives!

    I read once that when we see and experience injustice, it helps us define who we are by taking stands against that kind of treatment. Sometimes I say to Universe: please give me a break from learning for a while!

    I’ve read Gary Zukav’s books over and over. They’re SO helpful for spiritual growth. They contain great spiritual wisdom and are also easy to read (unlike the Dalai Lama’s books!). In them and on his web site Zukav gives a definition of forgiveness: no longer blaming others for our choices. I found it very hard to accept that definition till I truly internalized that we make a life plan BEFORE incarnating because there are key lessons we want to learn. It goes along with what the Dalai Lama says about the Chinese who stormed Tibet and killed many thousands: those who agreed before incarnating to be abusive so we can learn lessons are our greatest teachers. Phew! I look forward to the time when, en masse, we no longer choose to learn through pain.

  • Skoshi

    What Steve says is “right on” according to what I’ve learned by meditating and learning from my guides and wisdom writings. It isn’t easy to “conquer this fear” though. I found great relief when meditating and fear would come up or memories of experiences, to look the fear right in the eye with LOVE, realizing it was a plan I agreed to, and say, as advised in “zerolimits”, “I love you; I’m sorry; please forgive me; thank you.” It worked MUCH better for me than trying to be brave or change my personality. We’re soft hearted, loved based or being treated wrongly wouldn’t hurt so much, and saying “I love you” works well with our personalities, as it comes naturally. I also recommend, when John’s father appears in dreams, to say, “thank you for your part in providing me with these lessons; I love you.” If John asks his guides for help before going to sleep, he will find eventually he can succeed in guiding and controlling his dreams. Light eliminates darkness. Love eliminates hate and fear.

  • Shirley

    Wow Thank you Elisa and Eric you have just helped me out as well as John.So I just want to say thank you what you are doing and the people you are touching with this blog is nothing short of a miracle and I really appreciate it .I to grew up in an abusive envirorment with an alcoholic father and your answers to John helped.Even though John might not have had the alcohol involed I believe that these are lessons for me to learn has well.I to had my dad come to me in a dream and tell me he want to beat me.I woke up asking myself why? Now I have some answers so thank you.

  • John

    Thank you Elisa and Erik for this. Although it will take a while to process. And thank you Steve and Skoshi for your insightful comments. It has been a tough road. I’ve spent the first part of my life living it and the last part of my life trying to deal with all of this s**t. I have gotten into the habit lately of just saying “go away” whenever he pops up…day or night…thinking that was the right thing to do. I see now it’s just another way of burying the issue. Erik telling me to “to pull everything back from the past, to sit down and look at it from the wisdom of an older man” is something I need to apply, however raw and painful it will be! I only hope this older man can find the wisdom!

    Thank you all. I have learned so much in the short time I’ve been reading this blog.

    Lovingly,
    John

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      John and Shirley, have you ever read “The Little Soul and the Sun,” by Neale Donald Walsch? It’s a children’s book, but it so eloquently conveys the whole “relationship villain” concept that Steve has taught us about. Once you read it, you see the “villain” in a completely different light. You’re actually able to look at them with love. I highly recommend this very short but powerful read to anyone with a “villain” in their life. I hope it changes your life and your outlook on others as much as it has changed mine. One plus for me: it’s just my reading grade level! (hehe) If you can’t buy the book, go to this link for the entire text:

      http://www.awakeningpath.com/articles/latest_neale_do_041128_the_little_soul_and3.htm

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