Ask Erik: Jeannine’s Question
Jeannine’s Question
I am very thankful that you are even taking questions from strangers like myself. I am also very grateful you Elisa for helping me get an answer. I feel I need guidance as I am confused. I have had a couple of really tough situations where my supervisors betrayed me. In both situations I lost my job. I want to know is this karmic? What will it take for me not to go through this again? I am alone and depend on my job for my livelihood. Is this my time to leave? I felt this last time I had a choice to leave, and I didn’t take it – at least not yet. I long to be back home—I don’t feel I belong here at all. How can I manifest what I want in this lifetime?
I am going to be 55 on July 17th and I live in New York City.
Love and blessings! Thank you!
Jeannine
After assuring Jeannine that Erik will try to help the best way he can, she sent this response:
Jeannine’s Second Response
Thanks so much! What wonderful work you and Erik are doing on behalf of people. Please tell him that. Whatever he wasn’t able to contribute when he was living in his body, he is certainly doing it now. I am very moved by your generosity. I need the help, because I lost my job almost three months ago for similar reasons as the last time, which was about 8 years ago. My boss felt threatened by my expertise and knowledge in both situations, which of course makes me question how I can work and support myself financially.
Channeling Transcript
Me: The next question comes from Jeannine, Erik. She needs guidance. She’s confused, like most of us. She’s been in a couple of tough situations where her supervisors betrayed her over and over again. She wants to know if this is karmic. What will it take for her not to go through this again? She’s alone and dependent on her job to make ends meet. She want to know if this is her time to leave. She had chances this lifetime to leave but didn’t take it.
Kim: To leave the earthly plane?
Me: Yes
Kim: Okay, I have information from Erik already.
Erik (laughing): There are times when we all feel like we don’t belong!
Kim: She…let me dispel that notion of exit points.
Elisa: Okay.
Kim: When we plan our destinies on the earthly plane, we plan ONE exit point, the time in which we expect to pass back to Heaven.
Erik: Jeanine is going to live until she’s really old. That’s her destiny. The reason she’s having so much trouble with the people she’s worked with is because—hellooooo—she’s a teacher on the earthly plane! So, she’s going to draw to her people who need to learn from her. Now if she were on the other line, she’d say, “But they’re not learning from me.” But her guardian angels would be saying, “You were there willing, ready and able to do the work.” It’s immaterial what they learn from her. What does matter, for her part, is that she’s willing, ready and able to do the work, and she has been. For her part, all of these spiritual contracts have been successfully fulfilled. We should not harbor any expectations whatsoever of how other people react to us as teachers.
Me: Yeah!
Erik: What Jeannine does is she expects others to treat her like she treats them, and that’s not going to happen, because she is of a great level of enlightenment. She has a lot of empathy and respect for others. There are things that have happened to her that she would NEVER say or do to anyone else! But that’s why they’re the student and she’s the teacher! She’s expecting them to be of the same caliber. Not gonna happen. So her guides want her to look at those experiences that are necessary for the other person. They learned as much as they choose too, given free will and all. So she’s going to keep drawing to her people who are her students. The key is for her to channel her guides when she meets new people, whether in her professional life, her personal life, in any context. She needs to ask, “Why did this person come into my life, what is my spiritual contract with them, and what can I expect in this relationship? Can I expect a little friction? Should I expect for us to get along perfectly? What can I do to make it better? What do I need to do for this other person, because I prefer to focus on that.” That’ll give her much more awareness of what she can expect from them, realistically. She’s been unrealistic in her expectations of others.
Me: Okay, but what can she do from the practical standpoint? I mean, she’s afraid to be financially vulnerable. She’s got to put food on the table and all! What can she do to avoid financial ruin?
Erik: She’s supposed to be working through issues of independence and empowerment, self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, which she’s doing right now. Oh, and once she gets to a certain point with those issues, she’s going to attract Mr. Right, a man who can bond with heart, mind, body and soul. She’s probably gonna ask you when, Mom. He’s coming in about a year and a half, but she’s got to continue to work on these issues. Now, as for her career, she’s going to get ready to launch into her life’s work. She sure as fuck isn’t in it right now! Now some people think that once they get into their life’s work, all the stumbling blocks will be removed from their path, and then it doesn’t work that way.
Me: Oh, sure. It’s about perseverance.
Erik: What she ought to do next…her guides think she should do something completely different than what she was doing before. And they’re recommending for her, one more “day gig” as she’s getting her own business up and running. Then she’s off and running her own business! The kind of business her guides recommend she get into now would be some sort of outside sales where she has some wiggle room with her schedule. Now she hasn’t done that before. They understand that. But that doesn’t mean that she can’t do it. We all have to do something for the first time. Julia Child had to cook her first soufflé. Babe Ruth had to hit his first baseball. Okay, so, Jeannine has to get over that, “Well I’ve never done that before, so how do I know I can do it? She won’t be able to develop confidence until she does it. Having faith in oneself and having faith in one’s guardian angels is important.
Hello Elisa, Thank you for communcating this beautiful site with the world. I’m a big fan of Kim O’Neill’s and I feel honored to be a part of this as I read.
I had a thought– I wonder if you should change the names of those who ask questions. Tonight a person’s first name, age, occupation and location were given. I quickly looked her up without much trouble; found out where she works, etc.
Since this site is getting more attention, I thought it might be wise to limit information.
Thank you again for your generosity in sharing!
Hi Thayer, Yes I give every person a chance to make a decision on that and many do opt for aliases and other changes. In fact, most do. Some even opt to not make the post public at all. I honor all of these requests, of course. How were you able to find someone without their last name??? I did a google search with all that information and couldn’t find her at all! (And I know her last name. I can’t pronounce it, but I know it!) ;-)
Just a quick note of support…been following along for quite awhile now. Don’t know what to make of it all, but nonetheless, reading this blog has put my view of the world on its ear- in a good way. I feel like I have more understanding of myself. I have many, many questions I’d love to send on to Erik, but I get the feeling that now isn’t the time for me to have those answers. I’ll ride with my gut. :) Anyway, just letting you know I’m here and thinking of y’all.
Thank you Kate! I know what you mean, because I often don’t know what to make of it either. I’m finding my way too, so it’s like the blind leading the blind! I’m glad you’re part of the family now. Love you!
Elisa ,I found this website several weeks ago and spent hours reading all the letters. It really confirmed alot of things that I felt are true about what happens when we pass on. A friend of mine lost his 15 year old son on 02/24/2010 to what appeared to be a suicide by gunshot. Vince was/is one of the best souls I ever knew. He always had a smile on his face. I never heard him utter a bad word against anyone. It was like he was truly too good for this world. Since his death, I along with his dad have had several experiences where I know Vince was making his presence known. There is no doubt he is staying very close to his fathers side. Recently his Dad has spoke to several “gifted” people and they said that his death was accidental, but they could,nt explain what happened. Do you think Erik can shed some light on this. Vince was born and died in Louisville Ky. Thank You for all you are doing.
Hey Lou, I plan to put up the Ask Erik page in a month or so when I get through the huge list of questions that came in after the Huff Post article was published. So look for it and I’ll be happy to ask him. You can try channeling Erik yourself if you can memorize his voice. He says he hears the readers when they talk to him and he loves answering questions. Of course he often doesn’t know those answers himself, but gets in contact with your guides, or a deceased loved one of yours or someone who will know. Can you tell me your friend’s first name and age and city of death? It helps Erik a lot. Kim says cause of death rulings are wrong 20% of the time. It may have been an accident after all. Be nice to find out if the death was his destiny and if so, why.
Elisa,
The day your article appeared in Huffington I started hearing a voice as if it were coming from behind me or, maybe,whispered in my ear that, basically, said, “go to Huffington and read about Erik!” (Another clue I might be bipolar, I thought)So I’ve been totally absorbed and hooked ever since and I just, briefly, want you to know I’ve fallen in love with you and Erik and reading your daily posts is absolutely the very best part of my day to which I look forward with eager anticipation! You’re insightful and loving and Erik totally cracks me up. I’ve had interest in this general field since my early teens when I had an NDE but, because of lots of conflicting issues, I transitioned from a feeler to a thinker (to use Kim’s terms from her Angels book which I recently read). Recently, however, I’ve had this unsettling feeling someone on the other plane wants to or needs to communicate with me and, for the life of me, I can’t seem to bring the communication into focus. Do your guides or angels ever give up on you and move on because you’re unable to bring them into focus and communicate? I’ve got more work and research to do and, although I’m not going to give up, I’ve decided I need to book a session with Kim. Anyway, this note is just to say I think you’re awesome and I, for one, am very grateful for your work which I strongly believe is extremely important. And, although it wasn’t in the cards for me to have kids, I would have wanted my son to be just like Erik: fearless, human with a large heart bigger than Texas. MY very best. Mike Mulloy
Aw, Mike, you are so sweet and I’m so glad to have you in our little family now. As far as your getting the signal to read the article, maybe you’re psychically gifted? Most people with BPD are highly creative and intuitive, you know.
I have trouble channeling too. My mind is like Grand Central Station. I do know for sure that our guides/angels never ever give up on us! I can tell Erik to visit you and maybe bring your guides into better focus. If you memorize his voice, it’s easier to pick him up during channeling. He’s just pop into your mind and start talking or he’ll come to you in a dream. There are some videos of him scattered throughout the blog. Also, I just tried another medium if price is an issue. She was recommended by a reader and I thought she was great. Her name is Jeannie Barnes and she’s $80/hour while Kim is $225/hour. Many are higher than that.
And there will always be plenty of room in my heart for you, Sweetie. Always.
Thank you so much for posting this Elisa and thank you Erik for this insight. All I can say is — Wow! It spoke to me and has helped me understand some things about myself and some things I am going through that are similar.
Wow Elisa, you are such a beautiful spirit. may God bless you and your family with love and hope. I am so sorry for your loss. But on the other hand you gained much!
I love reading Erik’s insights and the information he is passing along. Even though, he is not answering my questions, LOL, I am learning from the answers.
Oo, Pam, I’ll have to ground him for not answering your questions!!! (he he) Love you!
Jeannine’s post and reply really resonated with me. I also need to remember to not be absorbed by how other people react to me as a teacher. I’m so ready and willing to help others. I too expect others to treat me as I treat them. That’s something I need to let go of also.
Thanks for posting this Elisa.
Very enlightening!
Sherry
Hi Elisa and Erik!
I’ve been trying to follow all this, but your blog is becoming a VERY busy place! Lots of posts to read and almost endless comments! ACK! talk about grand central station! LOL….I gues you are to be congratulated on becoming so popular =D
Anywho, ummm..I just wanted to chime in on the comments on “expectations” people have of others. In my Line of work, (pizza delivery) I get tips and such, but I have learned a long time ago not to ‘expect’ anything like that. It makes for a much more pleasant work shift. Some drivers are bitter about XYZ customer who doesn’t tip or going someplace that doesn’t make it worth their while etc. If I get something, it’s a gift from my customer, it’s THEIR money, to do with as they please, not mine, and it’s not for me to expect or demand anything.
This works in other ways as well, holding doors open for people, a pleasant smile, helping someone with a chore etc. we are all teacher and student at the same time. We give and others take / receive, but to ‘expect’ something equal in return for what ever the given task is not a good or positive ‘expectation’. I gave up expecting anything from anyone long long ago. It started with my dad, he had his own way of doing or not
doing, (passive aggressive and STUBBORN!) and so I just gave up. Nothing was going to get done no matter what and he would do what he wanted and when he wanted. So I just shut up and moved on and ignored the problems, for they were his problems and issues and not mine. Maybe thats why I am the way I am, having to deal with that ‘stuff”. Anyways, I have found this actually works and is very beneficial for inner peace and happiness. It’s not my responsibility for others to learn or give back what they have received, it’s simply out of my control. So I stay in my world and control and deal with what “I” can.
The Serenity prayer sums it up nicely:
” Dear GOD (or whom ever)
Grant me serenity
The courage to change the things I can
The ability to accept the things I cannot change.
…..and the wisdom to know the difference”
Expectations of people and situations kind of go out the window with that, and it really does work. So things don’t go your way …MEH!
Do what you can with what YOU have..and life will be much better. Also, having an “attitude of gratitude” never hurts as well (Dr wayne Dyre)
Move on and teach, and learn from your teachings and the teachings of others and be happy in it, and leave your “expectations’ for others in the dust, for thats all they really are.
Again, Thanks for the post =D
Tom
You’re so right about all that Tom! Getting is pretty much over-rated. The best “getting” comes from the “giving.” Giving is itself the most divine gift you can give yourself. Now that’s a tongue twister, eh?
Oh, Elisa….I’m teasing you. I haven’t really asked any questions, yet. I trying to be polite and wait for the ASK ERIK button to come back and give you time to get caught up, LOL. But I’ve learned so much from you, Erik and Kim. I’m really thankful I found you guys!