Channeling Erik

July27th

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Ask Erik: Avery’s Question

Posted in: After Death Communication, Channeling, Communication from the dead, Contact with the dead, Death of a Parent, Evil Spirits, Heaven, Kim O'Neill, Love, Mental illness, Messages from the dead, Molestation, Past lives, Pedophile, Psychic medium, Reincarnation, Sexual abuse, Struggles

Avery’s Question

Hello Elisa,

I have to start out by saying I really, genuinely THANK YOU for sharing this with us. Using your pain to help others is such a selfless act, and you, too, must be an enlightened soul, if you can look through your grief and do just that. Erik makes it clear he was beyond lucky to have been blessed with you as a mother, and it’s evident just from your tone the overwhelming love you have for all of your children. So thank you, first and foremost. I just stumbled across your blog today, and I’ve already read through the whole thing. It’s so beautiful, and moving, that I feel like I just can’t tear myself away! It brings me a sense of calm, because it seems like Erik has just confirmed some of the things I’ve always thought myself about the other side, and the loved ones we’ve lost. I’ve always said I thought Heaven is exactly what each of us would wish it to be- not just the same exact thing for everyone. Just as each of our souls are unique and beautiful, each of our individual heavens must be the same.

I don’t really know who to start asking my question, because I don’t really know if it’s one question in particular I want to ask. I wonder if I can give you a little overview of my life to pass on to him, and he could just help me to understand in general? As a child I was molested by my stepfather (his name was Donald) for many years. I grew up holding that inside of me, as I never wanted to tell my family, because I knew it would completely destroy each of them inside. As young as 7, I reasoned, “well… I’m dealing with it on my own, why should I destroy their lives too?” I finally confronted him at age 11, and told him I knew what he was doing, and if he didn’t stop I WAS going to tell my mom, and he promised he never would touch me again, but I should never tell my mother, because think of all the trouble he would get into! So I didn’t tell. Soon after my mom and Don got divorced, and we got to leave the small town we had been uprooted to when my mother got remarried, and we returned home. As promised, I held my secret in, and acted out (drugs, alcohol, promiscuity; you name it, I did it.) until my late teens (not even realizing at the time, that I was acting out from holding it all inside.) Maybe that is more info then I should have shared, but I’m sorry it all just came out in a burst of typing lol. At age 18, I finally told my mom, but still made her promise not to tell any other members of my family. Long story short, I was informed last year that Don had died. I looked at a My Space tribute page, of people in his life, his children, and friends all praising what a wonderful man he was and it makes me wonder how no one else could be aware of this monster? He had a daughter my age, and I wonder if he did it to her to, when we were both so young? I guess my question is, what happened to him on the other side? is he repenting for his actions? Is he paying for them? or is he just living his own version of heaven as well, where he can forget about the pain he inflicted upon others? Sorry if I’m taking up too much of your time, but there is a little more I wonder… I’m 26, and have always struggled with these overwhelming feelings in my life. I question my decisions. I wonder if I made bad ones as I got older because of my childhood issues still not being resolved? I’m in a relationship with a man I love, but I feel unfulfilled, like he loves me too, but just isn’t that interested.  In a mental way that is… I don’t think it’s malicious, I just think he’s more concerned with himself? Or maybe I’m not that interesting to him, or that he thinks my work and interests are trivial compared to his? I feel we’re lacking a spiritual connection, like he doesn’t really care about the experiences that shaped me, because he’s never asked. Then again, I think that just be the way he was raised, and it’s not done with bad intentions. He just purchased a house, and we’re moving to it next month, but I’m having doubts that it’s where I belong. I just started a new job that I have been working toward my whole adult life, and I wonder if between that job, and this man, am I headed on the path of my destiny? or am I missing signs along the way that I should have seen? I’m sorry, all of this seems so trivial compared to what you’ve gone trough. Thank you again for taking the time to read my ramblings. My thoughts and prayers are with you always.

Much love, Avery.

Thanks again Elisa and Erik xoxoxo

My Response

Dear Avery,

Sweet girl, your email brought tears to my eyes. What you have suffered at the hands of a monster, only to see him praised! I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now, and I’ll do whatever to takes to help you. All I need for the medium is your age (which you gave me) and the city you live in. I need to know how old Don was when he passed and what city he was in at the time. This helps Erik and Kim locate him faster, I guess.

For clarification: you want me to ask Erik 1) what’s going on with Don in the afterlife and if he has any messages of repentance? 2) If he did the same with his own daughter, 3) Advice on how to deal with your current love interest and perhaps 5) what you can do to overcome the past so this baggage doesn’t keep interfering with your life and your progress as a soul? If you want to make any changes, let me know. Please understand that no medium is perfect but Erik and Kim seem to make an awesome team.

Erik and I are here for you, Sweetie.

xoxoxo

Elisa (and Erik)

Avery’s Response

Oh Elisa,

I’m sitting here so overwhelmed with feelings- when I saw your name in my email, my heart jumped because I swear, I just knew in my heart that I would be hearing from you! But no way did I ever think it would be this soon! I checked the blog today and saw your note, and how you’ve been overwhelmed with submissions, so thank you so much for reading and responding. Just sharing my story with you guys made me feel better already.

As for the other info you asked for; I live in XXXX currently, and we’re moving to XXXX next month. Don passed in XXXX. All of the question summaries are right he money. If I could just add one thing… my Godmother/Aunt, XXXX passed following a stroke. If he could just give her my love, that would be so awesome. I mean, I do everyday, and I talk to her all the time, but Erik seems like he would have a direct contact with her… But I guess, knowing what we do about Erik, she’s maybe around all the time, when I’m talking to her, and I have my own direct connection? Wow. This all is so amazing and beautiful to think about, and to be able to share with each other. Sorry if I ramble in these messages, but it just ignites something in me.

Channeling Transcript

Me: This next question makes me choke up a bit so bear with me. It’s from Avery. She’s 26 and lives in XXX. As a child, she was molested by her stepfather, Donald, for many, many years starting around when she was seven. He finally stopped when she turned eleven and threatened to tell on him if he didn’t. Recently, she found out that Donald had died, and she was sickened by all the loving tributes on his My Space page. She also discovered he left behind a daughter. Her questions are: Is he going to be punished for what he’s done? Did he molest his other daughter?

Erik: Yes, he did abuse the other daughter. And he was abused when he was younger by a female family member.

Me: Oh my God.

Erik: I’m hearing that Avery has this guilt about not stepping forward…guilt and anger. She feels the guilt for not stepping forward, claiming what was happening to her and to make him accountable and also to make her mother accountable for bringing him into the household. She needs therapy to help her let go of this, because the opportunity to rat him out is gone. Could she let everyone know about it now? Sure, but, as she already senses, everyone’s gonna come down on her and criticize her and accuse her of making it all up, like, “Well if it were true, you would have already said so a long time ago,” which is stupid but, as she knows, that’s the kind of reaction she’d get. She’s already gone through these scenarios in her head so…

Me: Yeah, plus he’s dead now, and some people my think it’s disrespectful to come down on a dead guy who can’t defend himself, you know, “How could you do this to a dead man,” that sort of thing. It’s a stigma, I guess.

Erik: Right. So her angels are recommending she go for therapy and stick with it until she can let go of the guilt and anger. She feels as much if not more anger for herself. And then what she needs to do is tell her mother. She needs to tell her mother.

Me: Okay.

Erik: But they recommend she wait until she’s done with the therapy so she’s healed and will be able to sit down and rationally talk to her mother about it. That way, the conversation will be more productive. I’m hearing it’s unlikely her mom will believe her, and that might cause a rift between them.

Me: Well then, maybe she shouldn’t!

Erik: Whether or not her mom accepts it, it happened, and she needs to know.

Me: Yeah, I guess so. So what’s going on with Don in the afterlife? Does he have any messages?

Kim: It’s really interesting, Elisa. They’re showing me this queue. In other words, before we talk, it’s like the spiritual beings who believe they’re going to be called upon queue up according to the information you have sitting in front of you. So here’s Don. He’s just standing there very patiently, humbly, and he’s nodding and saying yes he did those things; yes he did. He says he was a pedophile and he says it wasn’t just Avery and the other daughter. He abused other children from the time he was an older teenager.

Me: Oh, horrible!

Kim: My Lord, he’s saying it’s one of the reasons he married Avery’s mother!

Me: Why?

Kim: To have access to her.

Me: Oh my goodness. So sad.

Kim: Wow, jeez. And I’ve heard that many times before but it’s always surprising.

Me: Is Karma going to take care of things, Erik?

Erik: Oh yes, but he’s in Heaven. He’s healing, relaxing, getting his second wind and he’s going to go back to the earthly plane. That’s when the payback happens. The consequences don’t happen here in Heaven. They happen on the earthly plane. He already has a life all planned out that he’s chosen to learn from. He’s going to be a girl and—oh wow—he’s gonna be born into a family in the area around Thailand in an desperately poor village. As a five year old little girl, he’s going to be sold for money by the parents and will be passed around as a sex slave.

Me: Oh my God!

Erik: And that will go on until, you know, abortion after abortion, this will continue until the girl’s in her mid-30s, and she’s going to die from a massive staph infection. So tell Avery that’s how Don’s gonna learn.

Kim: When we come to the earthly plane, sometimes we come as a perpetrator and sometimes we act as a victim, and that’s how we learn about sympathy, compassion, appropriate behavior toward others. That’s how we learn to play nice with the other kids. And those of us who are more compassionate and can put themselves in other people’s shoes have had lifetimes as victims already.

Me: Does he have any messages for Avery?

Erik: Yes. She might find this pretty interesting. He wants to thank her for being a partner for him. He doesn’t mean sexual partner. What he means is before both of them went into this lifetime as Donald and Avery, they agreed, here in Heaven, to enter into a lifetime where Avery would be his teacher, where he would abuse her and then she would rat him out and say, “Look what he did! He did this! He did this!” This would have given her mom a chance to rise to the occasion for her and would force Donald to admit and be accountable.

Me: Oh, I see!

Erik: And so, Avery chose not to do that, and that’s one of the reasons she’s so angry—because…

Me: She didn’t fulfill her life plan.

Erik: Right. Yeah.

Me: Okay, now let’s go on to the next person–oh wait, I forgot she has another question. Any advice on how to deal with her current relationship? They plan on moving into a house together soon, but she feels like he isn’t all that interested in her.

Erik: This is NOT her guy! Instead of drifting toward all the bad boys like she used to do, Avery is drifting toward guys who are really nice, who are giving, who she can feel security with…she’s not in love with this guy! And he’s not in love with her! Her guides say she should break up with him now, because if she keeps seeing him, she’s going to be giving him mixed messages. Break it off now, then go into therapy. Get her therapy finished so that she feels balanced and centered, and then and only then will she draw the right guy into her life.

Me: That makes perfect sense. Now one more for Avery. Her godmother, also her aunt, passed away from a stroke at the age of 46. Her name was XXXX. Erik, she wants to know if you’ll contact her and tell her how much Avery loves her.

Kim: Erik is giving a little salute, like he’s got his index and middle finger out, and he’s giving a salute to say he will do that. She’s still in Heaven and oh, she is living the good life, so happy that tiresome, painful lifetime is over. She’s so glad she’s got that finished, completed, and under her belt. And she did just about everything she wanted to do in that lifetime as XXX, which is very unusual. Woo hoo! Any time Avery wants to speak to XXX, she’s be a wonderful confidant for her. She’d be positive, optimistic, joyful—sort of like a spiritual Auntie Mame. Avery can use all the positivity and optimism she can find, because she’s had a lot of people in her life who have been angry or secretive or sullen or reserved. Avery is someone who likes to touch others emotionally, physically and spiritually. She’s cozy and warm. She’s an amazing woman, and XXX is very much like her. The two of them are very much alike.

Avery’s Response

WOW Elisa! The overwhelming feelings that came over me reading this- just WOW.  How you must feel every time you connect with Erik!   Thank you for the quick synopsis, and I’ll write more later when I’m not at work.  LY xo

  • Stephanie

    Wow – that is just amazing! Thank you Avery, Elisa and Erik for letting us be a part of this!!

  • Steve

    I have a book to recommend, which matches what Erik has taught in this reading!
    “Windows of Opportunity” by Sherri Cortland:

    http://www.amazon.com/Windows-Opportunity-Sherri-Cortland/dp/1886940614/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280262066&sr=1-1

    Sherri uses automatic writing to speak to her Guide Group. They teach about the concept of “RELATIONSHIP VILLAINS.” How we choose contracts, before we are born, with people who will teach us lessons. Avery’s dad was her relationship villain! These situations happen all the time. Mine is my alcoholic, negative, controlling, emotionally abusive father. I know that I planned my life with him so I would learn my own lessons of self love and self worth.

    Avery and her dad are teachers and Avery will hopefully, through the excellent advice of therapy, learn to stand up for what is right in her life.

    This blog is AMAZING. Erik’s information is dead on and lining up perfectly with the years of research I have been doing with the paranormal.

    Thank you so much for sharing this, and I HIGHLY recommend folks getting this book – order it used for $10.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      All your recommendations are great Steve. Doug and I are booking Jamie Butler. We both have appointments in August
      I’ll let you know how it goes!

      I was supposed to have an appointment with Kim today. Her husband called yesterday to tell me about a cancellation that came up. But she’s sick with a sinus headache, poor thing. Everyone send healing thoughts her way!!

  • mom2bzs

    I checked out the book Steve recommended on Amazon and it sounds amazing. I can’t remember the last time I looked up a book and it had such great recommendations. I will definately get it. Thanks Steve!

    This entry was so so touching. What a brave girl you are Avery.

    The whole channeling session was so fascinating to me. I never really understood karma. Now I do.

    I remember when I had an eating disorder years ago, I was in a 12 step program, there were a lot of women who all of the sudden remembered being molested as children when they were in their 30′s.

    Sherry

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Sherry, do you think most molestations are some sort of between lives agreement? I’ve been wondering about that. It makes me look at everyone I thought was evil a bit differently.

  • Petrus

    I hope, though, that people reading this aren’t getting the idea that we shouldn’t interfere with someone being molested in case it’s just karma happening. “Oh, she’s getting what she deserves, five years old or not!” Horrendous.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      That’s a good thought, Petrus. I can’t imagine anyone enlightened enough to understand karma could stand by and watch ANYONE, much less a child, suffer at the hands of another. Those who witness such suffering surely play the role or either teacher, student, or both and will exercise their free will accordingly.

  • Stanley

    Hello,

    I am so sorry Avery had to go through that. It’s beyond tough. And it’s so automatic to for kids to think they deserve it, or THEY would get in trouble if they told anyone. It’s so sad how many kids, and adults live in secret of such situations.

    However I found this blog entry helped me as well. I have been so very angry for a very long time at those who hurt me because they didn’t get in trouble for hurting me. No jail time, not even fired…nothing. But it makes me feel better to know that those who have hurt me, will have to pay for it in their next lifetime. And it seems, they pay for it a few times over at that. So it really makes me feel better to know that although maybe later, those who abused me will pay for what they did to me. So thanks Avery for raising that question, and thanks Elisa and Erik for posting the information. You have helped Avery, but you helped me as well. Thanks so much.

    And Avery, I wish you all the best. Time really does help heal the pain. It may not feel like it, but it does.

    -Stanley

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Aw Stanley, I wish I was there to hug you. I’ll send you a virtual hug and kiss…Done. Hope you felt it. I send you my love.

  • Grace

    This book, Your Soul’s Plan, is along the same lines and was the turning point for me in my spiritual growth

    http://www.amazon.com/Your-Souls-Plan-Discovering-Meaning/dp/1583942726/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280332821&sr=1-1

    It helped me see every person as working to fulfill their own pre-birth plan and made me realize that I could not judge them since I am not privvy to their particular destiny/issues in this lifetime. I do believe that in some cases, illnesses, addictions, molestations, etc. are part of our pre-birth plans. But I also think that much of the evil in society is the manifestation of our fears into the Universal Subconscious Mind – thought becoming things.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Looks like a great book, Grace. I just ordered it. Thanks! It’s amazing how fear manifests into reality with so much more ease than other emotions. I had a friend who had this horrible fear that she was going to die from colon cancer. She carried that fear from the time she was 20 until the time she was around 53 when indeed, she did die from colon cancer. It didn’t run in her family either. Weird.

  • Skoshi

    My heart goes out to Avery. She has a lot of work to do. Will ask the Universe to support her and continue to direct the resources to her that will support the release of pain and anger. You, Kim, and Erik were fabulous assets she was undoubtedly guided to connect with. I hope she finds a great therapist. She might want to read “At the Speed of Life: A New Approach to Personal Change Through Body-Centered Therapy” by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks. When I told my guides I was tired of dealing with symptoms as they arise and wanted to finally get to the root of things, this is one of the three books they recommended to me. You’ve heard of the Hendricks? They’ve been on Oprah. I hope Avery also finds the right Reiki Master who can provide physical support, as physical symptoms often get triggered and released as we go through emotional trauma. When I wanted an M.D. in Maryland who did acupuncture, I asked my Internist to make a recommendation, and the M.D. recommended the Reiki Master who realigned my teeth and facial bones by doing 6 Reiki sessions.

  • Jahmaiah

    yes Petrus when I read that line, that really burned me, but then I re-read the post, I saw that this is what Don’s soul is choosing, doesn’t make it any easier to swallow, it still gets me hot behind the ears. It’s hard to hear too because is Don going to have a painful life as a little girl, violence against children makes me cringe. while Dons being sold, there will probably be a hundred other innocent little girls mixed in the shuffle, there are thousands of little girls around the world who are suffering the same fate, and Don’s means to learn his lesson is helping to perpetuate this same abuse around the world, where is it going to end? just my thoughts

  • Petrus

    I can understand that those who have suffered abuse and molesting do get some relief from the thought that there will be pay back time. But isn’t it also terrible to think that in the future there will be another little girl going through all hell on earth? She won’t know it was because of Donald. I think this particular thing is a real can of worms, a Pandora’s box even, and I wonder if it’s wise to give this sort of (I believe) fragmentary knowledge with very dark implications to a large, unknown audience. It opens up very worrying scenarios of little children suffering, in their thousands all over the world, because of something they have perhaps previously done. Isn’t it the very opposite that a molested child needs to hear: it is Not Your Fault?

    I’m genuinely worried about the message of this post, Elisa, because of the limits of human understanding and our earthly short sightedness.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      I see your point. Although the readers of this blog are usually very enlightened, you never know what might happen if it gets into the wrong hands. Thinking about a child suffering is horrible, even though we all know that some of them are souls who have been around a long long time and that we’ve all had lives filled with of unspeakable horrors in the past. So do you guys think I should delete or edit it?

  • Skoshi

    I sure hope no little girl – or boy – has to go through 30 years of abuse an abortions and humiliation and fear. I’m going to be working the “program” Dr. Hew Len used with the criminally insane in Hawaii that Joe Vitale described in “zerolimits”. Keep asking for cleansing till everything is pure and none of us are stuck “in the box.”

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Skoshi, do you think I should remove this post? I hate to do more harm than good!

  • Stanley

    Hello Elisa,

    Awww, thanks. **hugs back**. I did feel it, thanks.

    -Stanley

  • clayhalo

    Remove the post? I feel that’s disrespectful to everyone concerned now that it’s been posted. Instead, why not care for, protect, and send love to anyone who is suffering? Why not open our hearts to the “villains” and the “victims”? Each of us has the power to heal with this energy. In this moment, close your eyes and send it out into the world.

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      But what if pedophiles find this post and justify their actions? It’s a tough call. Many seem so disturbed by the post. I will send love to them all, but I hope this is not a big slap in the face for them. Avery, your advice?

  • Lyn

    Once again Elisa, thank you and Kim and Erik for all of your wonderful work and answers and help. But I must say I was troubled by this post. I was sexually abused too, and I know that is what brought me to be a therapist and I think a better one for it. I’ve often wondered if it was the plan. What doesn’t make sense to me, is why we are sent down for such suffering to learn, and why, if being a perpetrator is part of the plan, should we then suffer so horribly in the next life? And then not knowing why until it is over. I understand man’s inhumanity to man, but why can’t we learn without such cruelty?

    And thank you to Avery. Please know that it will get much, much, much better, just hang on, you’re on the right path and you will get to a much better place in your life.

    Love and Blessings to you all,
    Lyn

  • Jahmaiah

    I appreciate this blog for it’s honesty, and I truly believe that we have lessons to learn in this lifetime, so that each time we come back into flesh that we are working toward a new world where love and peace abound. I imagine that when each soul reaches the spiritual plane, it is made aware of what it needs. I am hurt by what Donald has done to children, and it hurts that there will be more violence against children, that is unnacceptable to me, I’m going to pray on it. I’ve never believed in an eye for an eye. I know Elisa dear that it’s not all gonna be pretty, We are moving towards awareness, and I am glad of that. that Donald is choosing this next life, makes me feel that this is what his soul needs, but it still hurts.

  • Skoshi

    Good morning, E. This is a conundrum for which there is no easy answer. I’d say, if you’ve had the thought that you should remove it, consider it a message from your guides and take it down. Incest is one of the most brutal crimes against our souls, but genuine healing isn’t helped by revenge.

  • Skoshi

    Unfortunately pedophiles have been justifying their actions for many thousands of years and will continue to do so without this blog. There are lots of blogs that encourage and support pedophelia and other harmful activities, such as suicide and anorexia. I realize Don was himself a victim of pedophelia. These things go on generation after generation, just like alcoholism, but once a person is an adult, he or she is responsible for getting help and taking steps to change. And one may have feelings, but acting on them is an entirely another thing.

    That said, Donald says he has chosen to be brutalized himself in his next life. However, we are all One. If he’s going to be brutalized, someone has to agree to brutalize him, and painful karma continues. I and others are hoping we can evolve to learn through love. LOVE can intervene in this cycle. To say, “hurray; he’ll get his!” harms those who think and say it and generates karma they then have to overcome.

    Those who are victims of incest and child abuse (in its many forms) need help. This blog is fabulous because it shows other victims that Avery has found a wonderful source of help so they can get help too. Let’s be part of the solution and ask our Divine Universe to provide light and love, and cleanse this type of activity and harmful thinking from existence. Let there be peace and equinimity. I’m so thankful and joyful that Avery has found Elisa’s blog. I ask the Divine to see that others who need help are drawn here too.

  • Denise

    RE: removing the post
    We have relatively little information about how the universe works. Just when I think I have a slight idea of how things work I am given an experience that makes it obvious that I don’t know squat. I can see why scholars and religious leaders can be tempted to censor information to the masses. If taken without full education or complete understanding or out of context
    ideas/information could create chaos or be used to justify villany. Removing the post is moot at this point. I heard an analogy once that went you can ask the universe for a banana and then decide you’d rather have an orange,; you can still get the orange but the banana is already on it’s way. You can’t take back what has already been said.

    I have accessed enough information for me to feel comfortable with my beliefs of reincarnation and the ramifications of actions in my small sense. It makes it easier for me to explain things that have happened to me and why I am the way I am in many ways. Still have a lot of work to do….

    In the case of Donald if fully understood the eye for an eye is by his choice. If he had had the strength to step back, break the cycle and not molest this child he would not feel the need to experience such horrors himself. Since he didn’t get caught in this life he feels he has to experience suffering himself.
    I would like to know if people on this side could pray for and ask forgiveness for him would he be able to reduce his “sentence”, could our compassion help him grow without the suffering?

    This apparently is a very harsh place to be and allows tremendous opportunity for growth. Does this mean we are earth junkies? I can’t figure out why I would keep coming back here. Is it the challenge? Am I just in a hurry to evolve? Am I that much of an overachiever? Why wouldn’t I hang out someplace nice? According to a psychic I have been here at least 23 times and have more to come. Oh nooo…I’m an earth junkie!

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hey Denise, I think we choose the human experience on earth to experience the yin so we understand the yang. That said, I guess we have to experience hatred, suffering, betrayal, injustice, etc. to understand the polar opposites–and vice versa. In some of our lifetimes, I’m sure we experience forgiveness, love, fairness, good fortune, loyalty, compassion and other wonderful things. Perhaps being an Earth Junkie means we’re brave and want to get as much skin in the game as we can so that we can progress at a faster rate??

      Oh, and as far as the issue about keeping the post is concerned, I channeled my guides and here’s what they said (paraphrased): Keep the post up as it is. As human beings, we need to learn how to find ways to love even the unloveable and send love to those in pain, perpetrators and victims. Stories like Avery’s evoke anger and disgust and hate, but we must learn how to find compassion and understanding and we must learn to send loving vibrations to both sides. Perpetrators and victims are, like us, a part of the whole. What affects them affects us too. If we send hate and scorn, it affects the whole and therefore every individual soul. If we send love and healing, we all benefit as an individual and as a collective. Since the information was channeled from Erik and Avery’s guides without censor, I feel like it was meant to be shared. We are being challenged once again and must learn from even those things which break our hearts.

      ):

  • Lyn

    Thank you Elisa for checking with your guides on this. Look at the discussion this post has generated. It gives all of us more to think about and hopefully learn from. As much as I struggle thinking about souls agreeing to such cruelty, it challenges what I think I know and that’s never a bad thing! Thank you again for all that you do. You are such a blessing to us all!!
    With much Love,
    Lyn

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      ;-)

  • Avery

    Hi Elisa,
    I know it’s been awhile since this was posted, but after the initial time I read it I was really overwhelmed with feelings, to the point where I couldn’t even bring myself look at the transcript again. But then, I’ve always had a way of trying to deny the things that were right in front of my face, and so I came back to face it. The parts about my Godmother are what I gravitated to first, because it’s so 100% dead on and it made me feel so positive and happy inside, just she like always did. She was and still is all of the things Kim said; she is a wonderful, beautiful soul, who is around me all the time. In her short life, she did accomplish all the things she wanted to. She was married toa wonderful man, I would go so far as to say her soulmate, and she had a beautiful daughter after years of trying and being told it was medically impossible. We still call her the “Miracle Baby” lol =) After I read this response, I began talking to her more, and just opening myself up, and it’s such a healing thing for me so THANK YOU!! I even visited her grave for the second time since she passed, and for the first time on my own, and it was ok. Actually, it was better then ok- it was peaceful and calming. I asked her to give me a sign one day in my car, while I was talking to her, to give me the Phil Collins song “Groovy Kind of Love”, because that was her and my uncles wedding song. Well, instead
    Phil Collins, “You’ll be in my heart” came one… and if you aren’t familiar with it, google the lyrics. Wow. It was awesome, and I got goosebumps. I could totally feel her presence, so THANK YOU guys for helping me open myself up to that! NOW to touch on everything else- the answers to my questions elicited much the same response from me that they seemed to everyone else. I was at first disgusted, then confused and sad. I wondered, did we make this agreement in heaven because I at one time had been the abuser, and so this was my punishment for one of my souls past lives? And how horrific for these other children, especially for his daughter… did they agree to it as well? Because I never said anything when it was happening, did other children suffer after I was free of him? *(Just to clarify though, my mom DOES know now… I told her when I was about 18, and she believed me. It’s just not something I shared with other members of my family, and probably never will because I am still ashamed and embarrassed.)* It’s just so sad to think about, it breaks my heart for any other possible victims. When Kim said that Don married my mom for access to me, I nearly passed out. When I was a child, and it was happening, he used to tell me that he wished I was older, so he could leave my mother and be with me. I’m getting chills just thinking about it. I actually drove to my old town this weekend, by myself for the first time in many years. As I drove the 4 hours, through 2 states, 3 turnpikes, 1 exit, then 45 miles down a road into my old town, I realized that I really was trapped there with him. He had convinced my mom to move us there; he convinced her we would be living in the country, a small town of rustic charm, where we could be kids and explore. What it really was, was a place away from my whole family, everyone who knew and loved and would have protected me (My godmother is actually the only one who ever suspected something was wrong. It caused a huge rift between her and my mom when she was alive, because my aunt always said she would never forgive my mom for taking us away up there. It’s like she knew deep down, because we were so close.), full of drugs and poverty. I was a lonely little girl, away from my dad (who I was SO close with), and Don preyed on my innocence and loneliness. So sad to think about, but I then I noticed the line about how people who are extra compassionate have lifetimes before of being the victim. I am one of the most compassionate, empathetic people you will ever meet. The suffering of people I barely know breaks my heart, I give rides to homeless and disabled people I see walking down the street. At any job I’ve ever had, I always volunteer for the tasks that put me in contact with those less fortunate, because I believe I’m more sensitive to their needs and can help them better then someone else could. So perhaps My Soul is now a teacher, after lifetimes of being a victim. I have to look at it in a positive way, because otherwise, there is no way I could live with myself. Thank you all for your kinds words, you have NO IDEA how much they strengthen me. As someone who has been dealing with it mostly by myself for a long time, it’s good to know this is the response it elicits from those outside the situation. We are a wonderful little family here, Elisa you have done an amazing job of creating a place where souls like myself can feel safe and sound and warm and loved. Love you and Erik!! xoxoxo

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Oh, Avery, you are so courageous. I’m in such awe. I did come away from the session feeling like you are a teacher here to teach others some very difficult lessons. And you are a healer too, because just by sharing your story you have helped bring solace to those with similar experiences and shouldering some of that burden of loneliness it often cause. I love you. We all love you. We’ll always be there for you.

  • avery

    OH and one last thing- please don’t remove the post. I was brought to you for a reason, and if my situation could possibly help someone else, that’s enough for me.

  • Jane

    All the best wishes to Avery, Elisa, Erik and Kim.
    I really must say though that the idea that we can blame or explain a child’s suffering in this life on/as a guilty soul in the past life is outrageous to me. I just can’t swallow it. And what kind of spirit would be willing to choose to be the abuser? I don’t care what lessons are learned, nothing is worth doing that to someone. Nothing justifies brutalization. Nothing.

  • lissy

    heya. i was sexually abused when i was younger by my eldest brother he is 6 years older than i. i knew what was goin on was wrong. i remember very little of what actually happened its like a big chunk of my life is missing. i never felt anything other than love for my brother. he went through a stage when he was around 15 of being very angry. he was very aggressive to the point that neither me nor my mum felt safe living under the same roof as you never knew what he would do next. i never hated him i always felt sad for him an knew that i didnt want to be anything like him. we are not at all close i don’t see him except maybe at christmas. i’m kinda sad we aren’t close though. i always dreamt of having a close family. i wonder if because of everything that happened if this is why i always feel so lonely. i always seem fairly numb and un fazed by things. i have been thinking of going to therapy but mainly for my social phobia but maybe its time to unlock my past as all the most painful memories are fairly blank some of the things i do remember are kinda like they are someone elses memories but they’re not. its kinda hard to explain but i know things happened to me although i cant recall memories of it actually happening i jus know it did i know how it started and where but i cant see it in my head its strange. as the years pass i even find myself wondering if it was me. i have always had this rather detached feeling especially when i was a kid i only now after having children seem to be coming out of it although some days i wonder if i really did give birth to them. very strange i know. i’m sorry. i just wonder if maybe my problems stem from not really dealing with anything i’ve been through. and this is the first time i’ve thought of that. i have always felt that i’m not really here. sort of hollow. things just wash over me. i don’t know why i’m here. i never had hopes or dreams for my future and now i need to face up to the fact i’m going to be around for a while i’m scared. i have no direction i’ve always just drifted.

    i love reading all the comments people make on this site. your all very bright intelligent beings. and i love the thoughts you provoke by most of your blogs.

    i hope Avery is doing much better and is able to move past all this. much love and light to her, and to you Elisa great big hugs, you have to be the most warmest and loving giving person i know. also much love and thanks to Erik and Kim :) thank you all for this brilliant blog.

    peace
    lissy

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hey, Sweet Lissy. I’m glad you found us. Certainly it’s no accident or coincident. You’re guides probably gave you a little nudge. I know exactly what you mean, wondering if you truly lived the life that is now your past. Just the fact that you never hated your brother but instead felt pity for him says to me that you’re a very evolved soul. Were you to teach him? What is your spiritual mission? Why are you here? Why did you have to go through that trauma? Here’s what I’d like you to do.
      1) Post in the forum your story (under the “Introduce Yourself” thread.
      2) Ask questions (including the ones I listed above) under “Channeling Erik Family Channelers” and see if they can help.
      3) Book an appointment with Jeannie Barnes. She can channel your main guardian angel who’s been with you from birth and get down to the nitty gritty. Her prices are very reasonable too.
      4) Know that you’re now a part of a family that loves you and has your back. We’ll do what we can to help you.

  • lissy

    Hi :) thank you so much for replying. them questions are great and i’ll be sure to do as you said. i did post in the introduce yourself thread awhile ago but i didn’t really say everything. and i kept meaning to reply back to your comment on that thread. you mentioned about past life regression. i have thought about that and looked into it quite a bit. i had issues before the stuff with my brother happened. after that things kinda got a bit worse. i was always very shy and quiet and after this i sort of went further with in myself but i was also being bullied a lot at school. i find it really hard to talk to people face to face and i’m even worse on the phone. and when i type it tends to be scattered as my brain comes up with other points and i often loose thread of what i’m saying, like now.

    thank you for your reply and kind kind words. i’m amazed at the amount of love and kindness on this site. thank you again.

    peace
    lissy:)

    • http://drmedhus.com Elisa

      Hey Lissy. Why don’t you email me and I’ll give you my home and cell numbers. I’d like you to keep them loaded in your phone. We can practice talking together to help you get comfortable.

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