This next question comes from a young grandmother bereaved over the loss of her infant grandson from a tragic accident. This time, Erik uncharacteristically took a back seat to allow the guardian angels for Brady and various family members to take center stage. I suppose this was because there were so many involved!
Me: Erik, I have a request from Kelli, a grandmother in her late forties from Austin, Texas who recently lost her three and a half month-old grandson, Brady. He was rolled over on by the mom’s best friend who was babysitting while the young parents went to their high school prom. Anyway, he suffocated. This has been very difficult for everyone, including Kelli, of course.
Kim: So the parents were very young, obviously, since they were going to the prom.
Me: Yes. C. and A. I’m guessing they’re around 18, 19. Was this Brady’s destiny?
Kim: Let’s take a look see here. Yes, yes indeed. It was the destiny for all of them. Brady is going to come back to his mother in another pregnancy, and she’s going to have 2 to 3 more children, and he’s going to be a little girl. He’s going to come back to her.
Me: What was the purpose of his death?
Kim: For all of those involved to learn about the issue of loss. We learn about that issue in many difficult ways. You certainly know about the issue of loss.
Me: Mm hmm.
Kim: And there have been several of those going on for you, when you had your miscarriage when you were like 5-6 months pregnant, with what happened to Erik, your younger sister, Denise.
Kim: And so loss can take the form of losing our vision, our hearing, loss of an arm, loss of a job…
Me: Oh, yeah, there are many types of loss.
Kim: Exactly. So this was to help everyone connected to Brady to learn about the issue of loss. This even affected his pediatrician!
Kim: This affected, you know, not only the family members and the friend who took care of him, but others as well. His passing touched many, many people to the core of their being.
Me: Wow, yeah. (pause) Now why did he choose C. and A. as parents?
Kim: They’ve all been together before; they’re all soulmates. And I’m hearing that he knew that up until this happened he was going to be well cared for and loved. Also, it was part of the parents’ destiny to go through this at such a young age to prepare them for what they’re going to do, and the mother is going to have a life’s work, Brady’s mother, that involves helping people get through very difficult traumas. It’s going to redirect her life in a way that could never have happened…
Me: …if she had not gone through this loss.
Kim: Precisely. Her destiny is to go to medical school, become a psychiatrist, and help others go through the trauma of loss.
Me: Okay. So does it end up better in the long run for Brady; is that what we’re saying here?
Kim: It’s always considered better in the long run, whatever happens on the earthly plane. Nothing happens by coincidence. Everything happens for a reason, a purpose. Everything that happens is supposed to, is geared toward those involved evolving and maturing and becoming more wise, enlightened human beings.
Me: Yeah. Yeah. Now Kelli also wants to know how she can help her daughter cope with everything.
Kim: The key is to get her into therapy to help her with feelings of guilt. She feels guilty about being surprised about the pregnancy and then trying to figure out what to do about it, guilt of feeling overwhelmed having the baby. She could have been thirty years old overwhelmed having the baby.
Me: Yeah, sure!
Kim: She feels a lot of guilt about all of the feelings connected with Brady: the pregnancy, his birth, her life thereafter, how restrictive her life became. Then she feels terrible guilt leaving him with that individual whom she completely trusted! She would never have left him with anyone who she had any misgivings about at all. And C. is an intelligent woman. This was not a decision borne out of convenience. So she’s got a lot of guilt issues to work through. And so she needs to know that Brady chose her as a mother, understanding that this was going to be his destiny. He’s doing just fine in Heaven and is waiting for the time when he’ll come back to her. But C. is going to be in her twenties. She’ll be, oh, 27, 28, 29 when Brady comes back as a little girl. She needs to know that Brady is not upset with her. He did not go through any kind of pain or discomfort when he passed.
Me: Does he have any messages for the grand mom, the mom or anybody?
Kim: First of all, although suffocation is known to be most unpleasant and traumatic, he did not experience any of that; his soulpopped out of the body, and he just watched what was taking place. So he had no pain, no suffering when he passed. He also wants them to know that he loves them, that he’s going to remain around them in spirit until he comes back in the physical, and that’s going to be in about another ten years. In that time, C. is of course going to go to college, go to medical school, conduct her internship, so she’s got a lot to do on behalf of others, and that’s when Brady is going to come back to her. She’s going to have 2 to 3 children. She will not remain with this husband. She’s going to get married to someone else.
Kim: C. is going to have a very happy, contented, peaceful life knowing that she’s going to be making a big difference in the lives of others.
Me: Good. I’m not sure if they’re married, anyway.
Kim: Whether they’re married or not, the guardian angels consider them married until they break up.
Me: Oh, okay! One more thing: since Brady’s death, Kelli has had a lot of anxiety about some surgery she’s supposed to get. She’s wondering if her guardian angels are warning her not to do it. And I don’t know what kind of surgery it is.
Kim: I’m hearing it would be a good idea for her to put the surgery off. She is absolutely correct as to her interpretation of the information she’s receiving. That’s all I’m hearing. If you get information about what kind of surgery it is…
Me: Then you can get more information?
Kim: If I can stop you there, let me talk to her guardian angels a moment. “You guys, since you know all about the surgery, can’t you give us more information without,” and they’re shaking their heads “no,” and I’m asking why is that. (pause) Because that’s all the information she wanted.
Kim: They’re letting me know that I’m wasting time.
Kim and I chuckle.
Talk about pushy guardian angels. Come on, chop, chop! Erik must have been giving stage directions.
The loss of a baby is always difficult, perhaps because they’ve exuded nothing but innocence and love. But I’m told that such deaths are usually a supreme sacrifice by a highly evolved soul. On Brady’s return, the family will surely be blessed with decades of joy.
While I was on Lake Travis with the family a few weekends ago, two dragonflies hung out with me on the swim platform of the boat. One was and adult and the other was a baby. I’ve never seen this combination before. In fact, I’ve never seen a juvenile dragonfly in my entire life. Later that day, Kelli shared with me that Brady often visits in the form of a small dragonfly. I figured Erik was playing with Brady and introducing him to our family.
Just a few days ago, one of my sisters called to tell me two dragonflies were hanging out with her for several minutes while she was sitting on her back porch: one was and adult, the other was a baby. She’s very intuitive to Erik’s presence and knew he was the adult dragonfly, but she didn’t know who the little one was, so she asked; “Erik, who’s your little friend?” She clearly heard his voice say, “Brady.” This may not seem strange to most, but I’ll tell you why it is: My sister knew nothing about Kelli and Brady’s story. How ’bout that!